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I dated this girl for 7 months, we are 21 and both in college. In the end we broke up because I was unaffectionate and wasn't a great boyfriend. We had broken up before three times, but those break ups lasted less than a day. I tried to talking to her, but she was furious and didn't want to talk to me at all. So I went about 3 weeks minimum or no contact.

 

At the end of the three week period I realized that she meant so much to me and I would commit to changing went after her again and chased her sending her flowers everyday for about 4 days. In the end she told me to stop it because she was seeing somebody else and I ended up breaking down in out meeting. Turns out this guy she was seeing was long distance (three hour airplane trip), he must have chatted her up on facebook or skype when I was gone and took advantage of her being recently broken up. It's a long distance rebound relationship.

 

I was devastated and went no contact for a week. Then I started texting her again and we started semi talking. She said she wanted to be my friend and I had no interest in it. But I gave in hung out with another friend and it was so awkward. But she kept texting me, and the other day we hung out just the the two of us and we had a blast. I made sure to do all the things I never did for her such as compliment her, hold door opens, being sensitive etc. There was lots of sexual tension, flirting and touching and playing around with eachother, but I didn't escalate it into something romantic, but we shared a very long hug. She admitted she misses me and loves me as a person.

 

I've been texting her roommate (who I know wants us back together) said she told her she still kind of likes me and has still has feelings for me. So for the past couple of days, I've been aloof and declined her invitations to hang out to try and get her to miss me and think about me. Her roommate tells me she gets angry when I don't respond to calls/text and decline to hang out. I finally tell her my feelings that I still love her and have changed etc. She said she's with somebody and I had 7 months to change. But she then texts to me she wants to be best friends with me and hang out with me all the time, I ignore her everytime she says we can be best friends. So essentially I'm stuck in friend zone. And on top of it the guy is coming to spend the weekend with her. :( I don't know what to do. I'm thinking staying friends with her for the time being and hanging out once a week and doing everything to show I changed and then basically ignoring her the rest of week until the long distance rebound ends (and I pray it ends quickly). And spending this much time with an ex would strain her current relationship. I know she still has feelings for me. I don't know what to do. If aloof friend zone doesn't work, would sending her a letter explaining how I can't be her friend and then no contact afterwards be best? I really love this girl and want to be with her and would do anything to get her back. It's been about a month and a half since we broke up.

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