Necris Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 I heard women like a guy with a sense of humor, but I was wondering should a funny guy be naturally better with women? I'm told I'm funny by friends and people that know me, but personally it doesn't really help me in the dating arena. Though it could be that I'm not funny enough being funny is a hit or miss kind of thing I can talk to friends and they'll think I'm funny but when I cold-approach a girl I may just come off as that weird guy or I tell a joke and she looks at me with that blank "why are you still here" look, and if she does laugh it isn't going anywhere.
2sure Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 For me, a man being funny has always been required. But it's not something I would appreciate on the first meeting. Initially I would like...clever? And then to find out he is funny later, that works. Humor is the kind of thing that is attractive among two people, not in a crowd. Get it?
NGC1300 Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 Yeah, that gets irritating with the OLD profiles, especially when it's some type of "requirement". Go to a damn circus if you want to laugh so bad, my gosh.
carhill Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 IME, if she likes you, there's little you can do wrong. Being funny could certainly augment the like if it's there. I personally haven't seen a correlation between a woman engaging in humorous banter with me, laughing at my jokes and wanting to jump my bones or have a relationship. In fact, some of the ones who *seemed* the most taken turned out to be the most toxic. One perspective. 1
NGC1300 Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 In fact, some of the ones who *seemed* the most taken turned out to be the most toxic. One perspective. Tell me about it. Learned the hard way. 1
phineas Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 I think it works for some people to generate attraction. I know being funny hasn't hurt me when it came to women. Unless they didn't like me. Then that somehow made me less funny. Whether they were attracted to me upon site or after I cracked them up is really unknown to me though.
Nik1 Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 It really helps, but only to a certain extent. For example, being tall, having a nice smile, and owning an expensive car. Women find that **** hilarious for some reason. 3
GravityMan Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 "Sense of humor" does not necessarily mean being a comedian or having 5,000 jokes on speed dial. IMO, if you two really like each other and are having fun in each other's company, then the humor tends to come quite easily and naturally. If there is good chemistry and compatibility between the guy and woman, then many things are likely to fall into place on their own and take care of themselves. 2
2sure Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 Yeah, that gets irritating with the OLD profiles, especially when it's some type of "requirement". Go to a damn circus if you want to laugh so bad, my gosh. See? Completely missed my point. Nobody wants a clown, it's the intimate humor shared as your getting to know someone that creates a connection. 1
sweetjasmine Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 See? Completely missed my point. Nobody wants a clown, it's the intimate humor shared as your getting to know someone that creates a connection. Exactly. It's not about knock-knock jokes. It's about sharing a certain sense of humor, trading banter back and forth, and actually having fun conversations with laughter. This may come as a complete shock to some people, but most folks like to have fun. 2
MrCastle Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 Like many other qualities, it only works if the woman is already attracted to you. A lot of men don't get it. Yeah, you can be funny, but is she physically attracted to you? Do you dress well? Are you confident? Etc etc. It's a plus but you can't make a romantic career out of just being funny with no other positive traits.
2sure Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 I love when a man next to me flirts with me by saying funny things to me that no one else can hear, like at a meeting or a dinner. It makes him more attractive to me. It gets my interest. It must work too, because it isn't unusual for men to do this. ....If I didn't get his humor, I suppose he does run the risk of being called that mumbling freak from the meeting.
musemaj11 Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 Having sense of humor isnt the same as being funny. In fact, being a funny guy has a high risk of sucking you into the 'friendzone'. What works better is having swagger. Besides, if a woman is already attracted to you, everything you say is hilarious to her anyway.
Taramere Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 (edited) If funny means telling a stream of jokes and punchline delivery, then...no. I get rapidly irritated by that. I've often felt that people who do that lack any real, original sense of humour and compensate with borrowed/stolen humour. However having an original, insightful sense of humour that helps to demonstrate insights (about oneself, other people and life in general), cope with stress and take the heat out of potential conflicts is very important. I can handle somebody losing their sense of humour about some things as a means of establishing their boundaries...but if they can't show a sense of humour about anything that relates to their own personal hurts and humiliations, then it'll make me wonder how they cope with difficulties and stress, how they resolve conflicts and how they have fun. Lack of a sense of humour would be an absolute dealbreaker for me. I associate it with hostility, problems in connecting with others and with the kind of negativity and conflicts that nobody involved cares to resolve. Edited November 16, 2012 by Taramere
Author Necris Posted November 16, 2012 Author Posted November 16, 2012 Like many other qualities, it only works if the woman is already attracted to you. A lot of men don't get it. Yeah, you can be funny, but is she physically attracted to you? Do you dress well? Are you confident? Etc etc. It's a plus but you can't make a romantic career out of just being funny with no other positive traits. This is probably my problem, I have never experienced a woman feeling sexually attracted to me, except for this one girl that seemed to like me way back when I was 14, but I was even more clueless then than I am now. As for the humor I use, I don't have a routine or anything like that just random funny stuff kind of just bubbles out of my brain.
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