shorty1963 Posted August 5, 2004 Posted August 5, 2004 I am in a situation at my job that has been wondering whats going on in this picture ! Well i have been at my job for about 5 years now, and i am 41 years old (single too). Well this guy had started working there back in the winter on this year. We have become frinds and co-workers, well here lately he has been very friendly and the other day at work i was talking to him and he went to hold my hand and held it for a while. Well that shocked me alot. Then yesterday we were in the breakroom and all of a sudden he walks past me from behind and rubs against me and touched my butt with his hand and said oh i am sorry i didn't see you there. Yeah right !! Well at the end of the day i seen him again and told him he needs to be careful doing such things, people will start talking. Then he said that he does not give a damn what people think, he is a 53 year old seperated man. Well i told him that i was flattered of what he did and that i liked it. The thing about all this is that he has not asked me on a date or even a phone number .. Whats going on ?? i know he has a thing for me but why hasen't he done more ?? Thanks
cinnamonstix49 Posted August 6, 2004 Posted August 6, 2004 It definitely sounds like he likes you! Well... if the man is "separated", I assume you mean that he is still married. Is he going through a divorce, or are they just separated? Maybe he doesn't want his relationship with you to make his divorce or separation harder. Or maybe he's just been hurt and doesn't know if you return the same feelings for him and he is afraid you will reject him and he will be hurt again. If you have feelings for him and he has feelings for you, maybe you should make the first move, ask him out for lunch or something!! Best wishes!
shorty1963 Posted August 6, 2004 Posted August 6, 2004 He is now going on divorce.He has been seperated fpr a while. His wife is really taking him to the cleaners..Should i just keep smiling and flirting with him or just let him go. I do have the feeling that he likes me or interersted in me.I am just trying to be careful.
Dork Posted August 7, 2004 Posted August 7, 2004 Keep smiling/flirting. That's gross, a 53 year old dude with a 41 year old woman. Find someone closer to your age!
shorty1963 Posted August 7, 2004 Posted August 7, 2004 That is not gross at all !! Age does not matter to me either !! I am attracted to older men because they are not childish like the 30 year old men.Thank you for your comment and have a great night !
shorty1963 Posted August 7, 2004 Posted August 7, 2004 What do you think of his actions towards me ??
joseph Posted August 8, 2004 Posted August 8, 2004 Gross?!! whata dorkish comment, LOL! Anyways, he's obviously into you; and there's no written rule that says you can't make the first move here. I think there's nothing wrong with him having someone while he goes through his divorce. I see nothing in the way here, go for it!
Goldmund2004 Posted August 9, 2004 Posted August 9, 2004 he's going through a divorce. you are the rebound woman. there will be others. he is emotionally destroyed right now if not financially and spiritually. stay away from him and do the both of you a favor. wait a year after the divorce is over or at least until he's been separated for a year then approach him again, that is, if you really like him. if you are just looking for some nooky then by all means sleep with him because he probably could use a little himself.
joseph Posted August 9, 2004 Posted August 9, 2004 I suppose if its a fresh divorce, that's not bad advice...but some people stay separated for years and then finally decide to get a divorce. Find out if he's been separated for a while now, if this is the case, he shouldnt be emotionally destroyed.
shorty1963 Posted August 9, 2004 Posted August 9, 2004 He has been seperated for 2 years now. In a way i want to leave him alone, but then on the other hand i am attracted to him, like bees are attracted to honey !!
joseph Posted August 9, 2004 Posted August 9, 2004 After two years I think he'd be eager to move on with his life, especially at his age. I honestly wouldnt worry about being a rebound. Just go for it
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