Co-parenting classes

[GuyInLimbo]

I'm still in my planning stages, but trying to get all bases covered. Can anyone here give me the low down on co-parenting? It's something I want to be very proactive about as my kids are the love of my life. What's the process? How long do you do it for? Is it a once/mo. meeting for you and the ex with a counselor?

[BetrayedH]

Not sure if my reply will help you but want to at least give you some kind of reply since you aren't getting any responses.

 

Your divorce must be more amicable than mine was. I took a four-hour on-line course required from the state. Otherwise, my ex and I almost exclusively communicate by email or text. We only speak or have face-to-face interaction at parent/teacher conferences. It's certainly not that I don't love my kids or prioritize them but my ex and I need to detach and when the kids are with me, I am parenting on my own.

[GuyInLimbo]

I don't have a crystal ball, but I'm going to hold my breath that it will be amicable. I know there will be a major meltdown initially, but hoping we can come together when it comes to the kids. I don't hate my wife. I just don't like her and want us to have happy, but separate lives.

[BetrayedH]

I have heard of some divorcing spouses going to joint counseling to give them a safe environment to discuss co-parenting issues. Not sure about efficacy.

 

I guess my fear is that it could create false hope about the potential for reconciling and could delay her healing if she's not as onboard with the divorce as you are. I get the impression that she doesn't yet know your intention to divorce. If that's the case, I think your goal of doing anything together amicably is a lofty one for the time being. Maybe others will have better success stories.

[GuyInLimbo]

Point taken (and you're right) in paragraph 2.

 

I was always under the impression the co-parenting was actually the parents getting together with a counselor once a month. Sounds like there are different avenues.