mscupcake Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 i cant help but wish we were still together..i hate feeling stuck in the middle..wanting to move on but holding on..holding on to something that i know is not there anymore..wishing that he was still with me again..i hate feeling this way..i wish i knew what to do get over him..its been too long feeling this way.. i know it takes time to get over a person but i really cant deal with feeling soo hurt again..anyone knows what should i do to stop feeling this way?
LostOne1 Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 i cant help but wish we were still together..i hate feeling stuck in the middle..wanting to move on but holding on..holding on to something that i know is not there anymore..wishing that he was still with me again..i hate feeling this way..i wish i knew what to do get over him..its been too long feeling this way.. i know it takes time to get over a person but i really cant deal with feeling soo hurt again..anyone knows what should i do to stop feeling this way? Best to slowly accept it and do other things you used to do before you met your ex. GO OUT a lot and have with friends, get out of the house. Watch LOTS of movies mostly funny ones and relax on the couch. It takes time.. for me to end it I basically did something harsh. I returned all stuff my ex gave me. I did it to show I wanted to move on and I felt giving stuff she gave me back to her was a way to get rid of her. She texted me later and said her parents saw all the stuff and well she hated me and that she ripped all the cards, letters etc.. I ever gave her and she dumped everything I sent back in the garbage. That way enough for me to move on. Sure I miss her at times, but now I know she will hate me for life and I have no chance at all to see us back together. It hurts.. but I guess that's how it is...
th90 Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 Hi, I'm actually going through the same thing right now and i know how horrible this feeling is. Then today i saw a photo of him tagged on facebook. he was smiling happily and it hurt like hell knowing that he is actually doing so well though i always always wish him happiness. after one last good cry, i decided that it's no point in having hope anymore. if we were meant to be, someday we will cross path again. right now, the most important thing is ourselves. we need to let go, heal and move on. and no, there is no alternative option. And believe that everything happens for a reason. i took a whole lot of effort to gain some peace of mind and to stop the turbulence in my heart. It's hard but with determination, it's possible to move on. and that's what i want to do now because i'm done crying and hurting for someone who has gotten over me for all i know. i also believe that he may come back for me one day(u know when he's done exploring), but till then i'm gonna move on. in fact, many people said when that day does come, u may not even want him back anymore. have faith in yourself. 1
curiouslyhuman Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 There is no easy way to heal from a hard breakup. Your brain just has to create new memories without your past significant other and relearn how to be joyful without said person. Its a little like drug addiction, only the drug is a human with feelings emotions and possibilities. So when you decide to quit the habit of any narcotic which makes you feel good, your body reacts and causes you mental and sometimes physical pain. But whats hard with a breakup is that its ongoing. Even if you make the decision to stop, drugs dont come knocking back on your door telling you A-B-C and convince you to come back. Thats a true test of will. The chance of getting back with your ex always lingers, but deep down inside, you know it didnt work for a reason, its just hard to keep that in focus. As the poster above me mentioned. Going out, doing things you enjoy, even if you arnt enjoying them fully at the moment, is giving yourself the best chance at a quick recovery. Stay away from all pictures, facebook, texting, inquires about said ex for a long time, and im talking LONG. Try and make them distant memories until you can face those emotions without fear of losing control of who you are. You can do it. Focus on yourself as long as possible and dont look back for now. Think later... and later will one day come.
KNJ Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 I no longer have the hope of us getting back together. Now I am left with the broken heart, and I am not even sure how to mend it. I was 'faked healed' for a while when I had the thought of getting back together in the back of mind. Now I have no hopes, JUST BROKEN HEARTED. I read somewhere that during the healing process or recovery you will experience 1) denial 2) acceptance 3) anger and then I forgot about the rest of the points. I guess that for the last two weeks since he broke up with me, I was in denial. I thought that by me leaving him, even moving COUNTRY would make him realise how much he loves me (except he told me that he doesn't love me). I guess I am at the acceptance stage, and sometimes I even find myself getting slightly angry with him. Angry for saying he loves me and would marry me and he knew in his heart he would always love me. BS! I am angry with him for making me go through this pain and back and forth doubts/acceptance/hopes/acceptance. I spoke to him on the phone today, as we still have to sort out practical issues with the flat. I could tell by his voice that he had come to terms with the whole break up. That for me did it! It told me that he had accepted it and moved on. I have always been a great believer of 50/50. I don't want to bee 100% into this relationship, i.e. have his 50 as well. Tonight I really do not have the strengths to use the tools to help me move on. I just want to lie in bed and feel sorry for myself as nobody else is going to. I want to wake up tomorrow and be out of this misery and carry on with my life that God has given me. I don't want to waste more time, tears or brain cells on thinking coulda shoulda woulda before the break up, the post break up thought of 'will he be back' and reading tons of threads, advice, blogs on how to win back your ex or how to get over him. DONE
domple Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 I wrote a whole page of advice but i deleted it. Do what feels right for you. If staying in bed is what you want... Then do it. Just don't do it for too long Also... Keep Being awesome!!! 1
flitzanu Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 i cant help but wish we were still together..i hate feeling stuck in the middle..wanting to move on but holding on..holding on to something that i know is not there anymore..wishing that he was still with me again..i hate feeling this way..i wish i knew what to do get over him..its been too long feeling this way.. i know it takes time to get over a person but i really cant deal with feeling soo hurt again..anyone knows what should i do to stop feeling this way? keep living. that's how you stop feeling that way. no magical cures, no overnight miracles. you just have to keep going.
KNJ Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 I am sure your advice would have been most useful! I think however, my addiction to LS is starting to worry me :/
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