amaysngrace Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 So you get with her and everything is great for a while but then things go bad because she's mentally unstable. You want to break up or at least take a break but you can't because she's threatening to kill herself. Then what? We have an expression in my family: "no piece of ass is worth crazy" 2
Bristolius Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 DO NOT DO IT!! My brother dated an Armenian for a while. Big mistake. She caused extreme difficulty for him. When an Armenian gets into your family there is no end of problems. It's not worth it. I now know all about Armenians because of this one woman. Believe me they're all the same. DON'T DO IT! Edited to add: Sorry, wrong thread. 1
AlexDP Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 DO NOT DO IT!! My brother dated an Armenian for a while. Big mistake. She caused extreme difficulty for him. When an Armenian gets into your family there is no end of problems. It's not worth it. I now know all about Armenians because of this one woman. Believe me they're all the same. DON'T DO IT! Edited to add: Sorry, wrong thread. They are not. A friend of mine is married to an Armenian girl (who is also a friend of mine). They are happy, she is becoming a lawyer and he has a steady job. They have no problems whatsoever.
Emilia Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 They are not. A friend of mine is married to an Armenian girl (who is also a friend of mine). They are happy, she is becoming a lawyer and he has a steady job. They have no problems whatsoever. Maybe Bristolius's brother dated one of the Kardashian sisters
AlexDP Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 Maybe Bristolius's brother dated one of the Kardashian sisters Ugh, I feel physically sick just reading their name. 1
Bristolius Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 Sorry about the typos in my post. What I meant to write was: DO NOT DO IT!! My brother dated a lunatic for a while. Big mistake. She caused extreme difficulty for him. When a wacko gets into your family there is no end of problems. It's not worth it. I now know all about crazy nuts because of this one woman. Believe me they're all the same. DON'T DO IT!
Taramere Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 DO NOT DO IT!! My brother dated an Armenian for a while. Big mistake. She caused extreme difficulty for him. When an Armenian gets into your family there is no end of problems. It's not worth it. I now know all about Armenians because of this one woman. Believe me they're all the same. I had the exact same problem that your brother had, only with a man from Dunfermline. They're all exactly the same as all Armenians, except a bit pastier looking. Once that type gets a foot in the door, it's over. 1
Author justgowt Posted November 15, 2012 Author Posted November 15, 2012 She showed me a video of herself wearing this short dress and showing so much skin and i just wanted to pounce her and kiss her all over and make her beg for it... i'm sorry, a lot of the advice here in this thread might be sound. things might not work out and she might threaten to harm herself. I am not properly equipped to handle this relationship because i'm incredibly emotionally broken myself. but i want to have sex with her so bad. i can't stop myself from going through with this.
Emilia Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 but i want to have sex with her so bad. i can't stop myself from going through with this. I know, been there. Guess you'll have to find out the hard way
Taramere Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 She showed me a video of herself wearing this short dress and showing so much skin and i just wanted to pounce her and kiss her all over and make her beg for it... i'm sorry, a lot of the advice here in this thread might be sound. things might not work out and she might threaten to harm herself. I am not properly equipped to handle this relationship because i'm incredibly emotionally broken myself. but i want to have sex with her so bad. i can't stop myself from going through with this. I've a friend who does something similar to this. She gets into these self destructive situations, and tells other people beforehand that she's going to get into them. It's kind of like she wants people to try to put boundaries on her behaviour so that she can smash against those boundaries and then do what she fully intended to do anyway. Other people's attempts to impose boundaries just make it that bit more fun, until it goes tits up. There's not really anything I or her other friends can do, beyond making token attempts to impose those boundaries...to make it more fun for her.
dasein Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 but i want to have sex with her so bad. i can't stop myself from going through with this. There are other normal women who will have sex with you. You are like a fish looking at a hook with a worm on it. Don't bite.
veggirl Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 You love her? The girl that you have met ONCE? Just remember, all the sexy texts / convos / videos you are getting...wouldn't be surprised if 5 other guys are getting the same thing. A girl like her requires the validation, I would bet she's getting it from many other dudes too. Probably local ones who can actually be there physically too. Just FYI.
pteromom Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 there's no girl i know that likes me so intensely like she does, it's crazy. that's a very big pro to me, how can that be a bad thing? Because it's only half the picture. If she is dealing with BPD, which is a very real possibility with what you've described, when you are painted white, it's the best thing in the world - intense, exciting, and extremely mind-blowing. Then you'll do something little that will flip a switch, and you'll be painted black. All of a sudden, she will hate you, will say mean things to you, and will be incredibly cold. Then, when you say, eff this, I am outta here, she will cling and cry and threaten suicide. When you give her another chance, she will find another guy to give her attention to. She'll either leave or drive you crazy with her budding relationship with the other guy. The only way it is worth it (for you - although it would hurt her) is if you go have sex with her, then immediately block her from your phone, Facebook, etc. Get the sex and run away. You cannot fix her. The only thing that may be able to fix her is intensive therapy. This isn't a "well, none of us are perfect" issue. This is a lifelong drama with no logic. RUN AWAY.
pteromom Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 I just read the rest of the thread. My prediction: You will have sex with her. It will be absolutely amazing. You will instantly be head over heels in love with her. And it will seem that she feels the same way. You will experience a type of deep intimacy and knowing each other that you have never known. She will be very sexually open and giving. Then one day, as you are basking in the glow of your new-found love, she will say something that doesn't make sense to you. Something about not trusting your intentions or you liking another girl or being sad because she doesn't deserve this kind of happiness. And you will be all "Huh? I thought things were perfect." You'll try to talk her back up, but it won't work. A non-sensical argument will ensue, and you'll be hurt and confused. If you continue in a relationship with her, there will be no stability. You will be walking on eggshells trying not to say or do anything that will set her off. Trying to do what you can to keep her happy. But nothing you do will work. It will be a roller coaster of extreme highs and extreme lows, punctuated by confusion and hopelessness. If you wanna sign up for that, I don't know what to tell you.
Author justgowt Posted November 15, 2012 Author Posted November 15, 2012 she's going through therapy and taking medications. she has shown a willingness to improve and change her life. she's not bat**** crazy. she really wants to make me happy, so even though she doesn't want to have sex with me early because she's scared i'll use her and leave her, she says she will still do it anyway if that's what it takes to get me to stay with her. when she says something that clearly upsets me, and that happens sometimes, she realizes it and begins to apologize profusely and her entire personality becomes submissive, and i feel like if she was with me in person i could probably ask for sexual favors and she would give it to me. Not that i would do that, but thats how much she loves me and i really like that. I don't really believe things will turn out as bad as some of you say. i really want this to work out...
pteromom Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 Well... good luck then. I understand you WANT it to work out. I hope it does.
Author justgowt Posted November 16, 2012 Author Posted November 16, 2012 meh i'm having second thoughts, she keeps asking over text why i like her and to give reasons over and over again and it's becoming a turn off. maybe i'll be turned on if we meet and we have sex.
dasein Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 Once you start having sex and getting closer is when the real fun starts. 30 texts 7 days a week seeking constant affirmation and reassurance, declarations of undying love, then anger and cheating because you can't fill a bottomless pit with no walls. Anyway, you have been warned and lectured enough, good luck whatever you decide. 2
mortensorchid Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 This gal was damaged before you came into the picture, remember that. Her suicide attempts have nothing to do with you. I would move on before you go any further and you'll be happier. Selfish? Yes, it is, but I also realize that drama is often times created when there isn't reason for it to be there. Move on.
AlexDP Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 I just read the rest of the thread. My prediction: You will have sex with her. It will be absolutely amazing. You will instantly be head over heels in love with her. And it will seem that she feels the same way. You will experience a type of deep intimacy and knowing each other that you have never known. She will be very sexually open and giving. Then one day, as you are basking in the glow of your new-found love, she will say something that doesn't make sense to you. Something about not trusting your intentions or you liking another girl or being sad because she doesn't deserve this kind of happiness. And you will be all "Huh? I thought things were perfect." You'll try to talk her back up, but it won't work. A non-sensical argument will ensue, and you'll be hurt and confused. If you continue in a relationship with her, there will be no stability. You will be walking on eggshells trying not to say or do anything that will set her off. Trying to do what you can to keep her happy. But nothing you do will work. It will be a roller coaster of extreme highs and extreme lows, punctuated by confusion and hopelessness. If you wanna sign up for that, I don't know what to tell you. The sheer unavoidability makes me chuckle. Everyone here knows this is what will happen.
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