Dazed_Confused1989 Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 Two months into the BU, I feel...alright. NC has been great and so has keeping busy and being surrounded by family. However, I am terrified of my ex. Even though I can feel my feelings going, and my anger kicking in, I'm still terrified even to check her Facebook for instance. Is this normal? I realize she is a source of pain right now. Has anyone else experienced these feelings?
LostOne1 Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 Terrified why is that? because you might see her with another guy or see she's happy? If so, then don't be terrified. In fact you should block her social networking sites. That way you have no need to be terrified at all. I wouldn't say I was terrified, I was more scared at first thinking she would have some other guy posting on her FB wall. I did see something, not sure what it meant but her with a guy at starbucks hanging out. Could be a friendly thing too, but who knows. It did scare me, but I'm glad she blocked me on FB. Now I just don't care.
Chi townD Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 Yep! I believe that this is absolutely normal. You're on the roller coaster of emotions. You've stated that you're content with your life, then going to anger and now fear, and maybe peroids of indiference. Sometimes, thinking back to only the good times that you had; followed up with sadness and confusion next........this is all normal and, given time, it will level out and pass.
curiouslyhuman Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 Yep! I believe that this is absolutely normal. You're on the roller coaster of emotions. You've stated that you're content with your life, then going to anger and now fear, and maybe peroids of indiference. Sometimes, thinking back to only the good times that you had; followed up with sadness and confusion next........this is all normal and, given time, it will level out and pass. I totally agree with this. She represents loss of control. and thats why you fear her. Once your emotions are back in your hands, it will subside.
Author Dazed_Confused1989 Posted November 17, 2012 Author Posted November 17, 2012 I don't "feel" much towards her right now, even though it's only been a few months. But even if I see the small icon of her Facebook profile (without clicking on it), for example, I get this sick feeling...I feel emotionally scarred...should I delete her? What are the politics around that - if I may (emphasis) want to leave the door open to friendship?
Hopeful714 Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 Oh yea this is totally normal. Im terrified of seeing him somewhere or even on the road for that matter. Its crazy. It almost seems as I avoid going places or doing errands on the weekend. I feel like if I saw him he'd see right through to all my pain and my loss of esteem the break up caused me. I'd feel so ashamed he saw all of my emotions good and bad although I have absolutely no reason to be. On a positive note, I did go out last night for the FIRST TIME since the BU. And its been a quite a while! It felt weird, but I felt pretty and for the first time I felt like I may be ok and that he lost out. A glimmer of myself was back. I noticed several guys looking at me. Still rough though knowing I face the singles scene again. I'd prefer not to.
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