This guy just threw me for a loop..can't figure it out

[JuneBug79]

I would like to clear up something, yeah, my dream may have come across that way, but I am not a jealous person... which is probably why I put no thought into sharing it. I actually thought it was funny... :/ I thought women read into stuff too much.

 

Thank you Katzee for the input... I've decided to stay off POF, as I guess I was completely ignorant of it. Live and learn. I had a friend that met a guy she dated on there while she was single so it seemed legit enough.

 

He's been single for about 4 years. while we were talking one night I found that he hasnt' dated anyone for more then a month or so since he was married. That should have been a red flag for me.

 

I don't think he is a jerk or a scumbag, but I do find the quietness pretty rude. Especcially when he was so ready to text before. It's ok if he's decided that he's not interested, but considering the amount of intimacy, I'd really prefer him saying that he's not interested. If you leave a woman in the dark like that she's gong to assume that shes on the backburner to be a booty call, which I set myself up for, but have no desire to be.

 

I'm moving on and I'm ok with it. I have a really good male friend from out of town that I talk to everyday that is going to be in town next week with his family for Thanksgiving. We can't be together (though honestly, he's my best male friend and I wouldn't be opposed and neither would he) because he lives like 350 miles away but honestly, this is really good timing to see him and help myself feel better about getting blown off. He's one of those people who no matter what you say is always there for you. (I had a dream one time that he was swept off a beach by a tsunami and eaten by a shark... I wonder what that means since sharing dreams is not a good idea! LMAO!!! he thought it was funny and told me not to worry, he's a good swimmer and would punch the shark in the head )

 

Thank you all for your input. I will keep a lot of this in mind as I move on and see what else is out there.

Edited November 16, 2012 by JuneBug79

[jcrew11]

I would like to clear up something, yeah, my dream may have come across that way, but I am not a jealous person... which is probably why I put no thought into sharing it. I actually thought it was funny... :/ I thought women read into stuff too much.

 

Thank you Katzee for the input... I've decided to stay off POF, as I guess I was completely ignorant of it. Live and learn. I had a friend that met a guy she dated on there while she was single so it seemed legit enough.

 

He's been single for about 4 years. while we were talking one night I found that he hasnt' dated anyone for more then a month or so since he was married. That should have been a red flag for me.

 

I don't think he is a jerk or a scumbag, but I do find the quietness pretty rude. Especcially when he was so ready to text before. It's ok if he's decided that he's not interested, but considering the amount of intimacy, I'd really prefer him saying that he's not interested. If you leave a woman in the dark like that she's gong to assume that shes on the backburner to be a booty call, which I set myself up for, but have no desire to be.

 

I'm moving on and I'm ok with it. I have a really good male friend from out of town that I talk to everyday that is going to be in town next week with his family for Thanksgiving. We can't be together (though honestly, he's my best male friend and I wouldn't be opposed and neither would he) because he lives like 350 miles away but honestly, this is really good timing to see him and help myself feel better about getting blown off. He's one of those people who no matter what you say is always there for you. (I had a dream one time that he was swept off a beach by a tsunami and eaten by a shark... I wonder what that means since sharing dreams is not a good idea! LMAO!!! he thought it was funny and told me not to worry, he's a good swimmer and would punch the shark in the head )

 

Thank you all for your input. I will keep a lot of this in mind as I move on and see what else is out there.

 

Stop making excuses.

 

I am telling you the Truth. He is Legitimately "Scared of you and your quick attachment."

 

He is not calling you back because you "threatened him into not cheating" - he either has to become monogamous or has to break up with you. Do you want to be monogamous with him? It sounds like you are expecting monogamy, when he was expecting a fling. You are in control of the relationship, and you can decide what you want and expect from a man. You also have to expect that a man can choose to break up with you if he doesn't think there is a future together.

 

Some guys just don't want to get married again. Some guys just don't want long term relationships.

[Mme. Chaucer]

I'm not going to blast you for "giving it up" so soon, but after 3 such intense dates it's hard to jump back to "getting to know each other".

 

THIS is true, and I'm sure THIS is a good reason not to sleep with someone on the first date if you might be envisioning a longterm thing with them.

 

Puts the cart before the horse in many ways. Before you even know each other, you are pretty much in the depths of a real relationship.

 

I am NOT one who thinks people should not have sex if they feel like it. But it is not a natural "first step" on the way to getting to know each other.

 

If people are really heading into a relationship, there is plenty of time for that to unfold.

 

Oh, and you shouldn't have told him about your dream.

 

P.S. I met some good guys on POF, and I met my husband on Match.com. Not a big booster of OLD, but just wanted to let you know that there are positive outcomes for some ...

[Tara247]

PlentyofFish should be called PlentyofSharks. June, choose a more reputable dating site next time.