Do people ever regain interest ??

[t520]

Do girls ever regain interest after they showed they are not interested? If so, what causes that?

From my experience it seems like its not really possible and only when I really forgot about them they came showing interest.

And when I'm not interested it seems that it usually stays that wAy. I guess people want what they cannot have.

[yah]

Yes but it depends on why they showed they were not interested in you in the first place. The issue has to be small and no longer a big deal. There's nothing you can actively do to change her decision, she has to come to that herself.

[mortensorchid]

Sorry, I can't imagine that is the case. There was only one situation I was in where that happened to me. When I first met my second last serious bf, I thought he was obnoxious and he thought I was a pushy bitch. But he also turned out to be a terrible, horrible man and I think we have conveniently forgotten about each other. Ha ha ha ...

[yah]

I know 3 women that HATED their husbands when they first met them. But because persistence wins over common sense......they ended up giving in to them, dating them and all 3 of them married.

 

There is no logic to it at all.

 

If they really *hated* them as you say, then those women sure are fickle! Nobody can stalk them into going out again. That would warrant a call to the police.

 

The men didn't *make* them go out on another date. The men merely continued to show interest. The issues in each case had to be small enough that the women decided it was OK to give it another go.

[Mrlonelyone]

It happens. Though usually it takes time.

 

i.e. you talk to a woman a couple of times at work then ask her out. She says no. Then as you work together you demonstrate attractive qualities. (In some cases that is simply another woman showing interest in you.) Suddenly she is interested in you. For the record men do the same thing to an extent.

 

Then there are all the on and off couples you have ever heard of.

[FitChick]

People may be at different stages of their lives. If they are young and building their career, love is put on the back burner. When they are more settled, then they start looking for a mate.

[Eternal Sunshine]

Yeah.

 

When I met my current FWB, my first instinct was very negative. I found him arrogant and cold. I went out with him once and then shot him down when he asked me for a second date.

 

He lightly pursued me for months. He would IM me, text me and after every brief conversation, he asked me out again. I rejected him many times.

 

Finally, I was really bored and agreed to have dinner. This was 6 months after the first date. He totally charmed me. I kept wishing all night that he would kiss me. He was just witty and extremely intelligent. I started pursuing him and he was vague/elusive. We went out a few more times before he told me that he doesn't know if he wants a relationship but he would love to keep seeing me. I agreed....hence FWB arrangement.

 

Now things have totally swung in his favor.

 

But to be honest I never rejected him due to lack of attraction. I was afraid that he is going to hurt me and he intimidated me. Turns out, I was right to be afraid. Fear is really an instinct that something is not right.

 

I mostly reject guys due to simple lack of attraction. In those cases, there is no chance in hell.

[newmoon]

imo yes, a woman can regain interest in a man IF she initially was drawn to him in some capacity to begin with. even if it was dislike from the start, that is an emotion that she felt, so romantic interest later is possible.

[Eternal Sunshine]

imo yes, a woman can regain interest in a man IF she initially was drawn to him in some capacity to begin with. even if it was dislike from the start, that is an emotion that she felt, so romantic interest later is possible.

 

If a man provokes zero emotion, which is in about 99% rejection cases - there is no chance.