blue_jay_bird Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 (edited) What will happen is out of my control. But as i sit by the side lines my ex date's a new pretty girl. It's only a amount of time before he fall's love with. Please tell me again why should I not break NC. Edited November 15, 2012 by blue_jay_bird
BrokenDreamCatcher Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 I understand how you feel. I have all those same thoughts too. I am going through it AGAIN, for the second time! To think I ever let that man back in my life. Only for him to do it again! DO NOT CONTACT HIM! Trust me on this. It will get you no where. Right now if he has some new chic, he does not care about you, or hearing from you or anything you have to say. Contacting him will just hurt you more, do NOT give him the power!
ashtree-house Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 (edited) If you contact your ex, you'll expect a response. And a specific response, I'll bet. You want him to say what you want to hear, you HOPE he will say what you want to hear.. even though you know of every logical level it probably won't happen. If you break contact, you won't get this response you want and you'll be disappointed and sad.. or simply embarrassed that you contacted him at all. I'm not saying breaking NC is bad, but what would it solve either? Edited November 15, 2012 by ashtree-house
BrokenDreamCatcher Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 Well, I am sorry...but I just read your other post. Maybe you deserve to be feeling this way. :/
Tiera D Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 the reason you should not break NC is the line above "why should i not break NC" By the way Karma is always watching TD
Phanpooh Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 I give you a bad advise, break it. Then you could see what you deserve. But if he has already slept with her, i dun think he have enough feeling for you to make things happen. Then after pain, in your worst place, you could learn your lesson.
LostOne1 Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 Don't do it man.. breaking NC with my ex was totally bad.. I don't know if she was with someone else or not.. but breaking NC screwed me over. Don't do it and trust me if your ex is seeing someone else.. they will LAUGH when you contact them. It gives them a reason to feel better about their decision. Don't give your ex the satisfaction they need!
morichu Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 After reading the OP, here's something to think about.. Given the choice, most of us would give up the reality of today for the memory of yesterday or the fantasy of tomorrow. We desire to live anywhere but the present.
LostOne1 Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 After reading the OP, here's something to think about.. Given the choice, most of us would give up the reality of today for the memory of yesterday or the fantasy of tomorrow. We desire to live anywhere but the present. well said! the present is too painful, the future we are unsure about, but it could have something better and the past has good memories we want to re-live.
Author blue_jay_bird Posted November 15, 2012 Author Posted November 15, 2012 Well, I am sorry...but I just read your other post. Maybe you deserve to be feeling this way. :/ My other posts.... I deserve to feel this way because i didn't leave my boyfriend for a guy that liked me?
Chi townD Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 What will happen is out of my control. But as i sit by the side lines my ex date's a new pretty girl. It's only a amount of time before he fall's love with. Please tell me again why should I not break NC. Well, that statement tells me that you have a low opinion of yourself and that your self esteem is in the crapper. You need to fall in love and the person you need to fall in love with is you! We give advice on NC, but there are other things you need to be doing IN NC to help yourself! You need to get a new wardrobe, a new hairstyle, you need to be going to the gym regularly so you work of all the stress and frustrations that you're having. Plus, it's helping you get that rock hard sexy bod that WILL help your self esteem when you see the changes yourself. You need to be reconnecting with people and going out. Taking trips to places you've always wanted to go but you've always put it off. If all you're doing in NC is just sitting around wondering if he's wondering about you makes the healing process take a hellva lot longer. Take this time to make positive changes in your life. Stay busy!! Move forward!!
curiouslyhuman Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 You cant control how someone feels or make them love you. If he wants to be with someone else, then by all means let him go. Dont contact him at all. You will only get an answer you dont want.
jwhite Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 One thing I have come to understand from myself is that I have been in his shoes before. I left for GIGS a long time ago, more than once too, and it just ended with pain and regret. It made me who I was and I didnt love or trust in myself. Know that even though you are temporarily behind as far as healing goes, know that you WILL come out stronger in the end. As others have said in reply to your thread, learn to love yourself. The EASIEST way to start that is to think that you get to have a new start--a BLANK you. The gym is the best option. It takes a couple of months, but go 5 times a week....more importantly KEEP going. Think simple. Before you know it you will look in the mirror and be like "holy **** WTF I look good". Hire a PT. Save for some new teeth. Lumineers they are called. That will give you something to work for!
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