nvmx-5 Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 So I've come up on 6 weeks since we split up and 5 weeks of NC, but here is a little insight to my situation. We were together for nearly 3 years, lived together for 2 years and engaged for 2 months before she called it off. On Monday I had a realization that we loved each other but we were never a couple IN love. At this point I felt a great weight off my shoulders (But still hurting to be honest) and my sadness become a relief and my anger became thankfulness toward her. I wrote her an email basically saying: I'm writing to you to thank you. This is not an attempt to find out what you are up to, I would actually prefer you not let me know. I'm thankful for two things 1. for you coming in my life 2. making me the man I'm today. I understand we were brought together because of our interest, our love and appreciation toward each. These things brought us together but doesn't necessarily mean we were meant to be together. When I told "I want you to be happy with or without me" I meant it. I hope you find your life partner as I hope to find mine. I love you now and always. I haven't received a response and I don't plan to. This is my acceptance of the situation that we weren't meant to be. I know I'll still feel pain and go thru up and downs. Basically I'm writing this because weeks ago I was in some of the readers position, trying to find the answer for heart break. It's not easy but here are a few things I did (nothing new): -GO TO THE GYM -Stay busy -MEET NEW PEOPLE (try meetup.com) -focus on work/school -try new hobbies -Limit your thinking of her/him Trust me you WILL pass this and you will recover
th90 Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 i wish and i really really wish one day i'll be able to put things behind like how u managed to. i guess it only takes a matter of time. but the hardest thing right now is keeping myself sane. and ya, not to check on him and not to break NC.
LostOne1 Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 I had sent my last text to my ex a few weeks ago as well. Thanking her and I got no response as expected. But I'm glad I have accepted things as well. It takes time but you slowly realise you can't control what happens always. It's funny because it's almost like some outside force wants me to NOT be with my ex. My ex leaves me out of no where I have old high school friends randomly text me. My old friends I gave up for my ex come back outta no where. The movie theatre me and my ex always went to closed down forever. No matter what I did for my ex to get her back... everything always backfired on me and did not go according to plan. etc.. etc... Feels like something out there is pushing me away from her.. and I wish I knew the reason.
Author nvmx-5 Posted November 15, 2012 Author Posted November 15, 2012 i wish and i really really wish one day i'll be able to put things behind like how u managed to. i guess it only takes a matter of time. but the hardest thing right now is keeping myself sane. and ya, not to check on him and not to break NC. You will get through it. Trust me, I guess it took me less time because deep down inside I knew.. I had sent my last text to my ex a few weeks ago as well. Thanking her and I got no response as expected. But I'm glad I have accepted things as well. It takes time but you slowly realise you can't control what happens always. It's funny because it's almost like some outside force wants me to NOT be with my ex. My ex leaves me out of no where I have old high school friends randomly text me. My old friends I gave up for my ex come back outta no where. The movie theatre me and my ex always went to closed down forever. No matter what I did for my ex to get her back... everything always backfired on me and did not go according to plan. etc.. etc... Feels like something out there is pushing me away from her.. and I wish I knew the reason. Sometimes it's out of your hand, there is nothing you can do but accept it. I'm sure someone out there is waiting for you as well
itsmyfault Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 I had sent my last text to my ex a few weeks ago as well. Thanking her and I got no response as expected. But I'm glad I have accepted things as well. It takes time but you slowly realise you can't control what happens always. It's funny because it's almost like some outside force wants me to NOT be with my ex. My ex leaves me out of no where I have old high school friends randomly text me. My old friends I gave up for my ex come back outta no where. The movie theatre me and my ex always went to closed down forever. No matter what I did for my ex to get her back... everything always backfired on me and did not go according to plan. etc.. etc... Feels like something out there is pushing me away from her.. and I wish I knew the reason. Im G.I.G.S, I gave my Ex all the space in the world, I didnt reply to her and she moved on. I later came to regret this as G.I.G.S wore off. I tried everything to get her back. What I have learnt is, if you try to hard you will fail, You scare the person. they do not want desperation. Simple tell them how you feel and leave it at that, Personally that's how i'd do it again. The smallest seed will grow eventually, Keep adding water and you will drown it.
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