Liking someone you shouldn't!!!

[meow89]

So earlier this year I met someone, we started seeing each other, were perfect together, then he out of the blue 7 months later, went cold, said he only wanted sex and admitted lying to me about some pretty harsh stuff. So I did the sensible thing, deleted him from my phone and moved on.

 

1 month later, I've found out I am at college 1 day a week the same day as his best friend. Who is much more attractive, but much more cryptic?

 

We go for dinner together, text occasionally, but I can't tell whats going on.

Here is either side of it;

 

-He got my number

-He confides in me quite alot about his ex and how hes noticed if hes mean to girls they love it.

-He texts me every now and again, asking me about things personal like family etc, remembers what we've spoken about in previous conversations.

-He's quite playful, always does the whole tripping you up/barging into you thing when we are walking, then says comments like "you must like me, you keep touching me"

-He always drives, and we take it in turn buying dinner usually.

-ALWAYS does the annoying insult thing like;

"your the weirdest girl I know, you like xbox"

"you smell nice, god its so overpowering"

"your hair is weird, its different colours"

-always make sure we are together for the entire hour, like even if we are done he just says "we can stay here til 12"

 

the things that are causing me doubts are;

-the guy i was seeing is his best friend.

-are his taunts his way of telling me he doesnt like me? that i do wear too much perfume and I should dye my hair one colour and not play xbox?

-he ALWAYS stops texting first, hes not big on texting, when he does its usually a long text, something hes put effort in, like movie quotes or jokes about things we spoke about before hand but then he just stops...?

-He doesnt really use twitter, or facebook. This is why I find him quite cryptic, although i know he uses them, because after I saw him last week I tweeted something and he replied with something we had been talking about...?

-When we are out drinking (everyone in my town goes to the same place) we dont really speak, and he never comes to me? hes always with the same people or girl..although nothing really happens i feel like he doesnt want to come and see me...and i feel like that would be my opertunity to...you know..make a move..?

 

 

So confused!! I don't know if he likes me like that ...and I dont know if i should suggest doing something? ive tried hinting but i get nothing back! argh!!:(

[WhiteChocolate]

I don't think he likes you. If he did he would have asked you out, or at least approach you whenever he can.

 

It's all in your head, even if you don't want to admit it. I bet he flirts that way with many other girls.

[meow89]

Can I ask what makes you think that? I dont think he's the type of guy to ask someone out, if that makes sence. He's really quiet unless you know him. And I Literally only see him once a week.. ?

[Ami1uwant]

If I am following you...you dated guy A for a while and it ended out of the blue. Months later you meet guy B who seems to like you. It happens guy A and B are best friends. Did you meet guy B during your dating of guy A?

 

If I am right then you have no chance with guy B. he won't date you...you are ff limits. This is guy code. The thing guy A would share with guy B aren't your qualities but venting about your faults as if he thought you were nuts.

[meow89]

Yeah, I met them at the same time. And I don't think that's the case with faults - he's brutally honest, infact how we started talking was he used to give me advice on guy a, and initially warned me about him, which led me to confront him. I'm certain he wouldn't see me if he thought I was crazy? Or could I be wrong..?

 

One of the first things he ever said to me was "you should have him falling for you!"

 

Hmm