corafilla Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 Hi everyone, need some advice, so heres the problem... Im currently in Uni and last year this guy transferred into my class and we instantly hit it off as friends. By the time he transferred it was coming up to exam etc so I didn't really see all that much of him, there weren't many social outtings etc occurring, but I saw him everyday in classes. Over the weeks I really began to fancy him, he is just such a nice guy. Over the exam we chatted on FB a bit, mostly the conversations started by one of us asking the other an exam related question, but the chats could go on for hours then about anything and everything. I really started to fall for him. Summer came and we went back to our respective hometowns. He sent me a few msgs over the summer, just general how are you getting on at work etc messages, nothing too exciting, just two friends catching up. I was really excited about the new term starting, maybe something would happen....then one day on FB I saw him tagged in photos with a girl, and they seemed very close...I went on to her page and its basically just filled with pics of them, they've clearly been dating for about 2 years. I was a bit shocked he had never mentioned her, I mean the topic had never really come up in conversation but I would have thought at somestage it would be normal to mention your gf?? Anyway september came and we were back at school. Instantly when I saw him all my feelings for him came back, stronger than ever. Now he's settled in and made friends with most of my guy friends and there are loads of social outings I cant escape him. He always saves me a seat in class, I try and sit other places pretending I don't see him sometimes, but it looks odd in front of everyone else. When I sit beside him he's passing me notes constantly, on nights out when Im leaving he always walks me home. He texts me, fb messages me....and its heart breaking because I really really do like him, but he has a gf back home and I don't want to be "the other girl". What should I do?!! I've tried staying away from him, but its such a small class its impossible....but being near him and not being able to follow my feelings is also nearly impossible....
mammasita Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 Where is is GF? Are they in a LDR? Regardless of where his GF is, don't fall for any of his lines unless he is officially SINGLE. From where I'm sitting you have three choices: A) Suck it up. B) Distance yourself from him. C) Tell him how you feel so he knows why you are distancing yourself, and then distance yourself.
mammasita Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 Tell him how you feel? " I really want to jump you, and have no control over it...so we need to keep a 50 yd distance between each other" Something like that? EXACTLY. you can't sugar coat that ****.
Author corafilla Posted November 14, 2012 Author Posted November 14, 2012 Where is is GF? Are they in a LDR? Regardless of where his GF is, don't fall for any of his lines unless he is officially SINGLE. From where I'm sitting you have three choices: A) Suck it up. B) Distance yourself from him. C) Tell him how you feel so he knows why you are distancing yourself, and then distance yourself. Yeah they are LDR. I think I am just going to have to try the distancing myself from him. Ignoring his messages etc, social events are dwindling down with exams once again looming so hopefully I shouldn't see to much of him outside of the classroom.... I don't think I can suck it up anymore!! And I definitely wouldn't be brave enough to tell him how I feel while I know he's in a relationship, awkward!
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