Emailed her 3 times, still not giving up.

[KatZee]

I know....im a prat. but this girl is amazing!!!

 

Either this guy is a troll, or he's about as dense as a pile of rocks.

 

For the life of me, I can't understand how anyone could be so oblivious.

 

"Big deal she changed her number."

 

Big deal? That means: STOP F.UCKING CALLING ME AND TEXTING ME YOU CREEPY PSYCHO.

[Simon Phoenix]

Uh no dude read his past threads. He has crossed the line into crazytown. This girl has changed her # to get rid of him and CALLED THE COPS.

 

It is called self-respect and self-control. 40 texts, wow. You should probably ask yourself the same thing this dude needs to ask himself--do you think harrassing your ex and sending her 40 texts is going to change her mind? No it is going to drive her further away!]

 

I honestly could care less. I mean she's doing me a favor in the long run cause shell have to take care of my daughter by herself which allows me to pursue my goals.

 

I text her because she ****ed my 8 year investment with her, and my 4 year investment with my daughter. I want to know whats going on with my daughter. I owe it to her to fight for her mom and dad to stay together so she doesn't turn out to be some whore getting pregnant at 16, or a drug attic, or whatever else problems kids have when mom and dad dont stay together.

 

I have a feeling you are trolling, but you can be in your daughter's life without being with the mother. In fact, it's better for the daughter's well-being to have two parents separated from each other that are well-adjusted than having to witness a toxic, awful relationship with two parents that are together.

[Simon Phoenix]

 

Not trolling at all. And the probablity of kids that grow up with separated parents will be very likely to have some type of problems growing up. I've studied the family unit in college, and studies prove this over and over.

 

I would never lower the quality of my life raising a child I that type of situation. With some other guy living under the same roof as my kid. Wouldn't stick around for that.

 

I grew up a child of divorce and I'm just fine. As are many other people I know in similar situations. I have two loving parents and two loving stepparents. As long as both parents are in the child's life it's not a big deal. You are more likely to have a screwed-up kid with your overbearing mentality than you would if you stepped back and provided a loving, supportive presence separate from the mother.

[Sav]

Im long past the stage of giving advice to this nutbag. Here for the drama

[KatZee]

And the probablity of kids that grow up with separated parents will be very likely to have some type of problems growing up.

 

Better to be FROM a broken home than IN a broken home. A child is far more likely to have problems growing up when they are living in a dysfunctional household.

 

Prime example: myself and my half sister.

 

My father and my mother divorced when I was about 3-4 years old. They fought constantly, I remember running after them screaming, "STOP IT STOP FIGHTING!!" and being terrified. He left us at 4 and that toxicity was out of my life.

 

When I was about 24 years old a random girl contacted me on FB. Turns out she's my half sister, the daughter of the guy my mother divorced. He and her mother had the same kind of relationship. Unhealthy, toxic. But instead of divorcing, her mother decided to stay. She was too scared to leave him. Because of that, my half sister is A MESS. And I say this in the nicest way possible. She doesn't trust people at all. She hates her father. She had an incredibly unhappy and traumatic childhood.

 

I'm smarter, stronger, and wiser than most people on this earth and I come directly from a divorced family.

 

I can't imagine how screwed up I'd be if my mother didn't leave my father.

[Simon Phoenix]

 

Better to be FROM a broken home than IN a broken home. A child is far more likely to have problems growing up when they are living in a dysfunctional household.

 

Prime example: myself and my half sister.

 

My father and my mother divorced when I was about 3-4 years old. They fought constantly, I remember running after them screaming, "STOP IT STOP FIGHTING!!" and being terrified. He left us at 4 and that toxicity was out of my life.

 

When I was about 24 years old a random girl contacted me on FB. Turns out she's my half sister, the daughter of the guy my mother divorced. He and her mother had the same kind of relationship. Unhealthy, toxic. But instead of divorcing, her mother decided to stay. She was too scared to leave him. Because of that, my half sister is A MESS. And I say this in the nicest way possible. She doesn't trust people at all. She hates her father. She had an incredibly unhappy and traumatic childhood.

 

I'm smarter, stronger, and wiser than most people on this earth and I come directly from a divorced family.

 

I can't imagine how screwed up I'd be if my mother didn't leave my father.

 

Exactly. My mother has had to deal with a lot of issues in her life because her mother and father stayed in a toxic relationship when she was growing up and both neglected her (somewhat unintentionally) because they were so concentrated on being pissed off at each other. It took her a long time to truly overcome that mental trauma that came from living in an angry, contentious household where both parents hated each other and not-so-subtly cheated on each other. I only met my grandfather on her side once when he was alive because there was so much bad blood.

 

My mom didn't repeat that same mistake with my father. I remember as a child (they divorced when I was 10) them yelling and fighting with each other and how bad it made me feel. It was nothing physically abusive (my father never struck my mother), but you could tell they were miserable together. Them breaking it off, and subsequently finding spouses that were better fits for both of them, was crucial in my sister and I growing up well-adjusted. It was much better once they were separated and the yelling stopped than it was when they were together and miserable.

[Nik1]

Love this guy! Makes me feel so much better about how I've been handling my break up.

[cavalier99]

frederickkk

 

I have not pity for you right now probably because im feeling like **** about my situtation and am really down. I have read this whole threat ect over the days.

 

You dont deserve a response from anyone on this forum any more. Help has been given and you dont want it. I think your getting arrested or locked up for stalking would be the best for you right now.

 

Then you will be able to focus on a more pressing issues than you undying love of this girl who has told you to take a hike. You have only shown obssesive, pussy, crazy behavior. Instead you will be focussed on more pressing issues like getting bail.

 

Go see the Dr.

Edited November 15, 2012 by cavalier99

[mishy]

i feel a bit sorry for him, he obviously doesnt know what he is doing

 

after a certain point it ceases to be about the ex, maybe he is afraid he wont find anyone else

[Simon Phoenix]

After reading this dude's posts I'm thinking he's a troll. He's either a troll or one of the most pathetic people ever. I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt.

[AlexDP]

"im not going to chase her. and i need to focus on me now."

 

What happened to this? ^^^^

 

"so ****ing angry right now. i cant change this girls mind."

 

I was actually looking forward to an entertaining thread, but dude... you're scaring ME and I'm not even sure where you're located.

 

I'm going to be as serious as possible with you right now because frankly, I'm surprised the cops haven't arrested you for stalking yet. But I guarantee if you continue on, you will find yourself behind bars.

 

I suggest you pick yourself up and head to the nearest mental health facility. You are not right in the mind and you need help. Not from us LS'ers because we can't give it to you. You need therapy, and quite possibly medication.

 

I'm really not quite sure what you're doing anymore with this. You keep contacting her why? Have you actually READ any of the stuff that is said on these forums? How chasing an ex is the best way to get them NOT to want you? You can't force someone to love you, or "change their mind" and at this point, you have NO chance with your ex. NONE. Not even a 0000.1% chance. You've truly pushed and probably terrified this girl to the point where she wouldn't even be caught dead in a room alone with you.

 

If any of my exes ever acted this way, you better believe the cops would be after him for harassment, stalking, and whatever other charges I could slap on him. I wouldn't feel safe unless he was behind bars.

 

You need help. Seriously.

 

Sorry, but that's a bit nasty. My girlfriend had an ex like that. They had been together only for four or five months and she had been miserable most of the time. Mostly when I hear that kind of story it's my cue to leave the girl, but she was very mature about it and I decided that it really was a loser guy. So anyway, he kept sending texts and e-mails and it did get out of hand (they had already been broken up for a year when I met my girlfriend). At one point we did think about the cops, when he threatened suicide. But other than that we just made sure she was never in his vicinity and given the fact she's always surrounded by people and the guy never threatened her we dediced she was quite safe.

 

Now if he had continued along this road, we would have notified the police at some point. But I think it's quite inhumane to do it too soon. Some guys or girls are just immature or clingy. I know we see these psycho movies, but the truth is there are not many people like that. And I can't think of anything more humiliating than having the police tell someone he/she should stop stalking another person.

[frederickkk]

think we all need to calm down here, ****'s getting a little heated.

 

i'm not giving up on the one i love.

[AlexDP]

think we all need to calm down here, ****'s getting a little heated.

 

i'm not giving up on the one i love.

 

 

You will love others. Stop loving her.

[Simon Phoenix]

think we all need to calm down here, ****'s getting a little heated.

 

i'm not giving up on the one i love.

 

Dude, I'm not buying that you are this clueless and pathetic. Give up the troll. This is a serious board for people with actual issues.

[taya]

think we all need to calm down here, ****'s getting a little heated.

 

i'm not giving up on the one i love.

 

 

lol am laughing my ass off right now lol this is too funny because this guy is messing with all of us hes crazy and you cant help crazy so lets stop commenting on this post and find someone that needs real help ,,so am off and federckk if this is a joke i will say good laugh and if this is for real i will say MAY GOD HELP YOU

[Lois]

think we all need to calm down here, ****'s getting a little heated.

 

i'm not giving up on the one i love.

 

 

Frederickkk, honey, I hate to say this but ... I think you may be a little bit of a fruitcake.

 

Please get some help.

[cloudatlas]

Hey, listen. If you love her, let her go. There's a whole quote about it and everything. I mean, I get it. I get the obsessive EVERYTHING just to try to get someone back. But honestly - she's scared! You're scaring and hurting the one you love! That's not love anymore. That's you wanting to possess her and going nuts because you can't.

[KatZee]

Sorry, but that's a bit nasty. My girlfriend had an ex like that. They had been together only for four or five months and she had been miserable most of the time. Mostly when I hear that kind of story it's my cue to leave the girl, but she was very mature about it and I decided that it really was a loser guy. So anyway, he kept sending texts and e-mails and it did get out of hand (they had already been broken up for a year when I met my girlfriend). At one point we did think about the cops, when he threatened suicide. But other than that we just made sure she was never in his vicinity and given the fact she's always surrounded by people and the guy never threatened her we dediced she was quite safe.

 

Now if he had continued along this road, we would have notified the police at some point. But I think it's quite inhumane to do it too soon. Some guys or girls are just immature or clingy. I know we see these psycho movies, but the truth is there are not many people like that. And I can't think of anything more humiliating than having the police tell someone he/she should stop stalking another person.

 

What I said isn't nasty at all. It's reality.

 

Here are the facts:

 

1. He won't stop calling her or texting her. So, she changed her number.

2. He thinks it's perfectly OK to just show up to her parent's house. So, her parents have had the cops called.

3. The cops have been called on him numerous times.

4. He continues to flood her e-mail inbox.

5. He refuses to stop.

 

It has now become a problem. This behavior isn't "needy" or "clingy." It's obsessive, and borderline stalking. HE NEEDS a wake up call and until he's in cuffs, I really don't think he's going to get it.

 

He's basically a stalker in training. Look at any stalking statistics, this is how they start off. They are obsessive, they are relentless, they don't think it's a problem, they don't stop. It becomes more and more outrageous and ultimately in the end, someone winds up hurt, and it's ALWAYS the person being stalked.

 

Just read his past threads. Because he was "unable to change her mind" and make her love him again, he was "furious" and "livid" to the point where he wanted to physically assault someone, I'm assuming it's her. He flat out admitted that if he would have acted on his impulses he'd wind up being arrested. One of these days, he's going to flat out snap.

 

So, am I sorry for being mean? Nope. Not at all. It's not a game anymore.

[KatZee]

think we all need to calm down here, ****'s getting a little heated.

 

i'm not giving up on the one i love.

 

Here is where I think he's a troll.

 

He has not made ONE COMMENT to anyone. He just continues to post this stupid s.hit about how he "won't give up on the one he loves."

 

He hasn't acknowledged anything any of us has said.

 

He's either trolling, or has already gone off the deep end and only sees the world through his own lens.

 

If you're serious: This is great that you won't give up on the one you love... but news flash-- SHE GAVE UP ON YOU.

[Under The Radar]

think we all need to calm down here, ****'s getting a little heated.

 

i'm not giving up on the one i love.

 

 

Yeah, after reading this, I feel he may be a troll. I'd rather he be a troll than suffer from real mental health problems that led to these posts .

[Own Worst Enemy]

But not a v good one

[Simon Phoenix]

But not a v good one

 

Actually, he's not a bad troll. He's been able to hijack quite a few threads.

[cavalier99]

This is the 1st time ive used a online forum and didnt even know what a "troll" is. I looked it up in the context of msg boards, news ect. I then reread a few threads. Definitly a troll and quite good. TaraMaiden figured it out right away. What is the thrill of doing this? Fascinating. What a weird past time. Does this happen a lot here?

[KatZee]

This is the 1st time ive used a online forum and didnt even know what a "troll" is. I looked it up in the context of msg boards, news ect. I then reread a few threads. Definitly a troll and quite good. TaraMaiden figured it out right away. What is the thrill of doing this? Fascinating. What a weird past time. Does this happen a lot here?

 

These people seem to be living boring lives with nothing better to do than sit online and create fake scenarios or situations just to stir s.hit up. There is always a few lurking around but LS eliminates them quite quickly if they're noticeable.

 

If you've ever seen the movie Catfish, it's sort of like that. MTV now made a show about it and it's quite sick. These people are pretty pathetic, they just pretend to be someone and play games with others online.

[cavalier99]

Thanks. Ill have to check out the movie. By the way i enjoy your no BS posts. You definitely call it like it is and cut thru a lot of the drama with some eye opening reality. Take care.