blue_jay_bird Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 Well im leaving LS. And i just wanted to post this because maybe you will think about why this is not a good place in the long term. It was a great place to post when i was first dumped. Helped me to stay NC. But really it's become a obsession. I'm a crazy invisible ex. Who obsesses about their ex, and this place feed's the addiction. I need to stop this addition, and i don't know how. So im going cold turkey. Wish me Luck. 3
cavalier99 Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 (edited) Wow your post really affected me. I'm thinking the same about leaving here for a while. But not sure If I can do it yet. LS has been a great help. However how much more can I read? Is it healthy? I'm not nearly 100 percent recovered after 6 weeks NC. But at the same time it isn't like my EX is contacting me and I'm strict NC. I don't need any new advise. These is no new situation I need to respond to. I don't even have my own thread. I have given some advise and it felt good. But do I really need to constantly read about breakups?? I feel like I have read enough to have a PhD in NC and breakups. Should I still be lurking?? What made you want to stop? Has any one found that a long break (decision to leave, not just drifting away) from LS has helped them recover faster? Edited November 14, 2012 by cavalier99 1
puzzled1 Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 I kinda feel the same way! Been coming here to read every time I miss her or bored at home. I just broke up a month ago so I am not over anything. Whenever I think of her, I feel a weird emotion take control so I hop up on here.
youngnlove89 Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 I did that too. I don't post nearly as much, but I lurk. But not nearly everyday either. The best way to move on from something is to cut it out of your life, whether it may be your ex or LS. Take some time. Find other ways of coping through this. But this too does become an obsession because of all the different opinions on how to deal with what you are going through, and it can become even more confusing and tretcherous! Should I do this or do that? The fact is, being here doesn't help you forget your ex at all, it reminds you of them! Take the time you need. And if you want to lurk, lurk. But focus on you and your life. Make your own decisions, learn from your own mistakes.
LostOne1 Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 well I don't mind LS.. I find it's a good place to reflect on ideas and lessons and all. But after awhile I think there comes a time to leave for a bit. Otherwise all you talk about is your ex or how your experience will help someone else.
Dagorath Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 Well you certainly can't replace one obsession with another. Love is an obsession and the act of loving is being crazy about someone. It's natural to seek comfort in a place like this where people feel the same as you do. You do need to move on, but not in the way that you think. Don't go cold turkey - act. Take the advice from here, and act on it. Actions speak louder than words my friend. Personally, I'm tired of venting, and sulking, and crying about the bull**** in my life. It's time to move on, and the act of moving is only possible through action. Don't talk, go out and try to meet someone else. Do something constructive. Go get some phone numbers. Whatever it takes. Good luck to you.
Simon Phoenix Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 Honestly, this place makes me feel better about my situation and has been very therapeutic. If I can help someone else in the same way, I'll still around. I guess misery loves company and if there are people more miserable than I am, I guess that means I'm not as f--ked up as I thought I was. Which is comforting in a way.
kamani Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 "It was a great place to post when i was first dumped. Helped me to stay NC." Exactly. LS helped me to replace my obsession of somebody unavailable. "Who obsesses about their ex, and this place feed's the addiction. I need to stop this addition, and i don't know how. " I agree. When you read other people's stories even, sometimes you are reminded of them. You are reminded of your own times, your own feelings for each other. I also felt like exploring LS would have some influence on getting him out of my mind. But you have to remember one thing. Reading and posting here is much, worth the time than tempting to contact them ever again! Good Luck to you.
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