Kat_luv Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 Alright so I met this guy at a party,he just moved to the area and didn't really know anyone there. Sensed him looking my way and I was doing the same with him so I introduced myself first,left, then he caught me later on. We both had a bit to drink and I ended up sleeping over at his house near by because there were no room at the party house to crash at. I took the bed and he offered to sleep on the couch. So since then(a month ago) we've been on about two dates. We're in different cities but I come back home often. During the two times I saw him he never tried anything, I was the one that was more touchy feely which I rarely get with a guy and the most I've got out of him were hugs. The last time I saw him we ended up sitting on this hill looking at the stars under a blanket skin on skin but he never even tried to put his arm around me. NOTHING! What gives? Our mutual friend says he likes me and he asked to see me again, I don't get it.
Leigh 87 Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 Personally, I need a guy to want to touch me under those circumstances! Under a blanket looking at the stars? I do not want a total hornbag who is sex obsessed but I DO want the guy to be attracted enough to at least make a move on me! It sounds like - he has a low sex drive - he likes you a lot, but is not all that sexually into you (but is looking for a girl he has a connection with, seeing as the good looking women he sexually desires are not into him, or a good match intellectually) - he is nervous, as he really likes you, and wants to get to know and like you before making it about sex
ascendotum Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 Nice opportunity sailed by with the blanket under the stars episode. If he really does fancy you he should smack himself across the face. Sometimes there is no call back for another audition. Anyway next time you are with him and there is a great opportunity for a little passion, chide him for not taking the initiative. ie. 'you can touch me you know I wont bite' or 'do I smell of BO, because you wont get close to me' or 'this is so romantic looking at the stars I wish I had a bf to kiss', type stuff. He should snap out of it if he can read between the lines.
SJC2008 Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 He very well may like you! People freak out when people don't behave within normal "norms". Just becuse he doesn't try to phuk you on the first or second date or hold you doesn't mean he doensn't like you, he may be shy or a slow mover. That's where "put in in her before someone else does" came from. Women like you wondering what's wrong with the man who doesn't try to put in in you right away. If he's moving to slow for you find another guy who will move faster!!! It's that easy! If you like him let him move at the pace he's comfortable with.
Author Kat_luv Posted November 15, 2012 Author Posted November 15, 2012 He very well may like you! People freak out when people don't behave within normal "norms". Just becuse he doesn't try to phuk you on the first or second date or hold you doesn't mean he doensn't like you, he may be shy or a slow mover. That's where "put in in her before someone else does" came from. Women like you wondering what's wrong with the man who doesn't try to put in in you right away. If he's moving to slow for you find another guy who will move faster!!! It's that easy! If you like him let him move at the pace he's comfortable with. Aw okk & I didn't expect sex right away, it was just different because other guys I've known would always at least try to hold hands or be touchy even when it's not a date. I've always been slow mover when it came down to guys so I guess I'm just impatient :/, should I initiate or will it scare him off? What would be considered coming off too strong?
pcplod Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 (edited) Play him "Do Yo Want To Touch (Me)" - Joan Jett and the Blackhearts. If he doesn't get a cue from that then there is absolutely no hope. The song was originally covered by Gary Glitter but I guess the way things are in his life nowadays it would only cause confusion if you were to play that version. We've been here too long Tryin' to get along Pretendin' that you're oh so shy I'm a natural ma'am Doin' all I can My temperature is runnin' high Cry at night No one in sight An' we got so much to share Talking's fine If you got the time But I ain't got the time to spare Yeah Do you wanna touch (Yeah) Do you wanna touch (Yeah) Do you wanna touch me there, where Do you wanna touch (Yeah) Do you wanna touch (Yeah) Do you wanna touch me there, where There, yeah Yeah, oh yeah, oh yeah Every girl an' boy Needs a little joy All you do is sit an' stare Beggin' on my knees Baby, won't you please Run your fingers through my hair My, my, my Whiskey and rye Don't it make you feel so fine Right or wrong Don't it turn you on Can't you see we're wastin' time, yeah Do you wanna touch (Yeah) Do you wanna touch (Yeah) Do you wanna touch me there, where Do you wanna touch (Yeah) Do you wanna touch (Yeah) Do you wanna touch me there, where There, yeah Edited November 15, 2012 by pcplod
SJC2008 Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 Aw okk & I didn't expect sex right away, it was just different because other guys I've known would always at least try to hold hands or be touchy even when it's not a date. I've always been slow mover when it came down to guys so I guess I'm just impatient :/, should I initiate or will it scare him off? What would be considered coming off too strong? I wasn't implying you wanted sex right away, sorry if my response was OTT. Anyway he either doesn't fancy you or does and is shy. So like I said if he is shy and you like him you have to accept his pace and may have to nudge him a little.
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