Annabella007 Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 Hello, I met a guy ten years ago through my bestie (he grew up with her then boyfriend). At that time this guy was very married. In early June I ran into him in a bar. We made small talk during which he told me he had been separated since December. The drinks were flowing and we ended up going home together. For most of the summer we hooked up every weekend. He works a lot and so do I. There was some texts here and there, but mostly drinks, sex, and staying up all night talking (not necessarily in that order). In September it seemed obvious that this wasn't going anywhere, so I stopped going out to the bars he hangs out in and did my own thing. Two weeks ago I ran into him again (late at night). We stayed up for the rest of the night talking which led to making out. This last Saturday I saw him again. He told me he likes me and wants to be with me, but he's still trying to "figure his life out". I'm divorced and I get it that it takes time. I'm not sure if I should hang in there or if I should drop this one and run. Any advice would be appreciated!
dasein Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 Welcome to the forum. Do neither, continue to think of this guy as just one option while you cultivate more. If you feel you are getting too emotionally involved with this one guy, then yes, time to move on because after all the hookups, he should be more proactive about building something with you and he's not on the same page. As long as your emotions aren't too involved, just have fun. Good luck.
sp2007 Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 You already know the answer to this, right? It sounds like you're in a good place with this emotionally and can walk away relatively unscathed at the moment. I urge you to protect your heart and do so.
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