sarah_valentine Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 ... and I'm still waiting. There are moments when I think I've let go, and a few days later I'm back to checking my phone and email to see if he has contacted me. I try to think of all the reasons why he hasn't, judge whether he might yet... and none of it get me anywhere because tomorrow odds are I'll wake up just the same, check my phone and email and nothing. I think of all the reasons why I'm probably better off finding someone new, why the first time around wasn't that great and how even if you got rid of some of the reasons why, I don't think I'd be able to move part the memories of the relationship the first time around and could probably never be truly content. I know I have a lot to offer someone. There's things I need to deal with about myself, but on the whole I think I'm good. I think there's someone out there that could make me happier, but I haven't met him yet and I just want someone to share things with again, to cuddle up to and to care for... friends just aren't the same. I think I might be holding on to him because it's easier than starting again, and because in my head I have these dreams where he truly is the person that I need him to be... even though I know it's fantasy. Where do I go from here? How do I move past the wishful thinking, and why can't I just see it for what it is?
dreamstate83 Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 (edited) All it takes is time. It's been 3 1/2 months since my 6 year girlfriend dumped me right after we made plans to move in together in Australia and met the guy of her dreams 2 months after. Although I'm the victim in this, it just goes to show you that there is always someone else out there in the world that's better for you. Stay strong, and don't stop loving yourself Edited November 14, 2012 by dreamstate83
LostOne1 Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 ... and I'm still waiting. There are moments when I think I've let go, and a few days later I'm back to checking my phone and email to see if he has contacted me. I try to think of all the reasons why he hasn't, judge whether he might yet... and none of it get me anywhere because tomorrow odds are I'll wake up just the same, check my phone and email and nothing. I think of all the reasons why I'm probably better off finding someone new, why the first time around wasn't that great and how even if you got rid of some of the reasons why, I don't think I'd be able to move part the memories of the relationship the first time around and could probably never be truly content. I know I have a lot to offer someone. There's things I need to deal with about myself, but on the whole I think I'm good. I think there's someone out there that could make me happier, but I haven't met him yet and I just want someone to share things with again, to cuddle up to and to care for... friends just aren't the same. I think I might be holding on to him because it's easier than starting again, and because in my head I have these dreams where he truly is the person that I need him to be... even though I know it's fantasy. Where do I go from here? How do I move past the wishful thinking, and why can't I just see it for what it is? The problem is you're waiting... and you need to stop that... I was like you except I kept contacting my ex, then she chased for me a bit and then turned around and stopped. It was just a cat and mouse game and it will hurt more. That's why I returned all her stuff she gave me to set a point that I wanted to move on and not play these lets work it out games if shes not serious. I guess knowing she hates me makes it easier for me to move on now. I know deep inside even if I do miss her especially when I have a bad day.. that she isnt here any more. And well... then I just learn to move on. I know one day I won't think of her anyone and you'll get to that point too.
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