ex girl told me she wanted to be friends, i said no.. where now?

[dpc1192]

I sent her a long elaborate text saying i didn't wanna be just friends and i'll always be her friend but i love her and will be here for her and am willing to take things extremely slow.

 

she has been flirty with me and texting me the day she wanted to be friends, not kissing me but loving the attention.

 

now after me saying this she continues to text me as if nothing had happened.

before she was saying lets work on being friends and see where it goes, but now it's like where do we stand?

 

any advice ? i know she still likes me, maybe not love anymore, we were taking it slow then things started getting serious too quickly and we both needed more time so she broke it off again.

 

thoughts???? please help!

[dpc1192]

anyone please!

[veggirl]

Why do you respond?

 

you want a relationship with her, she JUST wants friendship. I would not respond to her, she is just using you for attention and the comfort of knowing you are there at her beck & call (and you are proving to her that you are)

[fremonde]

i guess i agree, unless she says lets work on things, you will be her friend only. no contact might make her come around, or you get to move on. its your only option

[dpc1192]

but i said how I didn't want to be friends...

[dpc1192]

and i've initiated alot of the texts afterwards and she's responded and being cute..

[oracle]

R-U-N

 

Dear god RUN.. What starts in blood ends in blood. You really want round 2 or 3?

[I'm nuts]

Once you've had a serious relationship with someone it's very difficult to convert those feeling to 'just friends' feelings, personally I think it never works, friends can always remain friends, but lovers to friends? nah.

[veggirl]

and i've initiated alot of the texts afterwards and she's responded and being cute..

 

why the fk are you doing that?!

[KatZee]

You say you don't want to be friends, but then you continue to initiate texts.

 

WHY?

 

She's being very clear here, "Lets be friends." You don't want that. So why are you initiating anything? She's being selfish each and every time she texts you but if you're the one who's initiating most of the texts, she's probably getting whiplash from you. Either you want to be her friend, or you don't.

 

And if you don't, then STOP talking to her. You being on the back burner, being the faithful friend, being "nice" isn't going to get her back as a girlfriend. So don't think what you're doing is having any positive impact as far as that's concerned. You're actually lowering your value every time you chase after her.

 

Set your boundaries, and stick to them. If you have to, block her number. I'm sure you have other friends you can text, so talk to them instead.

[Chi townD]

before she was saying lets work on being friends and see where it goes, but now it's like where do we stand?

 

 

Translation: Keep giving me emotional and physical support until someone else comes into my life and then I'll kick you to the curb. BUT! You can't get mad at me or hurt by me because, WE WERE ONLY JUST FRIENDS!!!!!

[flitzanu]

I sent her a long elaborate text saying i didn't wanna be just friends and i'll always be her friend but i love her and will be here for her and am willing to take things extremely slow.

 

she has been flirty with me and texting me the day she wanted to be friends, not kissing me but loving the attention.

 

now after me saying this she continues to text me as if nothing had happened.

before she was saying lets work on being friends and see where it goes, but now it's like where do we stand?

 

any advice ? i know she still likes me, maybe not love anymore, we were taking it slow then things started getting serious too quickly and we both needed more time so she broke it off again.

 

thoughts???? please help!

 

 

i'm just answering the title of your post. she asked to be friends, you said no, where do you go? you go home and go away from her. you said you dont' want to be friends with her, so DON'T be friends with her. she's making it clear she doesn't want to be with you.