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The more time i sit here, i think about the past...not the future, which i should be doing.

 

But now that i'v been dumped, i realized that i made a mistake of leaving someone a long time ago. He's happy and in love. If he was single i would jump on him.

 

What's sad is i only came to this realization 3 years later. AND because i'v been dumped. Which make's me question this realization. Is it out of loneness, or truth.

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The more time i sit her i think about the past...not the future, which i should be doing.

 

But now that i'v been dumped, i realized that i made a mistake of leaving someone a long time ago. He's happy and in love. If he was single i would jump on him.

 

What's sad is i only came to this realization 3 years later. AND because i'v been dumped. Which make's me question this realization. Is it out of loneness, or truth.

 

I'm sorry but I love this. The harsh realization and knowing what you probably put that guy through.

And now is when your brain is going to start thinking more and more about him, how he was, what you two shared. And now is when your old dumper would start egoistically approaching the old dumpee (if you didn't know that he's already happy and in love) because you realized.

 

After 3 years, you'd probably have a chance if he hadn't totally moved on.

Anyway now the bug of contacting him again has probably started eating your brain. Will you do it? Won't you?

 

Let us know what you plan! It's interesting as dumpees to see the process which makes dumpers think about old relationships.

 

And best luck in whatever you do!

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You are just feeling loneliness and nostalgia. It will pass. Have you dated at all? It's been 6 months since your break up (I think), are you anywhere near ready to get back out there at all?

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I think it can be out of loneliness and then you'd just throw breadcrumbs to him (email him just to know how life is going, whatever) just to disappear later on. On the other hand if it was because you matured enough to understand what a healthy relationship is like and what to expect about one and if you are thinking of what makes him special (traits, values, personality: rational things) instead of how you felt when being together (emotional) then you'd approach him with a clear goal, i.e: not to lead him on again.

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Yeah iv dated.

 

But nothing to write home about. They are nice guy's. I gave a few second date's to see if i could get anymore excited. But, yeah...

 

 

And dumPI

 

I am in full reflection on the irony of the situation. But theirs no way im contacting him. He's in a very happy relationship and I think he's going to propose. I was such a bitch thinking back. But i also sometime think, she love's him more then i ever was able to. He deserves her, i was never able to be that person. That person that will love you no matter what.

 

Then i think thats all bull****, i would so give us a second chance. (btw, there was no us, we never dated, we where just friends/ messed up how being dumped can even make's you regret not dating someone.) (If being dumped can make you regret not dating someone/ image how it can make you regret dumping someone)

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That's so crazy, the same thing happen to me after a ten yr relationship ended. I guess karma never forget about me...Life lesson learned.

 

 

I smile at Life knowing one day it will break my heart. ( I think it's Vince Scully quote)

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How do you know he is happy and her love is real? Was you dumped or you did force him to do that? Just some question...

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Even if he wasn't happen and in love. What kind of person would would jump into someone's life that they haven't talked to in three year's to break up a relationship. I personally have moral's. I would be a monster to do that.

 

It wasn't even like we dated. I was asked to leave my current bf when we where friend's. I said no. And no I didn't do anything with the man.

 

The irony/ karma. I think my bf left me for someone.

 

And think of this; he will always know he is number 2 to the ex. That if my ex had never left me i would have never wanted to be with him...

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