hurtnomorerika Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 I ended my Affair with my MM, but I feel like Im dying. I dont wanna work, clean up, eat,and etc. I've started drinking wine more then usual, to calm my nerves. I dont wanna be around anyone. I feel better when Im home alone. My 9 year old asked me yesterday, was I ok? Obviously, She can tell something is wrong. The holidays is coming up and if I could die and come back when they're over I would. Sad, but true. Im fed up with the Affair, and Im tired of hurting. But I feel like Im on the verge of having a mental breakdown. My mother suggested that maybe I need to see a counselor. Has anyone else felt like this after ending the Affair? I miss him so much, but Im tired and cant take no more of running around in circles.
taya Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 I ended my Affair with my MM, but I feel like Im dying. I dont wanna work, clean up, eat,and etc. I've started drinking wine more then usual, to calm my nerves. I dont wanna be around anyone. I feel better when Im home alone. My 9 year old asked me yesterday, was I ok? Obviously, She can tell something is wrong. The holidays is coming up and if I could die and come back when they're over I would. Sad, but true. Im fed up with the Affair, and Im tired of hurting. But I feel like Im on the verge of having a mental breakdown. My mother suggested that maybe I need to see a counselor. Has anyone else felt like this after ending the Affair? I miss him so much, but Im tired and cant take no more of running around in circles. yeah it sucks but you did the right thing it will hurt but guess what time will heal think about it if he really wnated you he wouldent have stayed married .what you did was strong ..girl your on your way to getting your own husban so let him go and dont do this again to you or your daughter you both need a man in your lives that will be there and dont have to run home to another woman or family 1
Ladydrib Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 I ended my Affair with my MM, but I feel like Im dying. I dont wanna work, clean up, eat,and etc. I've started drinking wine more then usual, to calm my nerves. I dont wanna be around anyone. I feel better when Im home alone. My 9 year old asked me yesterday, was I ok? Obviously, She can tell something is wrong. The holidays is coming up and if I could die and come back when they're over I would. Sad, but true. Im fed up with the Affair, and Im tired of hurting. But I feel like Im on the verge of having a mental breakdown. My mother suggested that maybe I need to see a counselor. Has anyone else felt like this after ending the Affair? I miss him so much, but Im tired and cant take no more of running around in circles. Good for you for being done!!! Give yourself a lot of praise for taking that step and facing the pain head on. Yes, it does feel that terrible. It hurts in your stomach and your heart. You don't want to do anything but sleep because you are less aware of the pain. BUT you want to get better, so you're going to have to find some additional strength (I know at this point you feel like you're running out of strength) but trust me, I know you can find a little extra! Use the extra strength to stay focused on not wavering. Do not go back. You went through all this pain, continue pushing along because waiting on the other side of this journey is a happier life. Also, use that strength to force yourself to do the things you don't want to do (cleaning, errands, hobbies, exercise, etc). These things are going to help the pain go away. The more you can throw yourself back into them, the faster your pain will dissolve. Allow yourself moments to be lazy and feel the pain. Expect that as you get better, you will have set backs. You will be feeling powerful and over it one day, then the next you'll be sick inside again. For me, it took about two months to get to that point, but I'm here! And I hurt a lot less than I did. Another important thing is to not let him invade your mind anymore. If you can, do not even make yourself accessible in the event that he tries to contact you. For example block his number ad email) if he does contact you, it will be a major set back. It will feel amazing for five minutes, a day, or god forbid if you get pulled back in for weeks, but you will soon find out that he's only coming back for more affair time and once you figure that out, you'll hurt all over again. So it's really important to not let him talk to you. Lots of women are going through this same thing and will be here to help you to a better place. Congratulations on walking away! Your heartache will go away. 1
phillyfan Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 Dude u did d rite thing by ending it. So now ur kid is sad because she knows mummy aint happy. So this douchebag basicly made ur kid upset. What a tool, he aint worth ur time just 4 tht. U gota kick ur own ass now, u gota show ur kid u r happy again, get down 2 d gym, throw d godam wine outta the house, stop feelin sorry 4 urself, go out live ur life, get in kickazz shape, eat well live well u will feel good, take ur kid out, make her laugh show her mummy is feelin good, then wen u meet a single dude who treets u rite u will look back and say FU wat the hell was I thinkin 2 this married dude, and ur kid will know what a good relationship looks liek. 1
Author hurtnomorerika Posted November 14, 2012 Author Posted November 14, 2012 Thanks, PhillyFan, This put a big on my face. Thanks, so much!!!! 1
canuckprincess Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 I ended my Affair with my MM, but I feel like Im dying. I dont wanna work, clean up, eat,and etc. I've started drinking wine more then usual, to calm my nerves. I dont wanna be around anyone. I feel better when Im home alone. My 9 year old asked me yesterday, was I ok? Obviously, She can tell something is wrong. The holidays is coming up and if I could die and come back when they're over I would. Sad, but true. Im fed up with the Affair, and Im tired of hurting. But I feel like Im on the verge of having a mental breakdown. My mother suggested that maybe I need to see a counselor. Has anyone else felt like this after ending the Affair? I miss him so much, but Im tired and cant take no more of running around in circles. May I ask how long you were in the affair for. I'm sorry your in so much pain. What really sucks is you have to keep it together for your child. Put your daughter first, and please take care of yourself. Treat yourself well.
Barrsitter Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 You are at the worst of it right now. Do hot yoga as much as possible. It will change your perspective and get this nimrod out of your head and heart. Whatever you do, don't go back to Mr. A-hole. He ain't worth the toilet paper you used today.
Author hurtnomorerika Posted November 15, 2012 Author Posted November 15, 2012 The affair went on for a 1 1/2 year. He lied when I met him, about his marriage. Now I wish so much that I had left when I found out. Now his wife is pregnant and it make the pain even more unbearable. Im not stupid I know he has sex with his wife but the pregnancy kind of symbolizes it.
Mount Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 How are you holding up OP? At the end of affair, even with the pain of break-up, also it is a light bulb moment for recognizing the thing of MM that you did not identify well before. Keep strong and it will all pass.
BucsFaninKC Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 The affair went on for a 1 1/2 year. He lied when I met him, about his marriage. Now I wish so much that I had left when I found out. Now his wife is pregnant and it make the pain even more unbearable. Im not stupid I know he has sex with his wife but the pregnancy kind of symbolizes it. Sounds like this guy wasn't worth the effort. Sorry you are hurting so bad.
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