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I am NC and have been NC for six months. of a 7 year relationship.

 

I just had to tell a friend that dumped his girlfriend. Things get better, time make's it easier.

 

Then i realized this is what my ex is doing. He's getting better. He's trying to get over me. If he hasn't missed me in six months, the next six will be even easier. ?

 

So i sit here knowing i can't contact him cause it will push him away. I sit here knowing in six more month he will over me. The passage of time is not healing my wounds i hope it heal's his. I hope he doesn't feel the pain i feel.

 

Does longer NC mean higher the chance they won't come back. ?

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I am NC and have been NC for six months. of a 7 year relationship.

 

I just had to tell a friend that dumped his girlfriend. Things get better, time make's it easier.

 

Then i realized this is what my ex is doing. He's getting better. He's trying to get over me. If he hasn't missed me in six months, the next six will be even easier. ?

 

So i sit here knowing i can't contact him cause it will push him away. I sit here knowing in six more month he will over me. The passage of time is not healing my wounds i hope it heal's his. I hope he doesn't feel the pain i feel.

 

Does longer NC mean higher the chance they won't come back.

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yes the longer NC is the easier it gets to let go.I always go NC when its time for me to heal, I went NO CONTACT with my ex for about six months when i moved interstate, the only reason he contacted em was because of our girls by that time i was still hurting but able to manage talking to him and we organised child support and such....he did threaten me with court first, i told him the facts what would happen if he did and we worked it out......I am in phone contact with him still and its been years....i am over him now, that initial no contact was needed for me to heal a little.....if i didnt have children i would have maintained no contact he is with someone else......

 

I feel when you have strong feelings for someone and they are not returned it has to be a no contact situation on either side it is not fair to play games with this....someone has to let go and someone has to leave.No contact isnt a game its a healing process used by people who are hurt to heal, I use no contact for this.I dont think it should be played with.The reason for no contact is defined it is used to heal not to hurt or entice interest........so i believe the longer the No contact is in place the easier it is to move on.......to heal and hopefully not have to go NO CONTACT with anyone else in your life.....i find no contact disheartening its not me.....dont like doing it.especially if no contact is initiated by me........its a case of doing what is necessary.......not to go back....but to move forward....deb

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Yes i'm guilt, i'm using NC to try to get my ex back..

 

But my also using NC to get to the point that I no longer believe he's coming back..... I guess this will take a long time.

 

I know how to speed this process up. To talk to him, and for him tell me again, that it's over. But i can't... that hurts too much.

 

Im so emotionally screwed. I just hope that one day he will realize his made a mistake.

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He will come back one day but there is a catch... They seem to come back the moment you truly move on, the moment you become excited about your new "single" life, start looking forward to your new bright (no longer clouded by him) future.

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It just feel's like its been forever. I really don't think he will come back. I just don't understand this belief. He said it, like a matter of fact. "It's over"

 

Men are stubborn and proud. I think pride will never make him come back.

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He will come back one day but there is a catch... They seem to come back the moment you truly move on, the moment you become excited about your new "single" life, start looking forward to your new bright (no longer clouded by him) future.

 

This is true in my experience! Both the guys I was most serious about / into (not including most recent ex) came crawling back when I had FINALLY gotten over them...and at that point I was just like "the fk?! NO!!!" :laugh:

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not all men are stubborn and proud OP ..and to your question nc only works if you really wish to move on,if not nc becomes another mind game and causes more suffering,as i see your still clinging on hope that your ex would return

 

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OP, NC begins with you. It is to save YOU hurt, pain, and to save your pride/integrity. But after time a long time generally NC is no longer NC, it is just regular life. I loved my EX deeply but we haven't spoken in 2 years. I no longer consider either of us in NC, we just are no longer in each others lives. So there is no need to speak, we weren't friends prior to our relationship and we weren't at the end.

 

Sometimes absence makes the heart grow founder and sometimes out of site out of mind. Just depends on many variables. Best thing to do is put it out your mind.

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