Eternal Sunshine Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 I can totally relate. I can't tell you how many times I've seen men my age who aren't the least bit attractive (the 55 year old is better looking), but I thought, hey, I should give them a chance, only to realize they had on wedding bands. After 30, even the undesirable men are taken. You're on you're way to the Guinness Book of World Records for most first dates! I don't know if I have the energy for that many dates. I've looked at the sites, and there was no one I was interested in. There weren't many to choose from and I knew quite a few or had been on a date or two with several. OLD won't work in my smallish town. Late 20's I'd consider. I get hit on by men 21-24ish. No thanks. I don't find young guys attractive. They look like little boys to me and we have nothing to talk about. ES, weren't you planning on coming to visit NYC? We should meet up if you do! Do you live close to NYC? I would love to meet up. I am planning that trip for mid next year.
Ross MwcFan Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 (edited) I think the fact that he is a co-worker is the worst part, even if he were your age. Do you like being gossiped about, laughed at, or pitied? If that's how her coworkers are then it's them who have the problem. I really hope they aren't like that, because if they are then they don't sound like nice people to work with at all. Edited November 14, 2012 by Ross MwcFan
Author iris219 Posted November 14, 2012 Author Posted November 14, 2012 (edited) PS: I wish I lived in a magical place with lots of single women and no men. Sigh! Many of the struggling LS guys need to come here. I honestly never knew men struggled with dating until LS because men do so well here. Do you live close to NYC? I would love to meet up. I am planning that trip for mid next year. I'm in the Southern US, which is a very short flight away. LS meet up in NYC would be fun! Edited November 14, 2012 by iris219 1
EasyHeart Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 Many of the struggling LS guys need to come here. I honestly never knew men struggled with dating until LS because men do so well here. I'm in the Southern US, which is a very short flight away.Hmmm, I am spending Thanksgiving in Atlanta. I have been practicing saying "y'all" for the past two weeks so that I will fit in. I am practically a Southerner already!!! 2
dasein Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 OP please just move already , start a thread in the career board and let us help you find a good job in an area where there are more single men your age. Apparently you live in the one place in the U.S. where there aren't a bunch of single men your age in a city within 50 or so miles. If that's truly the case, and your social and family goals are important, you will do what Sam Kinnison said and "Move to where the food is!!" 1
VeveCakes Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 It's just a date! Go for it... nothing to lose.
Author iris219 Posted November 14, 2012 Author Posted November 14, 2012 Hmmm, I am spending Thanksgiving in Atlanta. I have been practicing saying "y'all" for the past two weeks so that I will fit in. I am practically a Southerner already!!! Just remember, "y'all" is the plural of you and "all y'all" is the plural of y'all. OP please just move already , start a thread in the career board and let us help you find a good job in an area where there are more single men your age. Apparently you live in the one place in the U.S. where there aren't a bunch of single men your age in a city within 50 or so miles. If that's truly the case, and your social and family goals are important, you will do what Sam Kinnison said and "Move to where the food is!!" Guys, I'm not moving! You're just going to have to continue listen to me whine about the lack men in my area. 1
EasyHeart Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 Just remember, "y'all" is the plural of you and "all y'all" is the plural of y'all. I've been marathoning "Honey BooBoo" to learn how to be Southern. I've even learned to make 'sketti!!!
mesmerized Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 Just remember, "y'all" is the plural of you and "all y'all" is the plural of y'all. Guys, I'm not moving! You're just going to have to continue listen to me whine about the lack men in my area. Grow a couple of ovaries and move. Seriously, what are you so afraid of? 1
pcplod Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 I would stress that this is just my personal philosophy and is in no way a judgement because lots of people can make it work. And I am sure I read somewhere that a very large minority of people, if not a majority meet their partner through the workplace and that is even allowing for employers who try to suppress it. Never sh*t on your own doorstep. As for the age difference thing, well, I get the impression that is a bit of a lottery but is ultimately down to the state of mind of the two individuals, particularly over a long period of time. It is always worth bearing in mind that this opportunity hasn't even got off the ground and you are effectively writing it off already. If he is just playing you for potential sex, then that might be appropriate but who knows what his intentions are? What are yours, BTW? Always useful to have some idea. One step at a time?
Shaun-Dro Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 Should I go out with my 55 year old coworker? I’m hesitant to because of the age difference (I’m 33) and because we work together. Would you go for it? Do you not have enough of a life to avoid dating coworkers? This here will spell trouble for you deeper than the black lagoon.
Author iris219 Posted November 15, 2012 Author Posted November 15, 2012 Grow a couple of ovaries and move. Seriously, what are you so afraid of? I can't move. I've worked very hard to get where I am in my career. I can't give it up in hopes of moving somewhere and meeting someone. I'm 33; I can't drop everything and start over. Giving up a job I love and have worked towards my entire adult life for would be foolish (unthinkable, actually). I also love where I live (except for the dating aspect).
mesmerized Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 I can't move. I've worked very hard to get where I am in my career. I can't give it up in hopes of moving somewhere and meeting someone. I'm 33; I can't drop everything and start over. Giving up a job I love and have worked towards my entire adult life for would be foolish (unthinkable, actually). I also love where I live (except for the dating aspect). What is it that you do that make moving impossible? Sorry but I think these are all excuses...you've said in the past that you almost have no standard when it comes to men whatsoever. You think this is not foolish but looking for a career in another city is foolish??
Author iris219 Posted November 15, 2012 Author Posted November 15, 2012 What is it that you do that make moving impossible? Sorry but I think these are all excuses...you've said in the past that you almost have no standard when it comes to men whatsoever. You think this is not foolish but looking for a career in another city is foolish?? I'm not opposed to moving. Over the years, I have applied for jobs all over the country. I didn't get hired. It's very hard to get full-time positions in my field; I'm lucky to have one. I really don't think it's my city anyway. I think it's more my age group.
Tara247 Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 I wouldn't go on a date with this man. It seems perverted to me. This man is old enough to be your father.
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 I just scored a date with iris mid next year :bunny: 2
jcrew11 Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 HOw rich is this 55 year old? IF he's really poor or makes less then you, then forget about it. IF he's rich, then date him and see how it goes; and if he wants more children.
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