ellie10 Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 hey all advice greatly received... i have been in a six year relationship with someone who turned out to be my best friend lover confidante everything i could ever want. The only issue is any time something was wrong he would shut me out shut everyone to the point where he would just want to be on his own.. eighteen months ago he said he wanted to be on his own and live the single life he no longer loved me and to let him just get on with it.. i text him emailed him did everything i could eventually i gave him space i wrote him a letter and a week later he rang me.. im sorry i never stopped loving you your the best thing to ever happen to me. Untill now after that all was great ... so great we made the decision to get a place near me because that was near my work however meant a two hour round trip commute to work for him... weve been living together for 3 mths and i noticed him quiet so at the weekend i say u ok and he says im not happy i have no life here i know noone i spend all the time in the car ... i say look if u arent happy we look at moving home is where we are not here he says ill be ok ... then i mention marriage and he says f... i am not getting married i dont think i ever will so i reply what am i doing then what are we doing .. he says i dont know i dont think i love you anymore weve changed u mother me ur always looking out for me making sure im ok ( cos i knew he wasnt coping) .. im gonna move out ... but we cant our lease is tied up till may so hes there and im at my folks .. i know he always shuts me out when there is a problem tho this time he seems colder and indifferent .. i dont buy it tho ... the previous day he said we need quality time weve both been working hard and i love you .. we were affectionate .. pet names .. the lot .. what do i do i didnt see this coming
KatZee Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 He could have been going through the motions. I know he ended it the first time around and only a week later he came back. In my opinion I think he should have taken a lot longer than that one week to sort out his feelings of wanting to be single, etc. Breakup's hurt and sometimes people get back together prematurely because of that feeling of emotional attachment they have to their partner, they get scared, and backtrack without really digging deep into the real issues at hand. So he got back together and it seems as if those issues just crept back up and he's been holding it inside up until now. I don't think those original issues ever went away...
Balzac Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Welcome to LS. Take off your rise colored glasses. Why are you with your parents?
Author ellie10 Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 it didnt take a week the last time it took six
Author ellie10 Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 im staying with my parents cause hes in our house
KatZee Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 it didnt take a week the last time it took six One week, 6 weeks... it's about the same. Major change, and resolving feelings like that take MONTHS if not years.
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