Allumere Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 Y'all need to talk and do some individual pondering. Specifically before you go any further you each need to have some understanding about what you are looking for, whats important to you, what potential deal breakers could exist, how willing are you to compromise, do you both kids, do you care where you live or work, how important is career, etc., etc. You need to get feedback from him on these issues in terms of what it is he is looking for...he probably doesn't have all the answers but is using this exclusive time to see if there are any pitfalls/issues etc. Now if he man's up during this process, he will communicate with you immediately if something isn't sitting right but be careful because he may set you up/test you (consious or not). By being exclusive he is committing to exploring your potential together without the distraction of other woman (he should be anyway) so there is a commitment on his part. For some, commitment happens when he gives you a ring and not before. If things are moving forward with him saying that verses backwards (i.e., an I love you has been changed to I like you alot but) I wouldn't be concerned about him eyeing other options. If he is pulling back saying those things then I would say he is looking and maybe testing the waters.
grkBoy Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 Uggg I just wrote my whole story and it didnt post!!! Grrrr short version. He says he likes me a lot and loves spending time with me and wants to see where it goes. We are sleeping together and it's exclusive- but he def hasn't committed to me. It's been 6 months and we have progressed a lot. We started out as friends and then starting hooking up- its seemed to be going really well... Then he drops the " I like you, let's see where this goes but I don't know what my level of seriousness is yet, and I'd like to find out" I'm wondering if this is just bs It's time for the "put up or shut up" moment. Tell him how you feel...if he gives you the runaround, then tell him you want a solid RL and a boyfriend...not a "let's see where this goes".
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