From a "break" to aonther woman..to NC..to getting back together...to this!!

[BrokenDreamCatcher]

Maybe some of you can learn a lesson in this. From a "break" to him getting with someone else, to NC, to begging me to come back...now this..

 

My ex and I were together at that time for 7 1/2 yrs. When he suddenly asked for a "break", so I said ok, we can take a break and work on things. So, after about a month, he starts acting like he wants to get back together. Talks of the future, and babies, and marriage, so I of course wanted that very much. After vlose to 8 yrs I know it was long over due! But he then became very distant and off to me, I confronted him several times, only to continue to get the same LIE-nope nothing going on, stop trippin!

Ok, so that went on for 3 wks, I then decided enough is enough!

I KNEW something was up, but did not really want to face it.

But, I ened up finding out another woman was in the picture.

 

After confronting him, and telling him, I knew everything. He then, got very cold and mean, cut me off, ignored me and when he did talk back, he was very short and mean.

Told me to go away and move on, he owes me no explanation, we were on a break, he no longer wanted to be with me. She made him happy, and he wanted to be with her. At first I admit, I was pathetic, I did the crying, begging, why, why why, for about 2 wks.

All the while, him ignoring me, or saying something mean.

 

Then during this time we saw each other out somewhere, in front of some of his family and mine, he acted like nothing, and said "Hey, how are you?" I do all I can to keep my cool in front of everyone, and say "Good, you?" He then proceeds to leave right after that. I was LIVID! But hid it well! So after that, I wrote him a short but NOT so sweet message. He never replied, of course. I then blocked him on FB, on all ways we had contact, I deleted his #. I was DONE! I went into a deep depression, I was so full of anger and hurt!

 

So, NC form him or me, not a word. For a little over 2 months....I get a msg from him. Asking how I am, I ignored it...few days later I get another one saying, "I do not blame you for not replying, you have every right to hate me." I ignore it. Few days later..I get another one "I owe you a deep apology, I think about it all the time. I would like to see you face to face, so I can apologize, please" So, yep, I agree and we meet, he cries and gives a very deep, and what seemed like a very sincere apology. Then we start back up on LC, he was still with the other woman! So, I told him I couldn't talk to him, as long as he was with her. Well, he breaks up with her, and says he can't stand her, they were very uncompatible. So, I check her FB to make sure he is telling the truth! Well, her fb was open and so I checked it out, and seen that she had gotten back with her EX. So before you know it we are talking a lot, hanging out, and sleeping together again. Boy, love makes you STUPID!

 

So, I decide to bring up us getting back together, he backs off and will not go there with me. So, I don't say another word, I just start backing off to. I then start dating someone else. He finds out, he comes chasing me down, I mean full on crying everyday, at my house, he went to my family crying to them, he confesses all this undying love for me, and can't live without me, wants to marry me...I mean on and on. he then starts drinking every night..his sister tells me about it..his mom was telling me he is trying to change...I was firm, I tried not to crumble, even though all he put me through, I love this man!

 

So, this continues on, for 2 months, him coming at me. Saying no matter what I will not give up, I will prove to you that I am a new and changed man! Keeps telling me he can not live without me. So, I stop seeing the guy I was dating, it was never a full on relationship, just dating.

After I end that, I then proceed to work on things with him..and I am thinking that finally, we have our ***** together, and we will get married, and have our family. Well guess what??????!!!!!!! Here I am!!!! Why??? Well, because once again, he started acting weird! I see this chic popping up, him liking her pics on FB and what not, then I see she dedicates a song to him..and all this BS, I confront him, and he gets all pissed at me, saying I am acting crazy, it's nothing!

 

He then BLOCKS ME on FB and Instagram! But, continues to tell me she is just a friend, even his mom and sister, get in on it, and tell me she is just a friend! He says to me, "Her fiance cheated on her, I been helping her through it. That is why she dedicated that song to me. She has a BF" She has a bf? But don't dedicate that song to him?

But, he then lies to me about what is he doing the night before he leaves for TX, (he got new job, had to go to TX for 5 wks for training) he did not even see me! He said he was just gonna stay home, be ready to go to TX next day! LIES! I found out, he went to hang out with friends, oh and guess what? SHE was there!

 

He then goes to be in TX for 5 wks, that was 4 wks ago. Since he has been in Texas, he has been back and forth with me.

Basically, I now know, throwing me crumbs and stringing me along! Also, trying to make ME feel guilty!

I once again, went NC. So he sends me a msg, saying,"I do not want you out of my life. I just had to block you on everything, cause I am tired of you not letting my friends, say what they want on my fb and me say what I want to them, without you thinking I am f**king them." Ok, LIES, I only said ONE thing, ONE time, and it was this woman that you like all her pics, and go hang out with! But, I didn't say that to him, all I said was. "ok." And that will be that LAST time he hears from me!!

I am DONE with this man. 9 yrs now in each others lives and this is what I get!

 

Sorry so long! But, maybe some of you can learn a lesson here!

[BrokenDreamCatcher]

"A tiger does not change it's stripes." No matter how much they try to convince you! If your ex did you wrong, and left you. Be careful when they come back!

[Hopeful714]

Be done with him. I don't believe in "breaks" to me it means "I want to go sniff someone else out." And, I find that facebook is nothing but trouble when it comes to relationships.

 

Typically, of course the grass seems greener. Then the little honeymoon period is over and he misses you, or wants an ego boost to see if he can get you back.

 

I agree...he did you dirty. End the contact. Be done.