StandOut Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 I recently tried to get back with my Ex after i decided to take a break because we were going thru a lot we've been together for 4 years. After 2 and a half months I tried to get back with her and she didn't want to because she said i waited to long and I hurt her. She didn't want talk to me or go out anywhere with me. She texts me one night when i was out with friends that she loved. I said I did to and ask her if we can see each other. We had sex that night, then 3 days later we met for drinks. But she still wasn't trying get back with me This weekend was my birthday weekend and she seen me 2 nights in a row and we made out. Yesterday for my birthday I asked to come have dinner with me she said yes but only as a friend. When she said that it surprised me because previous times when we met up she never pulled the friend card. When we met she gave me a birthday cake and card. We went to a bar/grill and we talked about a lot of things (not about us). She text me when she got home and we exchange a few messages. My question is should I keep contacting her? When she told me the friend thing it confused me and I notice everytime we did meet up it was me inviting her not her. We've been texting everyday for a week till yesterday and again it's alway me contacting her. Should I continue this? Or should I wait till she does.
QdB Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 I recently tried to get back with my Ex after i decided to take a break because we were going thru a lot we've been together for 4 years. After 2 and a half months I tried to get back with her and she didn't want to because she said i waited to long and I hurt her. She didn't want talk to me or go out anywhere with me. She texts me one night when i was out with friends that she loved. I said I did to and ask her if we can see each other. We had sex that night, then 3 days later we met for drinks. But she still wasn't trying get back with me This weekend was my birthday weekend and she seen me 2 nights in a row and we made out. Yesterday for my birthday I asked to come have dinner with me she said yes but only as a friend. When she said that it surprised me because previous times when we met up she never pulled the friend card. When we met she gave me a birthday cake and card. We went to a bar/grill and we talked about a lot of things (not about us). She text me when she got home and we exchange a few messages. My question is should I keep contacting her? When she told me the friend thing it confused me and I notice everytime we did meet up it was me inviting her not her. We've been texting everyday for a week till yesterday and again it's alway me contacting her. Should I continue this? Or should I wait till she does. I would just leave her alone. Let her sort it out in her head. Women are forever in search for a perfect romance (or at least as close as they can get) she may feel like your not that. But I will tell you for sure this...DO NOT BE HER FRIEND!!! I was my ex friend for 2 years after BU...I loved her and because tht every little thing she said and did hurt my feelings. And constantly smh. Biggest regret/mistake I ever made in my life. Just let her be and do your own thing. She may come bck and he may night but bro I beg of you...do not wait around for this girl. As seen on this forum, 90% of the time it doesn't work in your favor
QdB Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 I'd ask her why she thought you two were just friends if you were also hooking up. maybe she wants a booty call type thing. I honestly don't know. The best thing for you to do is start playing hard to get, and see what happens. You can do this as well but if you are in love with get don't. Being her friend or playing anything will get your feelings hurt bro
Author StandOut Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 I know, I'm not going to contact her. Give her some space. But idk what to if she contacts me because I know she will try send me a random text. When I 1st tried the no contact thing it would take her 3 days not hearing from me for her to send me a random message. If she contacts me should tell her how I feel and tell her that her just trying to be friends is not going to work out with me. I'm more confused now then ever before. That friend thing yesterday threw me off lol
QdB Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 I know, I'm not going to contact her. Give her some space. But idk what to if she contacts me because I know she will try send me a random text. When I 1st tried the no contact thing it would take her 3 days not hearing from me for her to send me a random message. If she contacts me should tell her how I feel and tell her that her just trying to be friends is not going to work out with me. I'm more confused now then ever before. That friend thing yesterday threw me off lol That's exactly what you tell her if you decided to tell her anything at all. Protect your heart bro. Give to someone that you not without a shadow of a doubt really wants it. Not just deserves your heart but actually wants your heart
Author StandOut Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 So she contacted me today to say hey and ask me how was the cake she got me. That's the 1st time she made contact with me 1st. Don't know what it means but she never has done that before.
QdB Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 So she contacted me today to say hey and ask me how was the cake she got me. That's the 1st time she made contact with me 1st. Don't know what it means but she never has done that before. Yea I don't know what that means either. Could just be trying to see if the cake was actually good. As long as you know that your playing with fire while in contact with her, do what feels right to you
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