portman Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 I've been in a committed LDR for nearly 4 years. We are about 500km apart and try to see each other regularly. I've committed to relocating but even though she says she loves me she has refused to see me the past few months, finally telling me last week that she can't handle it anymore and needs a break which I agreed to. I've been trying hard not to contact her and give her the space she needs, but today she sent me a chat message saying she still loves me? I replied that I love her too but now regret it, the breaks been only a week. Am I right? Should I respond, ignore her? I really want her back but don't want to blow it.
Liz2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 I think you need to meet up and have a loooong chat. 4 years LDR is really long, that kinda has to end if you have hope I think.
KatZee Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 (edited) Honestly... you guys live 500+ miles apart. You haven't seen each other in months... you can't get much more "space" than that. I don't think this is a break at all, I think she's being a coward and taking the easy way out. I also wouldn't be surprised if there's a third party involved. This "break" gives her the perfect opportunity to go explore that, while you sit around in the background giving her this "space." If the guy doesn't work out, you're still there. I can't see how ANYONE can be IN LOVE with their partner and go months refusing to see them. That's not love. I think her profession of love was more guilt than anything. Now that you said it back to her, she thinks, "he still loves me. i'm not such a bad person after all." Edited November 13, 2012 by KatZee
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