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I don't get this line at all, I have heard this several times over the last year. Each time it was because something felt off, and I had to all but drag it out of them. Each time it's been because of things outside the relationship that they knew about up front.

 

For the love of god, why would you start dating someone, when you know significant life changes are imminent that would end pretty much any fledgling relationship? :mad::mad::mad:

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I don't get this line at all, I have heard this several times over the last year. Each time it was because something felt off, and I had to all but drag it out of them. Each time it's been because of things outside the relationship that they knew about up front.

 

For the love of god, why would you start dating someone, when you know significant life changes are imminent that would end pretty much any fledgling relationship? :mad::mad::mad:

 

yeah i have heard that once before and its was the person way of trying to keep me but dident want me to know what he was doing i had to drag it out of him then he said he dident want to hurt me wow

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yeah i have heard that once before and its was the person way of trying to keep me but dident want me to know what he was doing i had to drag it out of him then he said he dident want to hurt me wow

 

Not only does it make no sense. It's also a complete lie. The person that use that line always hurts you somewhere down the line. Us dragging it out of them just makes it happen sooner. It's really inevitable smh doesn't hurt any less tho

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Not only does it make no sense. It's also a complete lie. The person that use that line always hurts you somewhere down the line. Us dragging it out of them just makes it happen sooner. It's really inevitable smh doesn't hurt any less tho

 

 

It does the opposite the exact opposite to me, it doesn't hurt, it enrages. My time is limited and precious to me, so wasting it is a good way of getting yourself stung.

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It does the opposite the exact opposite to me, it doesn't hurt, it enrages. My time is limited and precious to me, so wasting it is a good way of getting yourself stung.

 

Well the other way round doesn't massively feel good either - though it's true that less time gets wasted and you don't get entangled.

 

One guy I liked told me a few weeks ago that he was moving to another country. The like was mutual though we hadn't started dating. I wasn't angry with him (I knew he wasn't happy in the UK) but lost interest in talking to him completely as I didn't want to invest more and it's not like we can be just friends. That kinda made me feel sh**ty because he got a little upset.

 

Lose-lose situation. I'll probably take him off facebook once he is off abroad

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Lose-lose situation. I'll probably take him off facebook once he is off abroad

 

it's for sure a Lose-lose situation, what I don't get, is why some of the women I have dated over the last year have procrastinated with respect to letting me know. I mean to borrow a British term it's "bloody obvious" the longer you wait the worse it will be for both parties.

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Oh yeah, I've heard that one before. How about "I love you, I'm just not IN LOVE with you." Ha ha ha ...

 

It's a cop out is what it is. They think they are right and everyone else is wrong for a brief moment, and then they realize that they are wrong after a while and then come back. Idiots. All of them.

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People are selfish and scared of being honest because they think that if they hold all the cards, they can protect themselves from being hurt. And they believe that just because they have been hurt before, they don't need to take any responsiblity for a future romantic partner's emotional health.

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