Holy **** I'm so lost

[superomar13]

Okay so theres this girl, that Ive liked for quite a while. I always admired her, didnt think about her all the time, but I admired who she was and what she believed in. Anyways, I finally got the balls to start talking to her a month back, legit conversations I mean we knew of each other before, and for the past two weeks weve constantly been talking day and night. Now, the messed up part is, I knew she had a boyfriend. To respect what they had, and to keep her happy, I tried cutting it off early on, but she didnt let me. Thats when we started getting really close, Now I have strong feelings for her, but she never admitted she had feelings for me. When I asked her about it she said: "Omg don't ask me that!" Everything she did however, showed signs that she really liked me. She did really sweet things, and we'd never talk about her boyfriend, always make each other laugh, we just really connected etc. Then her boyfriend finds out, she freaks out thinking hes going to break up with her, takes me off everything after saying "im so sorry, Im so so sorry you dont deserve any of this," and deletes my number. It hurts, but I know I'll get over it. A day passes, she texts me saying: this is bull****, I cant stop talking you after we talked so much." So we talk the entire day, and I tell her we really do need to stop talking, and she agrees and we stop. The next morning at 6 am, she texts me a picture of a drawing she stood up the whole night working on, of a picture I told her to draw for me, then tells me to wake up and falls asleep next to her phone. We just continue talking after that for a good two days till I realize I'm getting attatched to her, and she has a boyfriend. I DON'T want to get friend zoned with this amazing girl, so I tell her im cutting her off, and delete her off everything and her number. I told her if shes ever single then we'll see what happens, and that I dont want to get friend zoned by her if theres ever a chance of me being with her. That was yesterday, today she texted me a random quote that I didnt reply too, then ten minutes ago texted me this:

Ill try not to text you again after this..

I just wanted you to know I think you're amazing and I'm so sad not to have you right now

I constantly have to distract myself because if I get a chance to think about you it hits me like a ton of bricks that you're out of my life. I just grew too tired to draw anymore so my head wandered and that's why I'm being an idiot and texting you right now.

Don't feel bad because I'm sad. I don't want you to feel bad, just know that you've had just as much of an impact on me and my life as you say I've had on yours

I have never met anyone like you, I have never met someone with such a distinct understanding and perception of life and I've never met someone so sure of themselves and capable..

You inspire me to do amazing

You made me so confident and you were a bigger help to me than you'll ever know

I could never thank you enough for everything you've done for me

I respect you for doing what's best for you

I don't know if ill ever connect with someone the way I did with you

Probably not

The friendship and connection we had is something that I don't think a lot of people get to experience

So although it was short lived it will be in my heart for such a long time

Thank you for everything

Don't worry I know you will not reply back

Listener - wooden heart

I don't know if I showed you before

But that song reminds me of you and reminds me of us and the confidence and strength and support you gave me

You're incredible

 

What the hell do I do, I'm so lost. She has a boyfriend, and I really want her, what should I do.

Edited November 13, 2012 by superomar13

[ladyabstrused]

What the hell do I do, I'm so lost. She has a boyfriend, and I really want her, what should I do.

 

Nothing. You try to move on. With that message, it's clear she's choosing to stick by her boyfriend and you should respect that. As painful as it will be.

[superomar13]

Ah I see. Well if shes ever single, atleast she'll already be attracted to me lol, but by then she'll know I have the pants on and that's if I decide to let myself back into her life

[MrVegas]

Its a hard choice to make, but it is the right one. If it was easy to deal with love, sex, and romance, this site wouldn't exist, no one would cheat and springer would still be in politics.

 

You should be proud of your decision, regardless of getting friend-zoned, at the end of the day, for as long as she had a boyfriend, you would be constatnly reminding each-other of what you can't have And if you had it anyway, it would only make things more confusing and painful.

 

With what she wrote, you seem to have made an impact on her. I am sure you would get a homefield advantage if her relationship didn't work out and she was looking for a new boyfriend.

[porcelainprincess]

Hi there,

 

I'm replying because I have received a text message from my not-single friend that was ALMOST IDENTICAL to yours. I know you are probably considering staying and waiting in the wings to hope for a chance with this girl, which is what I did.

 

I can honestly tell you they will not change (at least in my situation). They will promise you the moon and stars, but it will never come to life. By staying in contact with this person, I have ended up experiencing emotional, verbal, and even physical abuse at their hand

 

I will urge you to protect your heart & take the time to instead nurture the fire within you

[kamani]

Her message screams 'I LOVE U'.

 

But the bitter truth is that she has a BF and she's not going to leave him for you.

 

I understand your pain.

 

I don't want you to live in a dream that she might come to you someday. That's not certain and you can't wait that long.

 

By staying in touch with her would only worsen things. You have made the right decision to cut her off. Do it now before it inflicts more pain on you.

[phillyfan]

Dude she got all tht in a text?!

 

Anyways, she wants u bad but shes got wayyyy 2 much bagage, u gota play d long game here dont give the girl no love until she is on her own.