nballstar Posted August 5, 2004 Posted August 5, 2004 [font=courier new][/font][color=black][/color] I am working with this girl and she seems to like me quite a bit. She acts very nice and flirts with me a lot. The problem is she has a boyfriend she has been going out with for about a year. She metions him every once in awhile, but not a whole lot. Am I correct in assuming that she likes me and should I pursue it or should I back off because she has a boyfriend? I like her a lot, but don't want to mess up her life and our friendship if I am wrong.
ziggue Posted August 5, 2004 Posted August 5, 2004 She may be just flirting with you because she thinks your cute and likes the attention that you keep giving her and that may flatter her. . Don't mess up your friendship with her. You see her everyday at work. You don't want to make the situation any worse by breaking up something that may mean a lot to her. Just hang around in the background and see what happens with her and this guy. You are her friend so you may hear of when something might happen in the relationship or not. Who knows what may happen in the future?
mr7man Posted August 5, 2004 Posted August 5, 2004 If she's not married, she is still on the market. How do you feel about her? Are you falling for her? The best life partners, in my opinion, are good friends that eventually get married. When I met my wife(of 20yrs) she was dating another guy for about 4 yrs, but things started to cause them to question their relationship. Then, I came along and showed her another side of life. You don't know what you don't know. (you may need to read that sentence again) It's what you DON't know that can hurt you. I just showed her what she was missing. Maybe you are doing the same for this girl. I think you are in a good position seeing that she can talk with you on a regular basis. And if she's flirting, great- as long as you want her too. When she brings up her bf, you can feel her out by dropping subtle hints about how lucky a guy he is to have such a nice woman like her. See what her reaction/reply is. If you get a positive answer, then push the line in the sand every chance you get. If she gives an answer reaffirming her love for him, then back off a bit. Be patient if you are really interested in her. Let time prove YOU the better suitor. Other than that, flirting is always fun and is good for both your egos. Enjoy your time with your lady-friend- whatever it leads to. Everybody can always use another good friend.
Pocky Posted August 5, 2004 Posted August 5, 2004 Normally, I'd have to agree with the idea that "if she's not married then she's not taken" but with the way our society is changing, some people do not feel it is imperative for them to marry and may never marry. The fact that they haven't participated in this social norm doesn't necessarily diminish the bond the two of them have together. I'd just move forward cautiously and I wouldn't make any assumptions just because she's flirting with you. Flirting doesn't always mean someone is interested in a relationship. She may just enjoy your friendship and expresses herself in a flirtatious manner.
faux Posted August 5, 2004 Posted August 5, 2004 If you work with this girl, it is probably a good idea to keep the relationship professional. Even if you flip burgers together, getting involved with someone you work with may not be a good idea. Seeing as she is taken, I would recommend that you not try to pursue anything. If she were to leave her boyfriend for you, I wouldn't see that as a good sign.
DazednConfused Posted August 5, 2004 Posted August 5, 2004 Should I date a taken woman? No. Have some respect for the guy she is dating. If you know she wants to pursue a relationship with you, simply insist that she break up w/ he b/f first.
Johnny16 Posted August 5, 2004 Posted August 5, 2004 Ya really show some respect for this guy. I am sure he will be very hurt if you two begin dating. Think about others feelings, instead of yourself. How would you feel....if a guy took the girlfriend you had been dating for over a year? Pretty ****ty huh? So dont do it. Tell her you think it's wrong that she has a boyfriend and that shes being very flirtatious with you. This wont ruin the friendship, just let her know that she should do this when she is single.
honey2005 Posted August 5, 2004 Posted August 5, 2004 No. Even if they're not married, they are still together. If she didn't want to be with him she would break up with him, then it would be alright for you to date her.
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