coffeeloverx Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 So, most of you know, ex and I broke up around 4 months ago, we've been NC for pretty much that entire time. I've gotten rid of most of everything related to us, donated the clothes, burned some of the love notes, etc, etc. I had asked him if he wanted any of these things back but he never responded. So I took that as a he didn't want anything back and did the above with it. I returned his favorite jacket however, since heg ot it from Peru. Fast forward to tonight I got a text from him saying "I want my necklace back." I was confused. Said necklace is a necklace he gave me 3 months after we started dating .It was his grandmother's that her husband had given to her when they were courting, or that was the story I was given. It's lived in my jewelry box ever since then. I didn't touch it since I wasn't sure what to do with it. So question, what do I do with it? Do I give it back? It was a gift and personally I think you don't go around demanding that you want gifts back, but at the same time it was his grandma's, I guess in a way I'm fearful he'll give it to somebody else. However, another part of me thinks I should just give it back and be done with it, it'd be another step to me moving on. Any advice on what to do with this? Part of me is tempted to tell him to come and get it himself if he wants to get it or throw it into the lake but eh.
theLWord Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Give it back.. If it was your grandmas, you'd want it back..don't do anything cold by throwing it in a lake, you'd regret it.
spaniard Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Give it back to him, definitely, I think it would help you get a closure. However, if I can recommend something, don't do it personally. Either ask him to get it for you and leave home (if you live with your family) or you can use postal service or ask a mutual friend or whatever, but don't do it personally.
veggirl Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 I would give it back. I agree that gifts are "for keeps" but a grandma's necklace seems a bit different. He's an idiot for giving something like that to a gf of 3 months but at the same time, years from now you won't even give 2 hoots about this guy but will be embarrassed if you throw the necklace out or keep it out of spite. I'd just mail it back.
Exit Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 I would give it back. I agree that gifts are "for keeps" but a grandma's necklace seems a bit different. He's an idiot for giving something like that to a gf of 3 months I agree with this. If it were just any old gift he had given you and was now demanding back, you could ignore him. But this is a little different. I would find a way to give it back to him that doesn't involve any interaction though. Don't let this become an excuse to talk to him or let him find out what you're up to. Mail it, give it to a friend to deliver it, etc.
pathetic1999 Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 I think I am going to be the off person here...I do think in the end you should give it back but not just give it after such a rude request and mostly in light of that you asked if he wanted anything back and he didn't respond. I think I would let him sit for a while, don't toss the necklace or anything because it is special but I would make him be nice about it.
Author coffeeloverx Posted November 15, 2012 Author Posted November 15, 2012 Thanks for the advice guys! I think for now I'm just going to keep it in my jewelry box and let myself cool off a bit more. I have a lot more moving on and things to do before I want ot deal with that I think. I know it's just a necklace, at the same time it had a large meaning in our relationship and I'm not sure if I'm ready to part with it just yet. I think I'll keep it for a bit longer and when I'm ready, I'll mail it back to him.
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