laydeedove Posted August 5, 2004 Posted August 5, 2004 I have been with my current boyfriend for 7 yrs. but before i met him i was madly in love with my old bf who i met freshman year of high school. I'm now 25. So we kept in touch over the years the last time i saw or talked to him was 2 yrs ago...until recently he called me out of the blue. I thought maybe he jus wanted to know how i was blah blah blah and that would be that. But he called everyday for a week after that. Then all of a sudden he stopped calling me so we started talking online.. but when i would IM him sometimes he wouldn't respond. By this time all my old feelings had started to return. Finally we had a talk. He told me that he wanted to build a relationship with me but he didn't want to have sex , he didn't want to be the reason why i left my current bf, and he just wanted us to be friends. So we communicated here and there and i ended up breaking up with my bf anyway, because in my heart i always have wanted to be with this old bf from my past. i told him that i was single again and we started to get a little bit closer we saw each other and talked alot. But all of a sudden he started to be distant again. And i hadn't talked to him in over a month. I'd say hi online and no response. I started to think maybe i had hurt him in the past and he wants to get me back for it. I was so confused and heart broken. I don't know why he's being like this he wants me one minute then doesn't the next. So within that month i got back with my bf when i told him that he was furious and he told me that i was selfish and no wonder why he hasn't heard from me. And that i haven't been there for him and he hopes i'm happy and i have what i want. I'm so confused because i'm a good-hearted person and i did alot for him, but never got anything in return. I have a feeling he will be back....i need help analyzing this situation so i can just get over him it's so hard. What does he want and how should i act towards him now.
kodiak Posted August 5, 2004 Posted August 5, 2004 I have to say I was a little confused while reading yoru post. You are with your ex boyfriend now or you are not with anyone. From what i got from it is that the moment you started to get closer to your ex ex boyfriend he was distant towards you. Not sure though??? Anyways the thing that you have to remember is that there could be many reasons why yoru ex contacted you. He truly could miss you and want to start a relationship with you. Im not sure who broke up with who but at this point it doesnt really matter. Its been awhile. However he could be rebounding from another relationship and figures that you might be available. I dont know and thats only a possibility. You said that you were with yoru current BF for 7 years. Thats a very longtime and thats awesome. However you have to ask yourself our these feelings you are having maybe just because you feel like you might be getting a little bored with the current guy. This happens all the time to couples and you have to know how to spark things up again. Just maybe this old BF from the past is your soulmate and its time know to realize that you two are meant to be together. It is important that you talk to him and see what he is feeling. I know its hard because right know he is ignoring you. Just make sure that whatecver decision you make is the right one. Listen to what your heart is telling you. Go on a trip by yourself or whatever so that you can have some alone time to figure things out. 7 years is a very longtime to through away on a guy that might be coming back for all the wrong reasons. Good Luck and let me know?
Dork Posted August 6, 2004 Posted August 6, 2004 old feelings are old familiarities. that is all. 7 years is a long time, he probably has no one else and is using you as a backup plan. go for single men please.
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