taya Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 i have read a few post on here today about the man leaving to be with another woman or he stop all contact because hes with another woman but bottom line is these woman want advice how to cope with this heart brake i my self have had to deal with that in my past he stop talking to me stop contacting me because he wanted someone eles so i know the pain and the urge you get everday to text him and praying that he will wake up and see that he had a mistake i got over mine he did come back to me but i dident want him by then.... but what advice you can give woman that is in this position now to help them from day to day to not contact him and to feel better and let him go???i know a few people have been thur this them self so what help you??
january2011 Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Finding myself by making my world bigger than the breakup. If there was one activity that helped the most, I'd say it was attending meetups. Supplemented by volunteer work, adult education, getting a professional qualification or three, travelling, exercise, setting goals for my future, learning new skills and other ways of re-connecting with the world and the people in it. And then ultimately, finding love with someone else. What you'll realise is that it isn't really the loss of the person that hurts, it's the loss of the hopes and dreams that you built around that person. So, create new ones and keep some that are just for you.
Author taya Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 Finding myself by making my world bigger than the breakup. If there was one activity that helped the most, I'd say it was attending meetups. Supplemented by volunteer work, adult education, getting a professional qualification or three, travelling, exercise, setting goals for my future, learning new skills and other ways of re-connecting with the world and the people in it. And then ultimately, finding love with someone else. What you'll realise is that it isn't really the loss of the person that hurts, it's the loss of the hopes and dreams that you built around that person. So, create new ones and keep some that are just for you. yeah what you say is so true,, it isn't really the loss of the person that hurts its the loss of the hope and dreams ..i read this one post and this girl say he left me and we plan all of our future she say thats why she cant let go.. i had to remind her hes with someone eles he maybe planing a future right now with her ...
january2011 Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 i read this one post and this girl say he left me and we plan all of our future she say thats why she cant let go.. i had to remind her hes with someone eles he maybe planing a future right now with her ... Which is why the perfect counter is for the girl in the post to start planning her own future, a bright shiny one for herself. 1
Author taya Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 Which is why the perfect counter is for the girl in the post to start planning her own future, a bright shiny one for herself. so true i have been in her shoe and know its not easy but he chose to be with someone eles nothing you can do about it we cant force any one to be with us so when they leave you set them free
Author taya Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 Why in the world would anyone fight for someone AFTER they left you for someone else? people do it all the time they just cant let go read alot of these post on here and you see what am talking about you may not do it but some people do it thinking they can get him or her back ...my point is it doest work the guy already chose someone eles but that dont stop some people from trying to get them back thats why i ask for advice so people can see that they can let go
january2011 Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 I think a lot of people getting addicted to the habits and routines that come with being in a relationship...moreso than being with the actual person. The persons face just happens to be attached to it all. A good point and nicely put, malibu! 1
Author taya Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 Why in the world would anyone fight for someone AFTER they left you for someone else? i for one in the past i have been in their shoe and know its not easy but he chose to be with someone eles nothing you can do about it we cant force any one to be with us so when they leave you set them free ..mine was bad i cryed beg and acted a fool over him and ask him to chose me i text so many angre text to him but finaly one day i gave up i had enough but by then it hurted much more because he chose her and i could see it for sure .... from he told me that she wanted him back and he was trying to figure this out i should have left but i stayed thinking he would have chose me ...i have learn to never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option...and i never text him or called him again from that it was a sad lession i put my self thru but i can truly say i have learn ..the sad thing is some people never learn
Author taya Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 Did you learn that before or after the above saying became popular to use? haha yeah learn it 3 years ago and teaching my self it in ever relationship i get into so i dont know when the obove saying became pupular to use ...but i know when i have learn my lession i use the saying because it best fits what am trying to say and its a quote i live by ever day ..so tell me when it became popular cause i dont know?????
FitChick Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 it isn't really the loss of the person that hurts, it's the loss of the hopes and dreams that you built around that person. I think that is what makes it more painful than just losing a person. You've lost so much more. 1
Author taya Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 I think that is what makes it more painful than just losing a person. You've lost so much more. yeah but have to have to let go and think about it if he or she thinks you were worth as much as they are worth to you would they have chose someone eles ?? no so why make them so improtant when you were not to them
Author taya Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 From what I can tell on google....it seems to have come to life around 2002 lol haha i was being funny tho you really went and look your funny
Author taya Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 I know you were, but I got nothing else to do. wow am here so busy i should give you some of my work lol
Under The Radar Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Guys, keep going, this is entertaining me! 1
Author taya Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 Guys, keep going, this is entertaining me! lol wow which one him coming over to help me or the post i wrote lol haha
Author taya Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 I'll be right over ok lol but in we in two diffrent states hun lol
Under The Radar Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 lol wow which one him coming over to help me or the post i wrote lol haha BOTH :lmao:
Author taya Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 BOTH :lmao: lol your so funny too cute haha
Negative Nancy Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Did you learn that before or after the above saying became popular to use? 1
Anela Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 yeah but have to have to let go and think about it if he or she thinks you were worth as much as they are worth to you would they have chose someone eles ?? no so why make them so improtant when you were not to them That's what makes it worse - and it took my confidence level down to a new low, due to the way it happened, and his behaviour with me before and afterwards. I lost precious time, just as Lonely Ronin said in another thread - and when I needed something good to happen. I'm more isolated than many, so distractions weren't easy to come by: one reason I miss living in the London area.
mortensorchid Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 The only think you can do is to move on by getting busy. Don't sit around the house all day lamenting the loss, you have to get up and get moving and do something about it. It's hard to do, but if it was easy then everyone would do it and not care. Depression and mental illness exist, but they are not things that we have to bow down to. It's an active process that we all have to deal with. 1
Author taya Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 Distance cant hold back a man on his quest to be with a beautiful woman lol haha that was nice
Author taya Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 The only think you can do is to move on by getting busy. Don't sit around the house all day lamenting the loss, you have to get up and get moving and do something about it. It's hard to do, but if it was easy then everyone would do it and not care. Depression and mental illness exist, but they are not things that we have to bow down to. It's an active process that we all have to deal with. what you saying is so so true for me it was hard i felt like i dident want to do any thing during the day and i just slep alot and mope and cry but finaly i got out of it i think to my self is he doing all of this no he was not so why should i live like this and i change my mind set and start meeting new people new guys new friends going out and he fade everday he fade out of my mind
Author taya Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 That's what makes it worse - and it took my confidence level down to a new low, due to the way it happened, and his behaviour with me before and afterwards. I lost precious time, just as Lonely Ronin said in another thread - and when I needed something good to happen. I'm more isolated than many, so distractions weren't easy to come by: one reason I miss living in the London area. awww wow sorry it was so hard for you hun ..did this just happen?? did he recently left??
Author taya Posted November 14, 2012 Author Posted November 14, 2012 (edited) BOTH :lmao: lol hey if you see anythng on here diffrent they delete what that guy said on here his name start with c i dont even know him..see guys like that in real life are so desrespectful to woman then they wonder why they dont have any lol and he tryedd to mess with the wrong one ..i ask them to tell him to never post on any of my post again ..so i hope he got the message and thanks for saying something your the best Edited November 14, 2012 by taya
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