scottlyn Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 So there is a guy that has been interested in me and flirting with me for over a year or at least that's what I thought until I gave him my telephone number recently and he NEVER called! We attend the same church and about a year ago I noticed that more often then not we'd share eye contact, smiles, he'd wink at me, etc. Over the months it became more and more evident and flirtatious. He'd be engaged in conversations with other people while looking and smiling at me the entire time. He'd always go out of his way to come say hello to me and compliment me on my appearance. He works with the communications department and a few times he came to me and asked if I like the photos of me that he put in the newsletter, on the website, etc. For months I kept thinking to myself surely he's going to ask me out and I made it a point to "make myself available" without being needy or desperate. I made sure I began to reciprocate his flirting equally...for example, whenever he'd wink at me, I'd wink back. I am I am very attracted to him and but whenever he approaches me I turn into "shy girl" which is weird because I am not normally shy EVER, but where I'd normally have witty conversation with anyone else...I never manage that with HIM. Anyhoo, after months of what I thought was flirting, I decided to make the move and gave him my number, but he never called. He still approaches me everytime he sees, I still catch him looking at me often to point of having conversations across the room filled with hundreds of people. I am lost...It's been more than 5 weeks since I have him my number and even if he's not interested in me like that I thought he'd at least call and say hey I think you're cool, let's be friends. Now I just want to flat out ask him why didn't he call me...but I feel like that's breaking some sort of dating code. Any advise?
FitChick Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Don't bother. He's curious but not romantically interested.
SJC2008 Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Does he seem shy? Ask around about him. Some men can be cool and have regular interactions with women (which will come accross as "confidence") but be to shy to ask for a number/date. I have a friend just like this. He comes accross as an alpha male but isn't. Now when he has a few in him it's a whole nother story!
Tara247 Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Don't ask him. If he didn't call, he's not really interested in you. Move on.
crude Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Now I just want to flat out ask him why didn't he call me...but I feel like that's breaking some sort of dating code. Any advise? You must never do that. According to some book that was published years ago, if he doesn't call you, he's not interested. If you don't call him, it doesn't mean that you're not interested. The woman must never, ever call, according to that book. If you violate that book's rule, you're screwed for life somehow. 2
Mint Sauce Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 just ask him; nothing to lose, lots to gain.
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