Is there a certain type of intelligence women are attracted to?

[Mary Shadows]

Women say that they are attracted to intelligence, is there a specific type of intelligence that women are attracted to?

 

I ask because I consider myself intelligent and I have never had a woman attracted to me because of that reason.

 

When it comes to education, statistics would put me in the top 10% of Americans and never have I seen it impress a girl.

 

Is it because the women I usually hang out with are just as intelligent and just as educated as me? Or is there a certain type of woman who is attracted to intelligence?

 

 

Of course it's attractive. I wouldnt pass up a strong, confident, intelligent, kind, loving man. There is something intriguing about a young man studying in law school. However, there are more layers to a person.

[Under The Radar]

Do you guys find that, generally, the higher the IQ the lower the EQ?

[dreamingoftigers]

You are responding to me about this as if I was trying to date these women. I was simply stating how it is interacting with them. I am no longer allowed to date anyone at work because of my position.

 

1. I re-read and specifically noted that the approach used would not garner the woman that you want. You want an intelligent woman. Most intelligent women can pick up on the resentful, generalist attitude.

 

2. There wasn't any mention of work that I noticed. I hope you are not like this at work to people.

 

3. Dating any woman with the "women this" "women that" attitude, which all of the seemingly bitter connotations you mentioned is really a big turn-off to all but the dysfunctional women. Intelligent or not.

 

4. Read the damn book, you might learn something. Promise I'll get an intelligent woman up here to read The Male Brain in exchange. Or don't, whatever, saves me time.

[dreamingoftigers]

Do you guys find that, generally, the higher the IQ the lower the EQ?

 

I haven't found an overall correlation but I have seen some at both extremes.

 

It's nice when a guy has both.

[Under The Radar]

I haven't found an overall correlation but I have seen some at both extremes.

 

It's nice when a guy has both.

 

It's nice when a girl has both .

[Mrlonelyone]

A guy who can read her, empathize and share great fantastic information about the world, discoveries etc etc etc will look much brighter than the Nobel Prize laureate who is droning on about stuff way above her head.

 

No offense but a Nobel Prize Laureate wants a woman to whom the stuff he would IYO "drone" about is also her line of work.

 

Yet another example. John Forbes Nash and Alicia DeLarde. Both PhD's in mathematics and physics respectively.

 

Why do people feel a need to put down academically demonstrated intelligence? Do ya'll not realize that the bright glowing boxes you are reading this on were created by such people?

[ls32ssibm]

It's something they say they want to sound classier but in the end don't care about as long as you have the more primal necessities. Kind of like how a guy might say they want a girl who is funny, but that will go right out the window once they find a hot chick with big tits.

[IT Geek]

Do you guys find that, generally, the higher the IQ the lower the EQ?

 

I think that sums it up for me, unfortunately.

 

I'm a PhD candidate (unconventional student), a Senior IT Infrastructure Architect, Genius IQ, and hell at trivia. But my EQ is in the basement.

[Jane2011]

I'm a lot more into arts/humanities/philosophy/politics/social sciences intelligence than I am into math, science, computer-science, engineering intelligence.

 

Also, I'd rather date a lawyer than a doctor (going solely by profession)

 

My ideal profession for a guy...humanities or social sciences professor.

[Jane2011]

Not really? Think about it. In hunter gatherer cultures what males got the most sex?

 

The big war chiefs, good hunters, and the medicine elders (many of whom were two spirited). What did all those people do but adorn themselves with feathers and other brightly colored symbols of their achievements.

 

Today people with academic smarts dress up like this once a year

http://capsandgownsdirect.com/doctoralpics/capsgownsdirect256.jpg

Suppose how we would think of people with a PhD if they wore that to work everyday. I can tell you at the commencement ceremonies grad students in cap gown and hood get a different kind of respect.

 

Add to that when these specially addressed and respected people say.. invent something, cure a disease, discover a new understanding of the world. Intelligent women will appreciate that in a man. Likewise men of intelligence appreciate these qualities in a woman.

 

That is the reason that

 

John Adams and Abbigail got together. Their letters are laced with so many litterary and philosophical references the mind boggles.

 

Albert Einstein married Milieva Maric even while Albert wasn't the best student she saw him as a man of great genius. As she would say it herself "He was Einstein!"

 

Peirre Currie married Marie after being sure he'd never find a woman who could keep up with him and vice versa.

 

Heck every scientist I know is married to or mated with someone who's at least as creative as them.

 

Bottom line: People date, mate, and marry assortatively based on both intelligence (and it's products such as art, invention and degree's) and looks.

 

I agree that people tend to get together with sameness. I'm a humanities teacher who is dating a humanities teacher. I don't think we're on the exact same level (I think he's smarter), but we're of the same basic background...

[GorillaTheater]

Also, I'd rather date a lawyer than a doctor (going solely by profession)

 

The difference being that we'll merely screw you over in the divorce, but we won't kill you.

[serial muse]

I beg to differ. Because the intelligent women I have known...agree that most females fit into the exact mold that I speak of. They dont try to defend it. They are above it.

 

As a woman....if you cant see that more than 50% of women...(which would be defined as the majority) are catty, lying, backstabbing, jealous, creatures......than you are either delusional, or you are trying to cover for them. Which do you choose?

 

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Wow.

 

OK. Something I find attractive in a man is when he is above this. A man who is intelligent enough to know that the impulse to insult "most" women (or "most" men, yes) comes from a place of emotional hurt within himself, not from an actual objective knowledge of most of the women/men of the world. This is a nice quality in women too.

 

I also find it attractive when a guy doesn't succumb to proofiness, such as the usage of fake percentages as a way to try to pretend there's something scientific about his hurt.

 

Proofiness is really unattractive and has exactly zip to do with intelligence, although it tries hard.

Edited November 13, 2012 by serial muse

[serial muse]

Why do people feel a need to put down academically demonstrated intelligence? Do ya'll not realize that the bright glowing boxes you are reading this on were created by such people?

 

I agree...there are 7 billion people in the world, it's cool if some of them go for different personality types/types of intelligence/body types/sexual orientations/whatnot.

[Anela]

And thats why most women get used by men. Because too many of you fall for guys that make you "think" they care...instead of you being mature enough to deal with a man that doesnt bite his tongue.

 

If YOU dont apply to the scenario then what the hell do you care? THATS whats wrong with so many women...you all gang together as if it bothers you that many women DO fit the mold. Yet as soon as a guy is trying to date you....you all distance yourselves from the pack,,,saying "oh I'm not like other women".

 

Too many of you just want "appeased" and entertained by the guy. You dont really give a sh*t about how honest or real he is.

 

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And, rather than shame those men into stopping their behaviour, you decide to shame the women for responding to it.

 

I like men who are intelligent enough to shame the men who intentionally use women, and hurt them.

 

Also, are you saying that all of those men - the ones that you say "appease" women, don't like women at all? That they're more like yourself? Because that just isn't the case.

Edited November 13, 2012 by Anela

[Anela]

God forbid if women learn to just "communicate" like the rest of us....instead, a HOW-TO manual is written for US to learn how to figure what YOU mean.

 

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Women are trying to communicate with you here, you just aren't listening to them.

[IT Geek]

I can tell you at the commencement ceremonies grad students in cap gown and hood get a different kind of respect.

 

Absolutely. I was just one of hundreds at my undergrad ceremony but when I got my Masters it was a much different experience. I can't put my finger on it but it was like we commanded the coliseum.

[Mrlonelyone]

Absolutely. I was just one of hundreds at my undergrad ceremony but when I got my Masters it was a much different experience. I can't put my finger on it but it was like we commanded the coliseum.

Yeah I can't wait to hear "For the degree of Doctor of Philosophy and their research on (Read out the title and abstract of their thesis)." Until I heart that at my undergrad ceremony I didn't being to understand how much higher the level of grad school was.

 

Each person who gets a MS with a thesis or a PhD isn't just someone who read a bunch of books. That research goes on to make a practical difference in the way we live. How many Thesis worth of comp. sci. research are at work in each computer in front of us? It must be hundreds or thousands.

 

Just so people could then tell them they aren't practical?

[EasyHeart]

Women are trying to communicate with you here, you just aren't listening to them.

Did you say something?

[dasein]

Regardless of what they say they want, I think people end up seeking and sticking with those fairly close to themselves in intelligence.

[mortensorchid]

I've been with a few dumb guys. Only a few who were really dense. There is also such a thing as social graces that some seem lacking in. I'm not sure where this comes from, either a lack of being taught by parents what the right things to do/say are, or from a vain, narcissistic personality disorder that makes them think they are to have others bow down to them. It's a complex hybrid.

 

I have one male friend who I consider to be my equal in many ways, we share the same interests and whatnot, but we are/were always friends. Quite honestly, I'm not his type physically, as he seems to go for women who are far fatter than the average.

[ThaWholigan]

Regardless of what they say they want, I think people end up seeking and sticking with those fairly close to themselves in intelligence.

This is actually true. Or at the very least, people seek out people of the same intelligence level, but also intelligence that complements their own intelligence.

[GravityMan]

Do you guys find that, generally, the higher the IQ the lower the EQ?

 

More often than not, yes. And 9 times out of 10, it's that person's own damn fault. Spending way too much time (especially during his teenage years and college years) with his nose in the books or on the computer, and not enough time out there in the sunshine, or at that party, or whatever...basically being around people, interacting with them, and having a genuine curiosity about other people's lives and experiences. Some of these people with low EQs exhibit a few symptoms (lack of empathy, etc.) consistent with a sociopath. It is this group of guys who are going to struggle the most landing a decent woman and having a long-term relationship with them.

 

Regarding intelligence...first of all, I agree that most people (perhaps subconciously) seek out partners that have complimentary intelligence...that usually means a similar intelligence level, but not always. Couples like this have an easier time relating to each other and "getting" each other.

 

In my opinion, someone who is merely "book smart" is NOT intelligent. The person is merely knowledgeable. A highly intelligent person is not only knowledgeable, but he is able to effectively and creatively apply what he knows to real-world situations - which are usually different shades of gray instead of black-and-white - and gain new insights in addition to resolving the situation. That indicates that the person actually has a deep understanding of what he knows. He knows how to explain subjects in a way that people w/ different backgrounds can follow. He can read his audience - and dynamically knows when to "dumb it down", when not to, and what topics to steer clear of. This person has common sense, is able to think on his feet, and is capable of improvising and thinking outside the box...people like that (who also possess good people skills) tend to achieve much greater success in life both personally and professionally than a mere bookworm with a PhD - who's "ceiling" is much lower. Now, nobody knows everything, however, intelligent people (who aren't condescending know-it-alls) are often able to approach, process and handle unfamiliar situations in a way that doesn't make him look like an idiot...and yes, sometimes the best way to tackle such a situation is to ask for help.

 

There are plenty of PhD grads from Ivy League schools, Stanford, MIT, etc...who are utterly clueless when it comes to dating, reading people and functioning in the real world. Compared to their peer with just a high school degree (and got mostly B's, C's and D's) - who learned those things back when he was 15 years old. Of course, the opposite is true, too.

 

When it comes to dating, intelligence and knowledge mean very little by themselves, IMO. You still need social skills...you need to know how to communicate. Including on an emotional level - i.e. reading her cues and responding as appropriate. The smarts will shine through naturally due to your communication and your actions.

[Emilia]

So basically hipster arists types.

 

Great.

 

Not everyone!!!!!!