ptp Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Women say that they are attracted to intelligence, is there a specific type of intelligence that women are attracted to? I ask because I consider myself intelligent and I have never had a woman attracted to me because of that reason. When it comes to education, statistics would put me in the top 10% of Americans and never have I seen it impress a girl. Is it because the women I usually hang out with are just as intelligent and just as educated as me? Or is there a certain type of woman who is attracted to intelligence?
Mer-Maid Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 I am personally attracted to intelligence, but it's more of a silent admiration! Unlike appearance, which people commonly compliment, intelligence isn't something people speak about as openly - in my opinion. So if the women you date find that trait attractive you might never hear about it. I think a lot of women find intelligence attractive, for example: many women find Spock from 'Star Trek TOS' more attractive than Kirk - I certainly do! 1
Mrlonelyone Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 I read in a paper on evolutionary psychology that women are attracted to creative intelligence and men who demonstrate it. This is shown by way of openness of thought, dress and action. Furthermore, it takes intelligence to recognize intelligence. 1
MrCastle Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 I think they're attracted to tangible, useful smarts. Meaning logic and the ability to problem solve. I don't think women are gonna get wet because you got a 95% on a chemistry test, or the fact that you can name every constellation in our galaxy, but knowledge that you can apply to everyday life. 2
xxoo Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 It depends on how he applies and demonstrates his intelligence. Men who invent, create, diagnose, heal, teach, inspire, etc brilliantly are very attractive! 2
Author ptp Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 I read in a paper on evolutionary psychology that women are attracted to creative intelligence and men who demonstrate it. This is shown by way of openness of thought, dress and action. Furthermore, it takes intelligence to recognize intelligence. So basically hipster arists types. Great.
ThaWholigan Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 I think there are certain types of intelligence that are more attractive to different women than others. Some women value emotional intelligence, others value creative intelligence. Logic, scientific, technological etc. No woman will value the same type of intelligence. From what I have observed, a man who is emotionally intelligent, intuitive as well as academically intelligent is like the holy grail for a lot of women. It pays to learn how to best apply your smarts and intelligence also - in a way that enhances you. 4
KraftDinner Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 I think street smarts and knowing how to relate well to others is an attractive form of intelligence. IQ and grades don't equal attractiveness. 2
tigressA Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 I love intelligent men. A lot of the time I am attracted to guys who I would consider more intelligent than I am. I usually fall for engineer/IT/science types, very logical and practical. But recently I've discovered the appeal of creatively intelligent men as well--designers, artists, musicians, writers, photographers. 1
xxoo Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 So basically hipster arists types. Great. Arts and sciences go together, whether it is city planning, surgery, legal defense, or composing a score.
Author ptp Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 (edited) I think street smarts and knowing how to relate well to others is an attractive form of intelligence. IQ and grades don't equal attractiveness. So actually being intelligent and working hard to get an education isn't attractive. How messed up. What is street smarts anyway? How much intelligence does it take to get through a person's daily life? When I think of someone needing a lot of "street smarts" I think of a criminal. Like Tony Montana from Scarface needs a lot of "street smarts", but I don't know why the average guy needs to have ton of "street smarts". Edited November 13, 2012 by ptp
carhill Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Sizzle sells. The intelligence is in the marketing. 3
xxoo Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 So actually being intelligent and working hard to get an education isn't attractive. How messed up. What is street smarts anyway? How much intelligence does it take to get through a person's daily life? When I think of someone needing a lot of "street smarts" I think of a criminal. Like Tony Montana from Scarface needs a lot of "street smarts", but I don't know why the average guy needs to have ton of "street smarts". When I think of street smarts, I think of a person who can apply their intelligence to real world situations, and get stuff done. I've got more book smarts than street smarts. I admire people who have a balance of both. I don't think my book smarts are particularly attractive to the opposite sex either, lol. 1
january2011 Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 I agree with xxoo, a lot depends on how the intelligence is applied and demonstrated. And I'd add to that: there's got to be something else there to push him into the "attractive" category, whether it's charm, kindness or dashing good looks. 1
Mrlonelyone Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 So basically hipster arists types. Great. Not really? Think about it. In hunter gatherer cultures what males got the most sex? The big war chiefs, good hunters, and the medicine elders (many of whom were two spirited). What did all those people do but adorn themselves with feathers and other brightly colored symbols of their achievements. Today people with academic smarts dress up like this once a year http://capsandgownsdirect.com/doctoralpics/capsgownsdirect256.jpg Suppose how we would think of people with a PhD if they wore that to work everyday. I can tell you at the commencement ceremonies grad students in cap gown and hood get a different kind of respect. Add to that when these specially addressed and respected people say.. invent something, cure a disease, discover a new understanding of the world. Intelligent women will appreciate that in a man. Likewise men of intelligence appreciate these qualities in a woman. That is the reason that John Adams and Abbigail got together. Their letters are laced with so many litterary and philosophical references the mind boggles. Albert Einstein married Milieva Maric even while Albert wasn't the best student she saw him as a man of great genius. As she would say it herself "He was Einstein!" Peirre Currie married Marie after being sure he'd never find a woman who could keep up with him and vice versa. Heck every scientist I know is married to or mated with someone who's at least as creative as them. Bottom line: People date, mate, and marry assortatively based on both intelligence (and it's products such as art, invention and degree's) and looks. 1
NoMoreJerks Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 OP, for me, it's not necessarily about degrees. My ex did a bit of college, didn't really have a degree, but he was self-taught and I admired his curiosity and ability to do that. Also, a guy who knows a lot about a lot of things, like, general knowledge, etc., reads the news, etc., is someone who is my "type." 2
GirlontheLam Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Bare minimum: Smart to enough to keep up in a debate with me on an interesting topic Bonus points: spatial or creative smarts to build or make something 1
january2011 Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 BUT, at the same time...because I am not into what "they" are into....I get looked down on, as if I'm not part of the cool group. Those are old highschool principles. New highschool principles dictate that nerds and geeks are cool. That includes double-strapping your backpack. Single-strapping is passé. I blame Glee. 1
KraftDinner Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 So actually being intelligent and working hard to get an education isn't attractive. How messed up. What is street smarts anyway? How much intelligence does it take to get through a person's daily life? When I think of someone needing a lot of "street smarts" I think of a criminal. Like Tony Montana from Scarface needs a lot of "street smarts", but I don't know why the average guy needs to have ton of "street smarts". Haha! "Choot that piece of chit!" Good movie! No, that's not what I said...maybe I should have said it doesn't NECESSARILY equal attractiveness. Street smarts is a crappy term, I agree, because yeah, to me it makes me think of like street gangs or something. But what I'm meaning by that is someone who is good at reading others, someone that makes you feel like he knows what he's doing. That kind of thing.
Mrlonelyone Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Haha! "Choot that piece of chit!" Good movie! No, that's not what I said...maybe I should have said it doesn't NECESSARILY equal attractiveness. Street smarts is a crappy term, I agree, because yeah, to me it makes me think of like street gangs or something. But what I'm meaning by that is someone who is good at reading others, someone that makes you feel like he knows what he's doing. That kind of thing. That sort of social intelligence is one thing. But let me put it to you this way. Who was smarter the women who realized what a intelligent man Thomas A. Edison was before he was famous or the ones who assumed a nerd like him couldn't also be street smart?
pie2 Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Women say that they are attracted to intelligence, is there a specific type of intelligence that women are attracted to? The humble kind! 3
dreamingoftigers Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Try to prove that to most women. They all think a college degree and the guys job status equates to his intelligence. And as soon as you use your intelligence on them, to point of something they are doing, or if they are playing games with you....they dislike the fact that you are intelligent enough to figure them out. Intelligent enough to know that addressing women as a whole, stupid gender generally does not get you scores of women, or the particular woman that you are looking for. 1
dreamingoftigers Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 I love a guy that is well-informed on current events worldwide and political AND can put them into historical context. I think that when women mention intelligence, often they are looking for a man with verbal skill and intelligence in an area where they tend to be stronger: empathy and understanding emotional need. They want to not have to clod a guy with their emotional response for him to get what is going on with her. They want a guy who can read her cues. It sucks guys, because I know a lot of you struggle with understanding that. Honestly, I think that is the basics. The Female Brain by Brizendine might help some of you more bookish type to understand the function behind a lot of that. You can be as bright as the stars, however, if you lack the ability to pick up on a woman's abandonment or anger cues, she won't develop much of an interest in you. Unless it's one of those push-pull unhealthy relationships that the PUAs try to promote. Yay. A guy who can read her, empathize and share great fantastic information about the world, discoveries etc etc etc will look much brighter than the Nobel Prize laureate who is droning on about stuff way above her head. I will say that I only dated one guy that matched me (in science/math capacity) (he could totally kick my ass at chess too) but otherwise he didn't have it together enough. I'm glad instead to have my husband who isn't as bright but has far more verbal skill/adaptability/empathy and less insecurity and dependence issues. 2
dreamingoftigers Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 And thats why most women get used by men. Because too many of you fall for guys that make you "think" they care...instead of you being mature enough to deal with a man that doesnt bite his tongue. If YOU dont apply to the scenario then what the hell do you care? THATS whats wrong with so many women...you all gang together as if it bothers you that many women DO fit the mold. Yet as soon as a guy is trying to date you....you all distance yourselves from the pack,,,saying "oh I'm not like other women". Too many of you just want "appeased" and entertained by the guy. You dont really give a sh*t about how honest or real he is. . "Real" and "honest" can be presented without insulting a whole gender and the people it contains. That's why guys who blah blah about the evil women out there MISS THE MARK with almost every single one of them. This IS how I deal with a man who "doesn't bite his tongue" I give him back the dose of honesty that he is liberally dishing out. Take your medicine. If you want to know why things aren't working out.... why they "ha ha I don't want to have an argument"? It's because you are going for the jugular. Or you are holding waaayy back. My husband had the same troubles way back when. He figured he either went for the kill or shut his mouth. There's a middle ground there. Work on it and the smart ones will see it and line the block for you. Honest and real enough for ya? 1
dreamingoftigers Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 God forbid if women learn to just "communicate" like the rest of us....instead, a HOW-TO manual is written for US to learn how to figure what YOU mean. . There's also one on The Male Brain, also written by Brizendine. I appreciate her writings on the topic. The thread was about male intelligence and what kinds females appreciate so the book was in context. Nobody's handing you a victim card or playing one dude.
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