Pompom Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Ev'ning! So I have this new friend whom I've hung out with 4 times but who's immediately liked me, as a person, and whose behavior is getting "weird". For me it was crush at first sight but the first 2 times, he was still somewhat fixated on our friend who introduced us, but the third time, she seriously pissed him off and he's done with her for good, though he has never held her in the highest of regards (uh, she left him for his uncle and then his brother). After she recently offended him again, and so much even I secretly yearned to slap her, they haven't spoken again. 2 nights ago I was at his place again, his family had me over for dinner. And him, well, he would sit next to me, which is normal, but so close that part of his leg pressed almost painfully against mine, and always making sure we're touching. When I put my arm on the backrest where he was sitting, he curled up, leaned into my arm, and nestled his nead on my shoulder, then on my lap, and the only difference between him and a cat, when I put my arm around him, was that he wasn't purring Sadly I have inhibitions when it comes to initiating physical contact so some men have thought I didn't like them back. I hope I don't give him the same sense of disinterest. Actually he did manage to get more out of me; I usually can't even put my arm around someone's shoulder unless they prompt it somehow. He gives me wet greeting kisses on the cheek, hugs me extra tight, and when I left, he stood in the doorway, creepily watching me until I was 2 floors lower and out of sight. Calls me all kinds of affectionate names (my love/beautiful/dear, etc.), but that, specifically, could also just be the Israeli thing about terms of endearment. Though he says it in English as well and I'm sure he knows the nuance between "love" and "darling". He's going through a divorce and misses his baby daughter, and is currently really busy but still asks me to come hang out whenever I want. The night our friend marched off all huffy-puffy, he said he had no strength for serious relationships at the moment, specifically referring to her assuming he was still into her. That was about 3 weeks ago. I have a standing invitation he says, and when, 2 nights ago, I was there to sketch a tattoo for him, he was watching the paper far less than I caught him looking at my face with puppy eyes. He actually sticks his lower lip out My God, he is so adorable you have no idea. I can tell he's crazy about me as a person, and he often says so, as were some other close male friends I've had, but the part where I caught him staring, and going out of his way to sit on me, make me think there may be more. I know Israelis have no sense of personal space and are extremely familiar, but I'm not sure that's all it is as he's above and beyond what I've seen so far of Israeli familiarity. The 2nd-to-last time we hung out, when I came in I immediately told him to keep a bit of a distance from me as I was having a horrible cold. In retrospect it was selfish of me to even come and risk exposing him. But he ignored the warning completely and greeted me with the usual hug and kiss, then proceeded to make me tea and wipe up what I spilled without so much as a sigh. He's so caring and often tells me just what I need to hear (but still candid) when I feel depressed over emotional matters. Told me I'm great the way I am, beautiful, and shouldn't change for anyone. If he can help it, he lets no woman he cares about in any way, wallow in body image issues. The nice thing is, he sounds sincere. Really the kind of guy we have too few of. He also seems to enjoy making sexual innuendos at me. We were having a beer, I was absent-mindedly "stroking" the bottle neck... He just had to make an observation. Our friend and I were talking about men and how boring her last one was, and he brings up doggy style. She shuts him up, but as we get up to leave, he announces to go do some doggy style with me When I was sketching his planned tattoo, he offered to take me to his room and show me his full naked glory so I could determine where to put the tattoo. He makes a lot of jokes like that to me, though I have no idea how he is with others and/or if it's just with me. What do you think, is he just very touchy-feely/silly, or should I try and get him to go someplace where there are not 7 family members peeking over his shoulder? I'm not just after sex with him, I feel very happy around him doing nothing. And we immediately got along. And his parents like me, most parents hate me
Author Pompom Posted November 17, 2012 Author Posted November 17, 2012 Ohmigod between Wednesday and yesterday he's called me 14 times Mornings, evenings, and never shorter than 15 minutes with a half hour follow-up Though still nothing today... I'm on withdrawal Should I be more explicit about my interest in him, given the frequent calls? Not like he has no other friends; he even told me things he asked me to tell nobody about. He talks to me in English to make sure only I understand him. Any advice? I'm not lucky in terms of love and relationships, but he feels so reachable.
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