yupyup Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 I've been dating my ex girlfriend for almost 10 years and we had on and off relationships. I haven't talked to her in like 3 days and I'm going crazy than i thought I could possibly be. It hurts so bad and I just want to text her to see what's going on and what not. I know she'll reply, but I do not know if it's the right thing to do. To be honest, in the beginning, I begged a couple times and it does make me feel like **** that she feels otherwise. I just really miss her and knowing that we went out for 10 years, it drives me more crazy. We were also best friends and I guess she felt like we were growing apart. I want to work things out and I'm not quite sure if it will ever happen. This really makes me miserable than a motha*****. I do not know what to do. I don't go out, my friends are always working so its hard to keep up with them, I'm so used to talking to her everyday and that's why it bugs me. I was thinking about not contacting her for 3 weeks because I plan on asking if she wants to have a little lunch. Anyways, help me people :(:(
River Rain Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 10 years is a long time...you've only been broken up 3 days? No wonder you feel like crap. Did she ask you not to contact her? If so, you should respect her wishes or you'll push her away more. Do you have any hope to reconcile?
Author yupyup Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 Well, we've been broken up for a week, but I did break No Contact like 3 days ago, so after that it was back to Day 1 and to answer your question, yes I do hope to reconcile.
Author yupyup Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 and oh, she did say "talking won't help" and i find that BS.
River Rain Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 I believe in reconciliation, as long as the two people have very open communication and are willing to try. I think nc is good initially so that the feelings of desperation and hurt can't have a chance to get out of the system, but if you feel there's hope, then why not talk to her, set a time frame for nc then promise to talk after a few weeks? You never know what'll happen, good or bad. In my case, the reconciliation failed miserably, but I don't regret trying.
River Rain Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 and oh, she did say "talking won't help" and i find that BS. Talking might not help right now if she needs some space.
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