jimloveslips Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 OK, so this is probably my mid-life crisis. I am VERY happily married. My wife is my best friend, I just love being with her. We are still intimate (I'm early 50's she late 50's) and it's still damn good! So why did I just put up a profile on OKcupid? I actually had a couple up on various sites but this weekend I came to my senses and deleted them all, except the OKC one... I don't expect to get hits, I say very clearly that I'm married (I haven't seen a profile yet that doesn't say "Must be single") I think about having sex with other women a lot. WtF is going on?
Author jimloveslips Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 Wow, 50 views and not one comment. Thanks.
pinkie Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 Wow, 50 views and not one comment. Thanks. Don't worry happens to me all the time... So, I'll respond... WHY ON EARTH would you consider cheating on your spouse? I get that the marriage may be stale... yadda yadda yadda... But is it possible that you just aren't getting the attention you crave... So you would rather seek out a stranger(s) for some validation that you've 'still got it'? I think your walking a fine line and it would be best if you could work on the issues in your marriage (i.e., open communication, marriage counseling, etc.) Otherwise you'll be posting in the infidelity or marriage/divorce sections soon..
NavyAirTraffic Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 I'm not going to give you advice but rather tell you about my life. I don't know how serious you are but I know 1 thing, you married this woman for a reason... I'm 33, male, single and have had 10 sexual partners in the last 6-8 months (met a couple online). My world is emotionless, the sex is meaningless, it's filled with momentary spikes of joy/affection/gratification. No real substance, all hollow. The meeting/having sex with someone new is exciting and fulfilling for such a small time (usually 2-3 days for me). Then the loneliness sets in again. Don't know exactly what you're looking for but this is my "single life".
Author jimloveslips Posted November 14, 2012 Author Posted November 14, 2012 You're both absolutely right, I have no idea what I'm doing - or more importantly why. Time to get rid of that profile I think! Thanks Jim 1
Author jimloveslips Posted November 21, 2012 Author Posted November 21, 2012 not that you care but I deleted my OKcupid profile...
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