Japser93 Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Hello everybody I used to post on this forum when I broke up with my ex-girlfriend. I felt physically sick for months.. This morning 4 months and a half after the breakup I saw her again on the train on my way to class. She was sitting next to me and we had a normal conversation for the entire trip. Once we arrived we said a quick 'bye' and went away. I have to say that i'm fairly happy about the way it went, because I was always under a lot of stress because I was scared to see her again for the first time. But for some reason i'm feeling sick again. The same nauseous feeling that I had when we broke up. I did not eat anything yet and hope that this feeling will fade away soon because I had it for months. I do not understand why I'm feeling this way. Maybe someone here can help me identify this? Thank you for reading this! Japser93
Sav Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 My guess is that you need more time. It will pass but how long? Only time will tell. I think you took it fairly well from the way you described it. I don't think you will have it again for months though, it should just be a passing thing because you were just reminded of everything again after seeing and talking to her. Stay strong!
Author Japser93 Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 You are probably right. I'm very sensitive and felt very guilty for breaking up with her. I know this is stupid, but I can't help it.. On the other hand are there some things I was happy about: - She has a new boyfriend i'm glad she is back on track - When i saw her ,I was not attracted to her anymore - We were talking as friends I broke up with her because I did not love her anymore. She was a good girlfriend, we never had fights. But after a year and a couple of months I decided to break up with her. She was not the one. I felt very guilty about it, and I still do but I know that it was the right thing to do. I hope that time will be my healer Today I felt very sick/nauseous in class. I decided to go home earlier. And now that i'm home i feel almost completely better. It's probably a psychological thing but it is so frustrating.
Sav Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 If you do not feel anything for her then I guess breaking up was the right thing to do. I mean ofc she might hold some resentment towards you but what you did had courage and was the right choice, because if you didn't love her, you will not treat her right in time to come. Don't worry, everything will be better, and you will find the one for you, just be patient
Author Japser93 Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 I just don't understand why seeing her again has such a big impact on my life. Why does it make me sick for days? What you said makes me feel better, thank you for that. I just hope that i won't get sick everytime I see her. It has such an influence on my personal/social life.
Sav Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 It's just you remembering the things that happened. There was a history between you two, it's normal to feel this way. I still feel weird when I see my ex even after breaking off 2 years ago. But I don't feel sick or jealous or anything anymore. So it will pass, it's just inevitable that you feel this way since you shared something special with her once
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