justgowt Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 i have been talking to this girl on the internet a lot. We exchanged pictures and find each other cute enough. she said she doesn't want a boyfriend, but she'll go on a date with me if i drive all the way down to her. It's a very long drive, about 5 hours. We have been texting a lot last week, but not as much this week. She says stuff to talk herself down, like i deserve a better girl than a slut like her, and that she doesn't understand what i find attractive about her but she's really glad i like her. We talked about sex a bit, about what she likes, but she never explicitly said she wants to have sex with me. She did have a personal hangup about guys using her for sex and only wanting her for her looks, though. But if I drive all the way down there.... i kind of want sex. i don't want to just use her for sex, but i do want to end our date with sex... can i make that happen? she seems to have very low self esteem and emotional problems, and i don't know if she'll be attracted to me. i'm kind of sad and depressed too, and she would be the first girl i've been with if we have sex. so wtf does it mean that she doesn't want a boyfriend, but she's willing to go on a date with me, but she doesn't want to feel slutty and doesn't want guys using her for sex? Do i have a shot or not?
VodkaShots Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 (edited) Well, you're not entitled to sex just because you're going to drive 5 hours to meet her. It doesn't really work that way. Maybe I've got the wrong end of the stick here, but the way you've phrased your post makes you sound like that's all you're interested in. That's cool if she feels the same way, but it seems obviously that's not what she wants. It sounds like she just wants a friend or if something is to happen between you two, for it to go slow maybe. She's got a lot of emotional baggage it seems and so do you from what you said. It's not the making of a great relationship in my experience. but i do want to end our date with sex... can i make that happen? Short of physical force, no. If she wants to, she wants to, if she don't, she don't. If you give the impression it's what you want, you'll probably scare her off. Edited November 12, 2012 by VodkaShots
Author justgowt Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 but how come she says all those things to me indicating that she wants to date me? and i don't want only sex from her. i have a crush on her. i get crushes easily. i want to be romantic with her.
CptObvious Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 she has low self esteem so I'd say you have about a 70% chance of getting it in
charlietheginger Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Having a guy drive 5hrs to see her Makes her feel special.... Something to tell her girlfriends " he drove 5 hrs to meet me " Now she has something to chat About with coworkers on facebook And friends... If you drive 5 hrs dont expect much Other then a 5 hr drive back home.. and $100 in gas outta pocket
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