Reasons guys agree to be exclusive?

[zanesfan]

This person has been on dates. So yeah not the same. Maybe the guy is just flaky and waiting for someone to break up so that he can make his move. Anyways, dealing with people is one of the most difficult things imaginable. But you are responsible for watching his/her actions not words.

 

What does going on dates really mean? It really means nothing if he still doesnt want anything serious. And I wasnt saying she wouldnt go out, I was speaking from my own experience.

[FitChick]

I am totally into one of the guys I am seeing. I would drop the other one in a heartbeat of guy #1 wanted it to be just him and me. He is the one who unleashed the "keep it casual" line on me, so that's what I'm trying to do. Seeing guy #2 keeps me from getting too emotionally involved with the guy I really like.

Does guy #1 know about guy #2? If he knows he has competition, he might ask for exclusivity rather than risk losing you, if there is sufficient interest.

[Nyla]

I've been seeing this guy for over a month.. He told me he didn't want a relationship period with anyone. We are still hooking up and he agreed to be exclusive and not sleep with anyone else. Why would a guy not wanting a relationship agree to this? To me it makes absolutely no sense!

 

He is receiving sex without being in a relationship; why would he want to mess that up?

 

Sometimes women think that we can change men's minds with sex, even when the men are honest about only wanting something physical.

 

My husband and I broke up for a while when we were dating. I met another man I liked and eventually, we slept together.

This man told me that he didn't want to talk about a relationship, before I even brought it up. We did not want the same things, so I dumped him.

Edited November 14, 2012 by Nyla

[peytondoll]

I don't know. I've heard women say they're just using a man for sex, but they ALWAYS get attached. Women are just emotional creatures. Men are capable, but I don't believe it's possible for a woman. I don't care what woman says that she's only using a guy. I will never buy it for a minute.

 

If you're posting, you care. That's all I can say. If you really didn't care, you wouldn't spend one minute thinking about it. You better be careful. He's exclusively having sex, because he's not in love with anyone...and you're a sure thing. Why go somewhere else? You're obviously fulfilling him sexually...you just don't fulfill his other needs. I'm not trying to be mean, just truthful. I think you should stop wasting your time and forget this tool. You've only known him for 1 month...and I agree with the poster that said "How do you know he's exclusive?" Men lie.

 

Sorry but you couldnt be more wrong. I got into two FWB's where the guy ended up asking me to be his girlfriend and stopped talking to me when I said no. Why did I do it? I was going through a dry spell and these were men that I lusted after and gave me decent sex...but they had qualities that would have made them terrible boyfriends. There are some women out there that can distinguish between love and sex. You dont hear about them because the second we say we have done this we get overcome with derogatory names and insults.

 

Nope, I am NOT LYING either. I also know a few other women who have done this as well (again, they dont go around advertising it...). The world is not as black and white as you think.

[maybealone]

Agreeing to be exclusive is commitment in a sense and stops him from hooking up with other girls.

 

To me, being sexually exclusive means you won't sleep with anyone else, and that's all it means. So in that sense, he could be out five nights a week hitting on girls and even dating them -- all he has agreed to is to stop having sex with you before he starts having sex with someone else. That is different from being in a committed relationship, where you are agreeing to not even look for other people to date.