Mary Shadows Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Is there a disinterest if a guy does not make eye contact with me? I see him look in my direction and look at me across the room-however, when I try to engage in conversation and I ask him questions, he looks down. He literally doesn't link eyes with me. Clearly, he's not interested. Thoughts?
Author Mary Shadows Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 Either that, or hes just really nervous. I always make strong eye contact when talking to women I am meeting for a date, or interested in. But of course...in my world...I have had more than 1 woman state "why do you look right at me when we talk?" Well where the hell am I supposed to look? I would much rather have him look at me, than down. Do you suggest I say something about this? He's intelligent, in law school, and super sweet. I just don't know how to deal with this.
Author Mary Shadows Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 Are you dating him...or just interested in talking to him right now? If you havent gone on a date...I would give it a little bit of time, see if he warms up to you in a bit before saying anything. We aren't dating right now. No date yet either. Am I being silly?
Author Mary Shadows Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 You're not being silly...but it may just be the way he acts...too soon to tell though if hes not interested or just shy Hmm ok thank you for pointing this out. I try to engage in conversation, and he doesn't look me in the eye. What would you suggest I do?
CptObvious Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 I don't know why but some guys have a hard time thinking and talking when they're making eye contact.
Author Mary Shadows Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 I don't know why but some guys have a hard time thinking and talking when they're making eye contact. Are you one of these guys that I'm talking about? Is it because they're shy, or nervous?
ascendotum Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Mary, we don't really know what's going on in his mind, but I'm inclined to agree with these guys, that he is shy or bit anxious and has close up gaze avoidance. If you catch him checking you out from a distance then don't assume he is not interested, because he avoids eye contact up close. Dealing with it will be tricky. Close up interaction could well be making him more anxious and then self conscious. Maybe avoid standing too close in front of him staring at his face. Next time sit down along side him and see if loosens up. Mentioning it might make him more self conscious or it could help snap him out of it if he realizes its hurting his chances with cute girls who initiate conversations with him. I'd say don't mention it to begin with, but if you get frustrated with him you could. 1
Author Mary Shadows Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 Mary, we don't really know what's going on in his mind, but I'm inclined to agree with these guys, that he is shy or bit anxious and has close up gaze avoidance. If you catch him checking you out from a distance then don't assume he is not interested, because he avoids eye contact up close. Dealing with it will be tricky. Close up interaction could well be making him more anxious and then self conscious. Maybe avoid standing too close in front of him staring at his face. Next time sit down along side him and see if loosens up. Mentioning it might make him more self conscious or it could help snap him out of it if he realizes its hurting his chances with cute girls who initiate conversations with him. I'd say don't mention it to begin with, but if you get frustrated with him you could. I think I will just be myself, and let him get more comfortable. I'm interested, but it's hard to read him. He's not agressive and he's clearly not looking to hook up with me. Obviously, it makes him seem more attractive to me.
CptObvious Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Are you one of these guys that I'm talking about? Is it because they're shy, or nervous? I used to have a really bad habit of glancing over to the side mid-conversation with hot girls. If I'm looking right at them my brain just shuts off. Basically all of my funny and clever little stories and other material get transformed into "OMG YOU'RE SOOOOO HOT. DERP. LOOK AT THOSE TITS I WANNA STUFF MY FACE IN THEM" Which is ****ing awful cause I can't keep the conversation going. I lose track of where we are and what I'm trying to do. The time I could have spent thinking clearly I've spent ****ing her with my imagination. So then we get these awkward little silent gaps until I snap out of it and find something to respond with.
Author Mary Shadows Posted November 14, 2012 Author Posted November 14, 2012 I used to have a really bad habit of glancing over to the side mid-conversation with hot girls. If I'm looking right at them my brain just shuts off. Basically all of my funny and clever little stories and other material get transformed into "OMG YOU'RE SOOOOO HOT. DERP. LOOK AT THOSE TITS I WANNA STUFF MY FACE IN THEM" Which is ****ing awful cause I can't keep the conversation going. I lose track of where we are and what I'm trying to do. The time I could have spent thinking clearly I've spent ****ing her with my imagination. So then we get these awkward little silent gaps until I snap out of it and find something to respond with. LOL totally! At least you made eye contact. He doesn't even look at me, but at the ground. Yeah, I catch him looking at me too, then look away real fast.
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