Is monogamy on life support?

[MissBee]

Yeah people say that. The problem is once you start doing stuff like that...theyll never be satisfied. I knw several people who had threesomes...think the guy had one and was satisfied? Nope- it increases their cravings and it almost always weakens his attachment to his primary relationship.

 

I have to disagree that most of the time threesomes make a relationship better. Most people that voluntarily end up in situations like this...it speaks about the nature/level of satisfaction,attachment in their primary relationship.

 

Research shows divorce rates in swinger couples are high. Also, many people in swinger couples are not truly in love with each other and many people in swinger couples have attachment disorders. Food for thought. I think swingers do work- for people that want the best of both worlds: a companion who they dont truly love, but are fond of, and want sexual variety without having to suffer consequences.

 

I definitely can believe the attachment disorder, because an ex of mine did have an attachment disorder and surprise, he was also a swinger (he was interested in it while we dated but I didn't want to and when we broke up he went full steam ahead) and surprise, he's on his 2nd marriage in only 5 years and surprise, before that he had several gfs and I would not be a bit surprised if this current marriage ends too. So the swinging appeal and attachment disorders and high divorce rates make sense to me, just based on knowing someone who all those factors were present for him.

[crude]

Many people feel the purpose of marriage is to procreate to keep society going, not to be monogamous. They say why get married if you don't have kids, a few here are saying why get married if you're not going to stay faithful sexually. I guess it depends on the purpose you have for getting married, what you focus on, relationship with spouse or producing the next generation.

Edited November 17, 2012 by crude