Author Eternal Sunshine Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 Sean opry was rated a 5/10 on this site and was said to have bad eye spacing issues. http://www3.images.coolspotters.com/photos/517976/sean-opry-profile.jpg http://images.forbes.com/media/2009/06/26/sean-opry.jpg He's the number 1 ranked male model in the world. This is why I'm extremely skeptical when women on this site claim they're going after "average" men. This guy is 8-9 out of 10 and thus out of my league. My standards on looks are pretty low too. I am constantly told that I can do better by people (male and female).
Anela Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Men are considered pigs because they're willing to bang relatively unattractive women. Personally, I think that's an admirable quality. "Willing to bang" = pig. (With that attitude.)
Anela Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 this pretty much shows you don't understand attraction. one person's 5 is another's 10. One person might require a certain eye color or spacing while another could care less about eyes. Yep. The guy linked to is a) too young for me, and b) too pretty. I might have a different opinion if I met him and we got along well, but he just looks like any guy on the front of a magazine, who might date Taylor Swift.
Under The Radar Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 The number red blooded men who are repulsed by KK physically speaking has got to be so rare, really. I'm sure their repulsion is driven more by her being a no talent celebrity/fame whore. I agree not everyone is in agreement over what is 'hot', which is a great thing, but there is general consensus on attractiveness I believe. I think it is very unlikely that a guy at a party will be rated 5 by a number of women and also a 10 by a number of the women there. Plenty of models are not all that special for me and I certainly wont be staring & slack jawed over them, but I still realize they are pretty/attractive women, and I'd be happy to go out with them assuming there was personality behind the aloof look. Sir, may I refer you to my Attractiveness Compatibility Thread. Your point is well taken, respected, and understood .
TheBigQuestion Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 (edited) what amazes me to no end is that you think men are any different. Maybe where you live men are all desperate. But in my experience there are a loot more men who don't settle until they land a highly attractive one than the opposite. Which again is why generalizing about this topic is rather useless. Your opinion isn't "correct," and neither is his. The fact that you've had a different experience with dating, whether online or offline, doesn't invalidate his experience, and vice versa. Also, his statements don't imply that men are any different; rather they assert his own desires and experiences. Edited November 13, 2012 by TheBigQuestion
grkBoy Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 what amazes me to no end is that you think men are any different. Maybe where you live men are all desperate. But in my experience there are a loot more men who don't settle until they land a highly attractive one than the opposite. Love how a guy who isn't nitpicky on stupid ***** and is willing to commit is suddenly deemed "needy" or "desperate". I tend to look at the amount of men now, even the "nice guys" who seemingly love to avoid commitment or growing up as a result partially of women who decided long ago that a man is "needy" or "desperate" if they're not carrying some long laundry list with their fingers on the "launch" button. And you women wonder why you're pulling teeth to get guys to commit. You all still play these silly "rules" that somehow define masculinity as the things you all later complain about. 5
phineas Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 I'd like to mention that a woman on OKcupid sent me a message telling me I was a very handsome guy. Mostly head & cleavage shots but she looks cute & seems cool. Plus she's younger so I'll set up a meet. See if she shows. 1
Under The Radar Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 I'd like to mention that a woman on OKcupid sent me a message telling me I was a very handsome guy. Mostly head & cleavage shots but she looks cute & seems cool. Plus she's younger so I'll set up a meet. See if she shows. Good luck (10 characters)
sydneysider1978 Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Assuming we're talking about a straight dating site, it takes a man and a woman to have a date. So if women get dates, men get dates too. Maybe a small percentage of men get more dates because they have a great profile... Learn how to sell yourself better...
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 Profile is definitely super important for men. Pictures are more important for women.
kaylan Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Profile is definitely super important for men. Pictures are more important for women. OLD is mostly about pics for most people. Especially based on OKCs study of their response rates and the physical attractiveness ratings people have given other members. I think it all depends on what people are looking for. If the girls profile is crap, or if her profile doesnt wow me, I might still message her if shes pretty attractive. On the other hand, if a girl has a great profile that I really connect to, then Id be super eager to get to know her, even if she wasnt super hot.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 For me, I really only get excited about a guy if I can connect to his profile AND messages. He can be average looking. If he is hot, I won't even bother with messaging back if his profile doesn't interest me. But I am really using OLD to look for someone special. I have zero interest in casual because I have plenty of casual without OLD 1
SJC2008 Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 For me, I really only get excited about a guy if I can connect to his profile AND messages. He can be average looking. If he is hot, I won't even bother with messaging back if his profile doesn't interest me. But I am really using OLD to look for someone special. I have zero interest in casual because I have plenty of casual without OLD You can get casual sex without OLD? What's your secret?
MrCastle Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 You can get casual sex without OLD? What's your secret? She has a vagina. 3
ascendotum Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 She has a vagina. Snap. you beat me to it.
runningfar Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 True. That model guy has a feminine face, Im sure gay guys love him. I see guys hotter and more masculine than him every day. Yeah... He's definitely not average objectively and I am not insanely good looking but I wouldn't go out with him or feel much attraction if he had tickets to that show I love... Wait no, the tickets are now diamonds! I definitely know what drives me wild and personality (sense of humor) impacts it but there is a look... It doesn't necessarily match with models. There are a lot of guys who do nothing for me because I don't like "pretty" who are objectively attractive. I have been told guys I have been with are less attractive than I am and I don't see that AT ALL. Attraction is very highly subjective...
grkBoy Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Profile is definitely super important for men. Pictures are more important for women. I'll agree with you on this one. I base it mainly on how many women complain that guys will email them out of the blue with some "hey, you're hot" message, but it clearly shows he never read past her photo. With women, I go back to what many say on "it's about how you make her feel"...which is why profile matters much to them. For some it might be just the combo of photo/income/if he has kids or not, but others will look at interests, what he has to say, and what he speaks of in "what I'm looking for". The women are looking for some feeling of connection. That small "spark" to light up from that guy. I do wonder, and I'm not attacking women here on this, but I wonder how many women see this magical guy, then will not message or wink at him...believing and hoping he'll find her and make the first move?
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 I'll agree with you on this one. I base it mainly on how many women complain that guys will email them out of the blue with some "hey, you're hot" message, but it clearly shows he never read past her photo. With women, I go back to what many say on "it's about how you make her feel"...which is why profile matters much to them. For some it might be just the combo of photo/income/if he has kids or not, but others will look at interests, what he has to say, and what he speaks of in "what I'm looking for". The women are looking for some feeling of connection. That small "spark" to light up from that guy. I do wonder, and I'm not attacking women here on this, but I wonder how many women see this magical guy, then will not message or wink at him...believing and hoping he'll find her and make the first move? Not me....in the rare instances that I found it, I messaged the guy.
grkBoy Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Not me....in the rare instances that I found it, I messaged the guy. You and most of the women here strike me as doers...meaning you see a possible ideal guy online, you'll email or wink at him...not wait for something to happen out of hope. I was just curious though if the old-fashioned "the man should approach" ethos still lives on OLD.
SJC2008 Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Your points are still not valid. If you walk down the street, in most cases girls are better looking that their partner. An average guy with some charisma can get a super hottie. It's not all about looks. You will nearly never see a couple where a male is hot and girl is average. Guys are and always will be more visual. And whoever said that I probably don't even count men that are below 6/10. Do you men seriously consider women that are below 6? I am sure you have ignored plenty of messages from overweight and/or unappealing females Mabye in Austrailia but I've said this before: If a woman is cute or better and is chunky/flabby, more often than not, the guy she's with is SKINNY. How do you explain tha t? It could be because Houston is the fattest city in the US (at least once was) and that there are more thin men. Could it be because instead of dating a cute guy who's a little chunky she waited for a "non shallow" skinny guy?? Those are some possibilities. As to your self awareness that that if a guy out of your league messages you that you ignore him because he's probably going for a P&D. I think many women online don't have this and I don't blame them 100%. Humans are corruptable, if I pulled a fast one and landed a "hottie" my ego would skyrocket! Not in a sense that I would think I'm better but it would take a while for my standards to come back down to what OLD has hammered them down to. My first GF was pretty I O and I was shocked she liked me. When she said she'd go out with me I was so happy and one of the first thoughts through my head was "I can pull". Even though I never had super high standards, but my shyness killed my dating life. Anyway, after a P&D or two most women probably realize what's going on and adjust... their game, they still ignore the guy they'd give their # to IRL.
Anela Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 You can get casual sex without OLD? What's your secret? She's pretty.
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