FitChick Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 There are no black people in my city and very few in Australia. Er... aboriginals.
Nightsky Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Well you heard it here first boys myth disproved. A guy who got 1 date online was able to get many others. Here's the thing the very fact that he was able to get a date with you, made it likely he was able to get a date with others. Also OLD sucks for men and that ain't no myth. This guy going on all these dates and now "friends" with a girl he tried to date probably is wasting a lot of time and money on just meeting people when if he asks girls out he meets offline he skips that step. Voila myth proved dating online sux for guys 1
somedude81 Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 I am not sure if it's different in US, but here men that do OLD have tons of options. Cases in point: 1. I went on one date with a guy few weeks ago. He seemed interested but he bored me, so I rejected him with "no spark". He asked me to stay friends which I agreed to. He seems to be meeting up with 2-3 new girls a week from online sites. He actually adds them on Facebook and describes those meets to me in great detail so I don't think he is making it up. He is average looking, a bit chubby, no charisma, kind of smart, no sense of humor. Is college educated, owns property and has a good stable job. Still, he doesn't really stand out in any way. 2. My ex has had tons of dates since he joined. He is also nothing special. 3. My FWB told me that he met up with FORTY girls in the 6 months period. OK, he is quite sexy but he is short and losing hair so again, not exactly super hot. 4. Pretty much any guy I meet is multi-dating and has tons of options. -------------- I do live in a major city but STILL. Guys on here that complain that they get NO dates from OLD in months...it makes me wonder what's up. That's certainly not the norm by any stretch. So very sexy men that ES has dated are also popular with many other women. And I'm supposed to be surprised because? 1
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 So very sexy men that ES has dated are also popular with many other women. And I'm supposed to be surprised because? Only one was sexy. The others are blah, very average.
somedude81 Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Only one was sexy. The others are blah, very average. Knowing the kind of men you're into, I really doubt that those other guys were blah. You also say average like it's a bad thing, which just makes my point even stronger.
TaurusTerp Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Only one was sexy. The others are blah, very average. Their point was that if you agreed to go out with them, other women would too. The guys you screen out, other women would too. I agree that OLD for men is not nearly as hard as it's made out to be on loveshack. No idea where they're all going wrong. 1
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 I'm curious but in your opinion was the brown guy that I had posted earlier average or well below average? To me, he is average. I just would never respond to him with a lame profile and generic message though.
ascendotum Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Well you heard it here first boys myth disproved. A guy who got 1 date online was able to get many others. Here's the thing the very fact that he was able to get a date with you, made it likely he was able to get a date with others. Some of the women I know use not too dissimilar logic, in discussions relating to NSA action. They think because most of the guys they have been with (most being ONS/STR/FWB and they tended to be lookers or good bod or aggressive guys) did pretty well with the ladies, that all guys have lots of fun and its all equally distributed. ergo...hot guys have lots of NSA + dates with hot girls, avg joe guys have lots NSA + dates with plain janes, and the goobers/dorks/fatties/skinnys/shorties/awkwards/etc have lots of NSA + dates with unattractive girls. 1
ascendotum Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 To me, he is average. I just would never respond to him with a lame profile and generic message though. ES if you think he is average, then I can see why you think average guys don't have it so bad on OLD. I thought he was reasonably good looking guy (no homo). I'd like to be as average as him. Though one person's 'eh okay' is another person's 'bit of alright' 1
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 Your points are still not valid. If you walk down the street, in most cases girls are better looking that their partner. An average guy with some charisma can get a super hottie. It's not all about looks. You will nearly never see a couple where a male is hot and girl is average. Guys are and always will be more visual. And whoever said that I probably don't even count men that are below 6/10. Do you men seriously consider women that are below 6? I am sure you have ignored plenty of messages from overweight and/or unappealing females
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 Men in general tend to overestimate other men's looks and underestimate female's looks. There was a study done on this.
MrCastle Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Your points are still not valid. If you walk down the street, in most cases girls are better looking that their partner. An average guy with some charisma can get a super hottie. It's not all about looks. Offline...
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 Offline... You have no way of knowing how they met
suladas Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 ES if you think he is average, then I can see why you think average guys don't have it so bad on OLD. I thought he was reasonably good looking guy (no homo). I'd like to be as average as him. Though one person's 'eh okay' is another person's 'bit of alright' You also got to consider, even if someone is a 8 or 9, they might not be that to everyone, or even that attractive to some people. Certain people like certain things. You might be great looking to someone, and only meh at best to someone else. I know I am that way when it comes to women on my looks, very hot and cold. I think it's actually a good thing, sure a lot of women aren't into me, but it seems like the ones who are, really are.
MrCastle Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 You have no way of knowing how they met Ha, true. But I think all men, no matter who they are or what they look like will always have better chances in person. Always.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 You also got to consider, even if someone is a 8 or 9, they might not be that to everyone, or even that attractive to some people. Certain people like certain things. You might be great looking to someone, and only meh at best to someone else. I know I am that way when it comes to women on my looks, very hot and cold. I think it's actually a good thing, sure a lot of women aren't into me, but it seems like the ones who are, really are. Yeah....It's the same with me. Seems like I am REALLY some man's type and others consider me meh...
mesmerized Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Well you heard it here first boys myth disproved. A guy who got 1 date online was able to get many others. Here's the thing the very fact that he was able to get a date with you, made it likely he was able to get a date with others. Also OLD sucks for men and that ain't no myth. This guy going on all these dates and now "friends" with a girl he tried to date probably is wasting a lot of time and money on just meeting people when if he asks girls out he meets offline he skips that step. Voila myth proved dating online sux for guys It sucks for women too...I've never met a quality guy from online. Bunch of flakes or players or losers. Tons of "hey sexy" messages from guys who have their cars pictures instead of their own. Maybe paid sites are better, the free sites are garbage.
suladas Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 It sucks for women too...I've never met a quality guy from online. Bunch of flakes or players or losers. Tons of "hey sexy" messages from guys who have their cars pictures instead of their own. Maybe paid sites are better, the free sites are garbage. Isn't a picture of their car a red flag anyway? I'm on eharmony and it's actually pretty good. Plus the way I see it, if you're willing to pay for it, you're a lot more serious. Plus their guided communication makes it a lot easier to start talking to someone and you invest very little time if they don't respond so it's not a big deal.
MrCastle Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Tons of "hey sexy" messages from guys who have their cars pictures instead of their own Maybe he's a transformer. You just turned down Optimus Prime; look at you. *I can't take credit for the transformers joke, I saw it used in a meme somewhere*
mesmerized Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Isn't a picture of their car a red flag anyway? I'm on eharmony and it's actually pretty good. Plus the way I see it, if you're willing to pay for it, you're a lot more serious. Plus their guided communication makes it a lot easier to start talking to someone and you invest very little time if they don't respond so it's not a big deal. Maybe I try a paid site one day. Free ones are worth nothing.
suladas Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Maybe I try a pay site one day. Free ones are worth nothing. Eharmony is $20/month so it's not to bad. Get an average of 4 matches a day, and my location radius is only like 20 miles. Not sure on the quality of most guys on there(except for me i'm awesome ) but from what i've heard there's more women on there then men. 1
ascendotum Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 I know I am that way when it comes to women on my looks, very hot and cold. I think it's actually a good thing, sure a lot of women aren't into me, but it seems like the ones who are, really are. I guess you have a bit of a distinctive look. I know of a few people like this. That's not a such a bad characteristic to have, assuming it does not take a month of sundays to find these special ones that are gaga over you and you find them similarly enchanting.
mesmerized Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Eharmony is $20/month so it's not to bad. Get an average of 4 matches a day, and my location radius is only like 20 miles. Not sure on the quality of most guys on there(except for me i'm awesome ) but from what i've heard there's more women on there then men. Yeah eharmony is full of desperate women who want a husband and nigerian scammers preying on them lol. I won't use eharmony maybe match. 2
suladas Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Yeah eharmony is full of desperate women who want a husband and nigerian scammers preying on them lol. I won't use eharmony maybe match. I was between it and match, didn't see much difference between the two really.
suladas Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 I guess you have a bit of a distinctive look. I know of a few people like this. That's not a such a bad characteristic to have, assuming it does not take a month of sundays to find these special ones that are gaga over you and you find them similarly enchanting. Ya being a 6'6" ginger, it's not every girls fancy, and because of my size a lot of people say I look intimidating until you get to know me then i'm a big teddy bear. I'm not complaining though. I'll take it over being a completely average guy, standing out isn't always bad. Don't know but my history has been attracting hot blondes mostly blue eyes, can't say i'm complaining! Always short girls to, which is what I like.
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