charlietheginger Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 I know studies show black women have the hardest time online dating but I think all women within a healthy body weight, no matter the ethnicity would have more success than someone overweight. Becuase the black guys are after white women.. Common complaint i hear from black women...
SmileFace Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Becuase the black guys are after white women.. Common complaint i hear from black women... ZOMG....why the hell did I mention race. Just FYI I can care less what you think black guys are after. 1
SmileFace Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 As for the race, I can't comment. There are no black people in my city and very few in Australia. Haha, I meet this girl from Aussie on an internship, granted she was Asian, and she took pictures of my friend because she wanted to say she had a black friend.
mesmerized Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 OP, guys I know are the same. 40 girls in 6 months is a bit too much. But the average looking dudes I know there have at least slept with 3 or 4 girls from dude. It's only in loveshack's land that men get nothing. 2
mesmerized Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 However my response may be skrewed when it comes to OLD. Don't mean to play the race card but there are levels.. -Attractive White Female - Fat White Female -Other Race Female -Obese White females -Attractive Black females -Obese other females -Obese Black females I can count the amount of guys who are not white that use OLD in my area on my two hands. So yeah, it is pretty ****ed. Half the messages I get are "Can I put some cream in the coffee" variation. However when I did OLD in NYC I had no problem. My area sucks balls. hmmm, you got this wrong. Attractive females of any race come before fat and obese females of any race. 1
MrCastle Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 I am technically overweight by bmi scales but wear a size 8. I don't know if you seen my pictures but I really don't think I should have that hard of a time in regards to size. I really think it is my area since even when I was bigger I had much more success OLD in NYC. Well in my area specifically, just outside NYC it's pretty clear what my issue is (race). I don't whine about it, the bulk of women where I live could pass as jersey shore castmates. They stick with their own, date guidos. I don't fit that. Overall I'd be lying if I said my height didn't have something to do with it either. Being an english turned journalism major, my writing is top notch. It's not the profile. It's not my pictures because I look the same in person and have never had a problem getting dates. OLD is not set up for all people to succeed. I don't mope about it, I acknowledgd it and move on with my life. That's why I'm very inactive when it comes to it. Outside of actually having a profile I really don't do much.
SmileFace Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 hmmm, you got this wrong. Attractive females of any race come before fat and obese females of any race. Short guys run around here all the time saying that tall poor guys get more ass.lol My post was mostly tongue in cheek and only based on my area and experiance. I have seen it be different in other areas and even different on other sites than OKC in my area. I was not saying that this is the norm - or it is even true but just how I see it.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 OP, guys I know are the same. 40 girls in 6 months is a bit too much. But the average looking dudes I know there have at least slept with 3 or 4 girls from dude. It's only in loveshack's land that men get nothing. That guy does have a sexy vibe around him, it comes across even online.
carhill Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 The vast majority of dates I went on since the beginning of internet dating back in the early 90's have been through that portal. No complaints here. The operative win from OLD is that every dating opportunity was a distance opportunity, at least 30 miles away, supporting my long-standing assertion that few to no single ladies existed in the nearby area. So, from my perspective, myth. I got plenty of dates, and would today, should I choose to pursue such activities.
mesmerized Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 (edited) umm, I just made a profile of an average looking brown guy and sent out 100 messages to any girl that was online. 0 numbers. Yes he was college educated, not short, nothing really wrong with him. You literally have to online date as if it's your job if you want to be 'successful' as an average guy. I'm rather shocked that don't realize how easy you have it. You probably get dozens of messages/day simply because you have 2 X chromosomes. I took his photo from another profile Yeah and we all believe you that in 20 minutes that this thread was posted you made a profile sent messages to a 100 girls. Edited November 12, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator removed url to photo 1
SmileFace Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Well in my area specifically, just outside NYC it's pretty clear what my issue is (race). I don't whine about it, the bulk of women where I live could pass as jersey shore castmates. They stick with their own, date guidos. I don't fit that. Overall I'd be lying if I said my height didn't have something to do with it either. Being an english turned journalism major, my writing is top notch. It's not the profile. It's not my pictures because I look the same in person and have never had a problem getting dates. OLD is not set up for all people to succeed. I don't mope about it, I acknowledgd it and move on with my life. That's why I'm very inactive when it comes to it. Outside of actually having a profile I really don't do much. Oh goodness. I am not bitching about it - I truthfully don't care. I like my area and plan to stay but I will no longer and haven't in over 8 months utilized OLD. I have other ways and means of meeting guys - if something doesn't work you move on. I am not complaining.
ThaWholigan Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 hmmm, you got this wrong. Attractive females of any race come before fat and obese females of any race. The mixed raced girls seem to be the most popular on POF in my experience. Greeks and models of any race a close tied second. Black girls do alright, but any time I go to message them, it usually says they only like white guys in their profile .
ThaWholigan Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 (edited) umm, I just made a profile of an average looking brown guy and sent out 100 messages to any girl that was online. 0 numbers. Yes he was college educated, not short, nothing really wrong with him. You literally have to online date as if it's your job if you want to be 'successful' as an average guy. I'm rather shocked that don't realize how easy you have it. You probably get dozens of messages/day simply because you have 2 X chromosomes. I took his photo from another profile I bet the real guy's profile actually got some tail. Dude, I ended up in an FWB scenario off of OKCupid with a cute girl and I wasn't even the one who initiated. It's not terribly difficult. Edited November 12, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator removed url to photo
mesmerized Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 The mixed raced girls seem to be the most popular on POF in my experience. Greeks and models of any race a close tied second. Black girls do alright, but any time I go to message them, it usually says they only like white guys in their profile . Mixed race people are the most gorgeous of all. 2
MrCastle Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Oh goodness. I am not bitching about it - I truthfully don't care. I like my area and plan to stay but I will no longer and haven't in over 8 months utilized OLD. I have other ways and means of meeting guys - if something doesn't work you move on. I am not complaining. I never said you were complaining...
mesmerized Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 I bet the real guy's profile actually got some tail. Dude, I ended up in an FWB scenario off of OKCupid with a cute girl and I wasn't even the one who initiated. It's not terribly difficult. He didn't do it.
SmileFace Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 I never said you were complaining... Sorry, I am working on no sleep.
ThaWholigan Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Mixed race people are the most gorgeous of all. I do tend to gravitate towards mixed raced girls, or girls who look that way. Often they have certain black features that I love. My mother sometimes says I like light-skinned/mixed girls too much, and prefers me to date black women. The irony of this? My mother's partially mixed .
mesmerized Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 I made the profile Yesterday. I hadn't made one in months. It was at the request of someone else(a brown guy) that I should make one. I've made plenty of average looking guy's profiles and it's always the same. Yeah Right.... And you did say you "just" made.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 You can't just make a profile and send "hey wassup" messages. I am reading profiles in detail and am looking for intelligence, emotional depth and some quirkiness. Lacking that, I would not respond to a guy that looked like a male model. 1
ThaWholigan Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Funny yet sad. It's funny because I know butters guys who do the same sh*t .
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 This is one of the messages I spammed(very very high response rate if the guy is good looking but useless if the guy isn't) "Hi, I have to be honest with you. There's a good chance I haven't read your profile and while I'm sure you're probably a very lovely person, I also don't want to waste time writing witty, thoughtful, and unique messages only to have them ignored in a sea of spam(yes, I'm aware that I'm contributing to the problem!). Can you give a regular guy like me a chance? :)" Woah. I would hit delete and wouldn't even click on the profile. The message screams "I have just msged 100 girls" and you sounds bitter.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 It was quite obvious to me that 90% of guys are just spamming messages when I made women's profiles. I figure it's better to be honest about it. Not at all. Pick a few girls and make a decent attempt at reading their profile and connecting in the first message. You will stand apart from a sea of spam like messages.
suladas Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 The only thing i've found about OLD is lack of girls that interest me. Plenty of good looking successful ones, but no ones that match me in interests except for a very select few. Trying to find a girl in early-mid 20's that profile doesn't include tons of traveling, or going out to clubs, etc is tough. I can see how it's not hard to get dates, i've had a few women initiate contact with me even, and I had 1 crappy picture and my profile is nothing great, and I would say i'm average looking the only advantage i've got is i'm tall but i'm also overweight a bit. Stopped after one date because I was so nervous going to it, and after that didn't want to keep doing it to badly. Learned that dinner is SUCH a bad idea for a first date from OLD. Starting again, we'll see how the dates come
MrCastle Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Not at all. Pick a few girls and make a decent attempt at reading their profile and connecting in the first message. You will stand apart from a sea of spam like messages. I've tried that. Doesn't work.
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