Eternal Sunshine Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 I am not sure if it's different in US, but here men that do OLD have tons of options. Cases in point: 1. I went on one date with a guy few weeks ago. He seemed interested but he bored me, so I rejected him with "no spark". He asked me to stay friends which I agreed to. He seems to be meeting up with 2-3 new girls a week from online sites. He actually adds them on Facebook and describes those meets to me in great detail so I don't think he is making it up. He is average looking, a bit chubby, no charisma, kind of smart, no sense of humor. Is college educated, owns property and has a good stable job. Still, he doesn't really stand out in any way. 2. My ex has had tons of dates since he joined. He is also nothing special. 3. My FWB told me that he met up with FORTY girls in the 6 months period. OK, he is quite sexy but he is short and losing hair so again, not exactly super hot. 4. Pretty much any guy I meet is multi-dating and has tons of options. -------------- I do live in a major city but STILL. Guys on here that complain that they get NO dates from OLD in months...it makes me wonder what's up. That's certainly not the norm by any stretch. 4
kaylan Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 In b4 the raptors come to tell OP "thats a lie, average guys really dont get date. You obviously are dating men who arent average joes...you dont know what our lives are like...etc" 4
ThaWholigan Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Even I have had dates from OLD at points, the most significant everybody knows about. I get messages at least a couple of times a week, and more at certain points. I actually joked on my headline that it's because I'm tall and I received less messages after that. I actually use it to advertise my business now, I'm waiting for the first girl to message me that she needs piano lessons
charlietheginger Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 40 women in 6 months? Thats about 2 a week... Chances are he prob has a std by now
MrCastle Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 I don't get anything from OLD. I don't think I'm hideous, I'd say I'm attractive enough? I've been writing creatively since I was 15, and my profile is great. I may get a message from a girl I'm not interested in every few months or so. To be fair though, I don't do bulk messages where I'm just messaging 20 chicks a day. I'm not very active and the ones I do messages are most of the time under "replies very selectively". This lack of success is flat out stark compared to the success I have in real life. I've never been rejected in real life. I always get at least the number. They may flake on me or not respond to texts but I've never been given an excuse as to why they couldn't give me a number.
kaylan Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 ^You need to see some thread in bodybuilding.com. Good looking guys, especially ones with good bodies, have it EASY with online dating. Girls throw themselves at these guys. They dont have to see 100 messages. They can send ridiculous offensive crap too and have girls still eating out of their hand. Hell, Im an average dude, and I dont have to send 100 messages to get a date or reply. Sure it can be tough at times, buts its easier than you make it.
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 I've been on two dates in two and a half years being on Okcupid and POF. I think I'm just undateable though, so the OP isn't really talking about sub-people like me...
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 Well, they all make well above 50K a year. That's not the point, girls don't know that from their profiles. As for my FWB, I said he met up with 40, he claims to only have slept with 1. I am actually sure that he is not lying. He is brutally honest and I have never caught him in even a single white lie, ever.
ThaWholigan Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 To be fair though, I don't do bulk messages where I'm just messaging 20 chicks a day. I'm not very active and the ones I do messages are most of the time under "replies very selectively". I am the same. I'm picky online, I don't send out more than 2-3 initial messages in a week.
MrCastle Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 I am the same. I'm picky online, I don't send out more than 2-3 initial messages in a week. Yeah. My ego is not such that I can mail 100 women and be happy 10 replied. I'd be more focused on questioning, hating, and overall wishing bad happenings on the 90 who didn't. 1
El Brujo Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Meetup pretty much killed OLD in my neck of the woods. The exceptions are the fake hookers who still try and use CL as quickie bait. 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 My last reply to a message that I sent was April 20. I'm happy people do well on OLD, but it's not easy for everyone.
SmileFace Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 It is also a myth that girls get dates when OLD. I had times when I got only one actually date offer in a six month period. However guys who want to "hang out" and text me but never meet me galore! I have no luck with internet dating.
ThaWholigan Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Yeah. My ego is not such that I can mail 100 women and be happy 10 replied. I'd be more focused on questioning, hating, and overall wishing bad happenings on the 90 who didn't. . With me, I just forget I even messaged them 5 mins later. I could probably message 100 women in a couple days, no problem. But I would probably only be significantly attracted to about 10-20 of them.
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 It is also a myth that girls get dates when OLD. I had times when I got only one actually date offer in a six month period. However guys who want to "hang out" and text me but never meet me galore! I have no luck with internet dating. This I believe. But, I also believe that a vast number of women don't actually use OLD to date. They're just not interested in dating...
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 Yes SF, for some bizarre reason, it's also VASTLY overestimated how many messages women get. 1
MrCastle Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 . With me, I just forget I even messaged them 5 mins later. I could probably message 100 women in a couple days, no problem. But I would probably only be significantly attracted to about 10-20 of them. That's part of it as well. I have very specific tastes (physically and otherwise) and know what I like. My lack of success is extremely surprising given my real life success but I don't use OLD as my main source of dating. It's just a supplement to my real life interactions. My hope is there will be a woman who likes what she sees and messages me first. That has not been the case so far, but I keep my profile open in the hopes of.
Under The Radar Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 I don't think it's that hard to get dates. The difficult part, in my experience, is having that "spark" discussed by the OP.
SJC2008 Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Mabye the ratio is closer to even where hou live. OLD is not as taboo as it once was but it's still a little, well, taboo. So there are more men than women on most sites. Match is the closest to being balanced because it's a paid site but it's still about 60/40 men/women. Add the poor ratio to other factors discussed here and that makes OLD hard for most men in the US. Do a search for men and women with the same paramaters you would use for a man, ie: 26-32, no kids etc. and see what the ratio is and report back to us.
SmileFace Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 However my response may be skrewed when it comes to OLD. Don't mean to play the race card but there are levels.. -Attractive White Female - Fat White Female -Other Race Female -Obese White females -Attractive Black females -Obese other females -Obese Black females I can count the amount of guys who are not white that use OLD in my area on my two hands. So yeah, it is pretty ****ed. Half the messages I get are "Can I put some cream in the coffee" variation. However when I did OLD in NYC I had no problem. My area sucks balls.
MrCastle Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 However my response may be skrewed when it comes to OLD. Don't mean to play the race card but there are levels.. -Attractive White Female - Fat White Female -Other Race Female -Obese White females -Attractive Black females -Obese other females -Obese Black females I can count the amount of guys who are not white that use OLD in my area on my two hands. So yeah, it is pretty ****ed. Half the messages I get are "Can I put some cream in the coffee" variation. However when I did OLD in NYC I had no problem. My area sucks balls. I know studies show black women have the hardest time online dating but I think all women within a healthy body weight, no matter the ethnicity would have more success than someone overweight.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 I think small towns simply don't have the numbers to make OLD work for anyone.
Under The Radar Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 However my response may be skrewed when it comes to OLD. Don't mean to play the race card but there are levels.. -Attractive White Female - Fat White Female -Other Race Female -Obese White females -Attractive Black females -Obese other females -Obese Black females I can count the amount of guys who are not white that use OLD in my area on my two hands. So yeah, it is pretty ****ed. Half the messages I get are "Can I put some cream in the coffee" variation. However when I did OLD in NYC I had no problem. My area sucks balls. Would you accept "Non-Dairy Creamer"? I heard that some of these guys are lactose intolerant 1
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 As for the race, I can't comment. There are no black people in my city and very few in Australia.
SmileFace Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 I know studies show black women have the hardest time online dating but I think all women within a healthy body weight, no matter the ethnicity would have more success than someone overweight. I am technically overweight by bmi scales but wear a size 8. I don't know if you seen my pictures but I really don't think I should have that hard of a time in regards to size. I really think it is my area since even when I was bigger I had much more success OLD in NYC.
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