natwilliams Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 As a guy, I'm wondering is it really bad to mention to a girl in your social circle that you like another girl in the same social circle? It gets especially complicated when the female friend you're mentioning this to has or used to have a crush on you! OR when the female friend you're mentioning this to is moderately attractive, while the girl you are interested in is, by most accounts, very attractive. If I offend my female friend, there is little chance she will help me get the hot girl. At the same time, if the female friend is a romantic interest who has been acting distant, this could be used as a strategy, albeit a risky one, to "disarm" her and draw her in. P.S. I've experimented with this a bit already so I have some feedback from the real world, just wondering what others think.
MrCastle Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 I'm going to go out on a limb here and say talking to women about other women is a no no.
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 It's really cruel if you do it in front of the woman that had a crush on you. 1
carhill Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 What's the need to disclose? If you both like each other, it'll become obvious to others soon enough. Women can process their crushes just fine without kid gloves. Do what you do and focus on the woman whom you are interested in. Leave the rest to life. 1
CptObvious Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 It's really cruel if you do it in front of the woman that had a crush on you. Solution: Make sure the woman is well above your league to avoid any awkwardness
Taramere Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 As a guy, I'm wondering is it really bad to mention to a girl in your social circle that you like another girl in the same social circle? It gets especially complicated when the female friend you're mentioning this to has or used to have a crush on you! OR when the female friend you're mentioning this to is moderately attractive, while the girl you are interested in is, by most accounts, very attractive. If I offend my female friend, there is little chance she will help me get the hot girl. At the same time, if the female friend is a romantic interest who has been acting distant, this could be used as a strategy, albeit a risky one, to "disarm" her and draw her in. Oh no...I don't think you should use that as a strategy to try to get her. The moment you tell a woman that you fancy her friend, and recruit her as an aid to getting close to that friend, it's highly unlikely that you'll ever get together with that woman (the one you're recruiting as a matchmaker) at a later date. If you think that your female friend is cool and will put in a good word for you whether or not she would quite like you for herself, then by all means ask for her help...but only do it if you're certain you're not interested in her romantically. Playing games with female friendships in a bid to spark up interest is disrespectful to the women, to their friendship and is likely to get you talked about in a way that won't do you any good.
threebyfate Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Why would you deliberately manufacture a real life drama scenario? No wonder women say that some men are clueless. Because they are. 2
Taramere Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 (edited) Why would you deliberately manufacture a real life drama scenario? No wonder women say that some men are clueless. Because they are. I'm starting to wonder if the problem is that women don't call out these would be masters of manipulation on each occasion they these games in a bid to stir up jealousies, interest etc. Perhaps those call-outs are actually necessary to prove that women do actually know what they're trying to do...but those games are usually so transparent that it would feel silly and embarrassing. Like taking out a loudhaler and announcing "that grass over there. It's green, everybody!" Edited November 12, 2012 by Taramere 1
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